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I like all the "why does it feel so bad to know that my wife/husband is being fucked by someone else" posts.
Millions of years of evolution, dimwits.
 
ICametoLurk said:
The link name says it all
https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/comments/43ywlq/struggling_with_my_bf_and_his_bf_having_sex/
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"Well its morning in Sweden"
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If you roped somebody into a serious, comitted relationship, why on Earth would you ever deliberately chip away at that?

The various poly/open remorse stories over the years are amazing, because they had one good thing, and threw it away.
 
I genuinely despise the ones who try to justify polyamory with "Oh my non poly SO is okay with it."

No, I'd bet my last dollar that they're not but they're putting up with it so you're happy. The incredible selfishness in the subreddit is actually kind of jaw dropping.
 
It's amazing how these people torture themselves emotionally and act smug about it as if the hurting inside is just a stupid minor issue.

At least cucks are honest about what they do and wow I never thought I'd use cucks as a positive example for anything.
 
I think we had a similar thread on poly people, albeit in the tumblr board. Despite these people trying so eagerly to convince the world that they are in fulfilling and strong relationships even more so than mono people, I find it beautiful how a majority of poly people complain about jealousy and cheating, as well as disapproving of a partner's FWB. Oh, and most of their posts revolve around sex with their various flings, but they totally aren't swingers!

This topic reminds me of a Futurama movie that I feel did a wonderful job at depicting typical polyamory relationships whilst mocking them. It does an even better job with explaining the jealousy felt by many proud poly people; I advise anyone interested to check it out regardless you have background knowledge of Futurama or not because of how well it was able to summarize relationship psychology (it's somewhere on the web for free).
 
Cake Farts said:
I think we had a similar thread on poly people, albeit in the tumblr board. Despite these people trying so eagerly to convince the world that they are in fulfilling and strong relationships even more so than mono people, I find it beautiful how a majority of poly people complain about jealousy and cheating, as well as disapproving of a partner's FWB. Oh, and most of their posts revolve around sex with their various flings, but they totally aren't swingers!
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I feel like they're the kind of people who measure their worth as human beings by how many matches they have on Tinder.
 
Scratch This Nut said:
Don't date the friend. Is that so fucking hard?
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That sums up a good portion of the drama you see in polyamory groups.

You'd think that with all the talk of "people have an infinite capacity to love" they'd occasionally stop and wonder why in world with 7 billion people (or in this case a country with 300 million because almost all of these people are American) they often end up with people who already has some connection to their immediate circle of acquaintances, or why its often one of the few people their partner would object to that ends up being someone you just have to fuck.

ICametoLurk said:
Link: https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/..._love_with_a_rapist_and_my_partner_is_a_rape/
Archive: http://archive.is/Y2ws9
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From that same thread:

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The funny thing is i bet most of the people in that thread most adamantly opposed to her having anything to do with the guy probably agree with this post. Which begs the question ..... why is this even a big deal if this is so common ?

I mean by that logic if a guy who says he raped 2 women in his youth is qualified to give this woman advice than surely the guy she's talking about can't be that bad, right ?
 
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why its often one of the few people their partner would object to that ends up being someone you just have to fuck.
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That one is at least kind of understandable, it's a forbidden fruit. You tell people not to do something enough times and they will do it anyway. It's how we got Trump elected.
 
The idea that people in polyamorous relationships get upset or surprised when they have a partner cheat on them just...I'm having a hard time wrapping my head around that. Wouldn't you expect someone who dates multiple people to fuck around? What type of people do you think this lifestyle attracts?
I don't see most of these individuals having the kind of maturity that makes the basis of a good relationship. I've known people in poly relationships and some of them were decent enough folks--it just seemed like they were always looking for the next hot person to fuck, and that is a strange priority to have when you are raising a family.

Also it's awful that these people are having perfectly normal feelings of abandonment and jealousy and lonliness, but instead of realizing those are perfectly normal reactions to your SO having sex with someone else, they're trying to push past these emotions to accept a lifestyle that is clearly not for them. What I've seen here in these posts show that a lot of these poly relationships seem very one sided. It's fascinating, really.
 
CabbageMan said:
I'm really glad I'm not the only monogamous person out there. I've been in a relationship where the other party tried to force me into an open arrangement so they could sleep around. I've carried a bit of that guilt with me for a while, being told I was selfish for wanting monogamy.

I also recently had to cut contact with someone I was friends with because he admitted he forced his asexual partner (whom he does not love - his own words) into an open relationship.

I really felt like I was in bizarro world. Thanks KF for letting me know at least part of me isn't fucked up. :drink:
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You shouldn't feel any guilt, you did nothing wrong. I've experienced similar things and I figured out that all this "polyamory" is is a fantasy that doesn't usually work in reality. Too much drama, and it's fervent proponents tend to be people who are bigoted themselves against other peoples preferences.

Having one and only one dedicated partner is a blessing.
 
Gunslinger said:
The idea that people in polyamorous relationships get upset or surprised when they have a partner cheat on them just...I'm having a hard time wrapping my head around that. Wouldn't you expect someone who dates multiple people to fuck around? What type of people do you think this lifestyle attracts?
I don't see most of these individuals having the kind of maturity that makes the basis of a good relationship. I've known people in poly relationships and some of them were decent enough folks--it just seemed like they were always looking for the next hot person to fuck, and that is a strange priority to have when you are raising a family.

Also it's awful that these people are having perfectly normal feelings of abandonment and jealousy and lonliness, but instead of realizing those are perfectly normal reactions to your SO having sex with someone else, they're trying to push past these emotions to accept a lifestyle that is clearly not for them. What I've seen here in these posts show that a lot of these poly relationships seem very one sided. It's fascinating, really.
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The big problem with poly relationships is that a lot of people don't have the emotional detachment/fortitude to deal with their SO having sex with someone who isn't them. It takes a lot of communication an establishment of boundaries to get these kind of relationships right, and frankly even normal couples don't have that level of communication.

The *one* successful poly pairing I've seen, the third person would usually last around 6-7 months at the very most before flying off. The other two "non traditional relationships" ive encountered were basically just three-way exclusive relationships. And all three of these examples were exclusively gay males and all three were brutally honest with eachother and others.

I'm not against polyamory, but I don't recommend anyone try it out since it tests a lot of emotional burdens and commitment issues that may be already existing. It's basically jumping on a rickety bridge.
 
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