You're asking this question in a thread where there's an onslaught of retards spouting the same meme advice and not being able (or not wanting to) understand the reasons why that guy went postal. What exactly are you trying to achieve - getting trolled or people laughing at you?
How about you shouldn't do that here
Well the only advice I can give, as i'm socially sheltered as well is... keep your online friends close, try to make more(!) online friends and maybe you can find a lass that way. I know a dude who found his bird on discord (a gaming discord...). You could try online dating but be specific that you don't want one-night-stands. You are very much on your way tho! You have quite a lot going for you already. Def don't give up your male dominated hobbies, you need male company too. Sorry if I didn't help but uh, it's all I can say
I guess I am using the term friend zone more generally. That kind of emotional vampirism that some men consider “friendship” with a woman is not real friendship and any man that puts up with that beyond their naive teenage years is pathetic. What I mean is there are some men who will never be viewed as potential romantic partners by women, no matter how theoretically desirable the man becomes. Most incels would meet this description even if they managed to leave the incel mentality and improve themselves. Maybe if you give him a good job making lots of money he can land a low-grade gold digger, but if he has any self-respect at all he won’t be satisfied with that.
Buy a skateboard and go to your local skatepark, I'm not joking. Doing that was one of the best decisions I made during the pandemic. There's a ton of tutorials online on how to start but if you ask, someone at the park will always be willing to help. Skateboarders are the most relaxed, chill group I've ever met and I've made some friends just by going to my local park on a regular basis and starting that first conversation by asking about how to do a particular trick, asking about their boards etc. Online friends are not a replacement for real-life human interaction. If you don't have a skatepark near you at least start with an activity that involves getting outside of the house, even if it's an activity you have to do alone. e.g. go to the Zoo, local nature park, theme park etc.
Having women as friends is key for the simple reason that they will earnestly support you getting with someone. Its rare for a woman to be around a man who won't try to get down their pants so they greatly appreciate it and will hype you up which is key. It's basically commandeering the same instinct horse girls have. It's why the best relationship articles will teach you to earnestly befriend the women you interact with and remain selective.
Of all the stuff you could say, "someone has it worse" is even more stupid than "dress well, get jacked and talk to women". When NPCs tell mentally unwell people about how good they have it, it only furthers their inward drift into themselves (and progressively into their ass).
That is true for men who aren’t the ones I described. The ones who are won’t get matched up. The women know the man has no value as a romantic partner, so if the topic ever comes up they will just say they don’t have any single friends or just change the subject.
They would probably fall under this but it’s not just them. There are average-looking, able-bodied men with good jobs and enough social skills to have actual friendships with women who fit this description too. If I knew what the trait or combination of traits was that leads to this outcome I would describe it, but I don’t. It’s just an observation I have made.
I might partially disagree here. It is true that when you hear stories of more unfortunate people, it can create an effect were the mentally unwell dude thinks even less of himself because he feels guilty for having those privileges in the first place or envious that these people have more grit than him. On the other hand, hearing about less fortunate people can perhaps motivate or at least give an idea of how these people endure it.
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You're the only one who cares how much money you make.
There could be a number of things with that. A lot of guys for instance, don't actively pursue women they like and are rather passive towards getting in relationships. It could also be that the women they're friends with don't have a deep connection or otherwise don't really want to share the attention. It's typically been older women who wanted to baby me who would actively work towards pairing me off so I probably should have accounted for it.
Frankly, I'm hoping that someone above the meme advice has some actual advice. The real catalyst for the post was this thread reply:
It really resonated with me and the position I find myself in at current: objectively in an extremely good place, but subjectively feeling like shit anyway despite it.
