bjarven
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- Apr 17, 2024
I wanted to complain about a male whos been causing me stress
im gonna PL just a little.
So, some random man who lives in this neighbourhood, walked up to me some weeks ago and try to chat me up while i was taking out the trash. And i decided to be nice about it, and say "no, thank you, but you seem nice, i am sure youll find someone" and then i listen to him talk about how he feels "hopeless" ect for about 5 min.
About 4 days later he messages me says he found my number online, and asked if would like to take a walk. Im still nice, and say "no, do not contact me, i am in a relationship".
And after that he started messaging again, many times a week , just going "whats up?" so i blocked his number. Some time later after that he came knocking on my door!! So i pretended not to be at home and shut the lights off, and this happend about 2 or 3 more times when i was at home, and he even said loudly outside " i know you are home, i just want to ask something". Appearently he had also called my workplace and asked for me.
At this point i dont even know what his name is, so i looked it up, via his number, and i had my dad and my uncle call him basicly "threaten" him, and he whined to my dad about the things he whined to me about.
the thing is, I feel that i should just have been really mean when this person first walked up, which would have spared me this whole headache, but it felt wrong since it was a neighbour, but now i regret not just telling him to kys, and i should have know better because man.
I would like to know, how you all deal with rejecting men? Should you be extra mean and aggressive or be nice so that the male doesnt fly into a violent tantrum?
im gonna PL just a little.
So, some random man who lives in this neighbourhood, walked up to me some weeks ago and try to chat me up while i was taking out the trash. And i decided to be nice about it, and say "no, thank you, but you seem nice, i am sure youll find someone" and then i listen to him talk about how he feels "hopeless" ect for about 5 min.
About 4 days later he messages me says he found my number online, and asked if would like to take a walk. Im still nice, and say "no, do not contact me, i am in a relationship".
And after that he started messaging again, many times a week , just going "whats up?" so i blocked his number. Some time later after that he came knocking on my door!! So i pretended not to be at home and shut the lights off, and this happend about 2 or 3 more times when i was at home, and he even said loudly outside " i know you are home, i just want to ask something". Appearently he had also called my workplace and asked for me.
At this point i dont even know what his name is, so i looked it up, via his number, and i had my dad and my uncle call him basicly "threaten" him, and he whined to my dad about the things he whined to me about.
the thing is, I feel that i should just have been really mean when this person first walked up, which would have spared me this whole headache, but it felt wrong since it was a neighbour, but now i regret not just telling him to kys, and i should have know better because man.
I would like to know, how you all deal with rejecting men? Should you be extra mean and aggressive or be nice so that the male doesnt fly into a violent tantrum?