r/polyamory

[NoReturn]

The first video if it's real gives off some serious bigamist vibes. The second definitely feels like two older perverts tricked some younger, dumber whore into fucking them. What's more interesting in my opinion about the two videos is that the people in them are not 2/10 danger hair schlubs and is it a coincidence that they're both MFF?

Speaking of:

 

[Free the Pedos]

but swinging/poly is always someones fault.

I think it's been said here before, but I'll reiterate that swinging and poly are really separate things. Polyamorous people get really snippy if you accuse them of swinging because you're not giving their maaaany beeaaautiful looving relationships the seriousness they deserve. Swingers are generally older, from what I've seen, and just want to fuck other people. They keep it compartmentalized away from the rest of their lives and don't pretend to or actually want real relationships.

 

[Chapper]

Propaganda for further societal decay. All that has happened before is happening again. Pushed by certain bad actors.

Gay marriage opponents in the 2000s were mocked for predicting a slippery slope into Sodom, but how do you look around not 20 years later at the mass troonery, polyfags running amok, illegitimacy rates through the roof etc. and not say that they pretty much nailed it.

 

[DumbDude42]

I think it's been said here before, but I'll reiterate that swinging and poly are really separate things. Polyamorous people get really snippy if you accuse them of swinging because you're not giving their maaaany beeaaautiful looving relationships the seriousness they deserve. Swingers are generally older, from what I've seen, and just want to fuck other people. They keep it compartmentalized away from the rest of their lives and don't pretend to or actually want real relationships.

still gonna fuck up your kids either way when it comes out
i guess swinging is easier to hide from them though

 

[Antichamber]

Gay marriage opponents in the 2000s were mocked for predicting a slippery slope into Sodom, but how do you look around not 20 years later at the mass troonery, polyfags running amok, illegitimacy rates through the roof etc. and not say that they pretty much nailed it.

The slippery slope was already well known before gay marriage became an issue. Gay culture was mainstream in the 80s with the HIV issue and opposition got mocked then too. The cultural cycle used to be 30 years when children became adults with influence pushing the latest issue. As society sped up and social media took over now the cycle is closer to 5 or 10.

 

[Medicinal Molduga]

Polyamory has nothing to do with gay rights. Condoned/tolerated 'cheating' or polygamy (the two main versions of what we currently call 'polyamory') have always existed and have always revolved around the same thing: power games between spouses.

One spouse usually has more power to fuck around than the other. And this is made possible either by law (e.g. by prostitution being legal, or through ancient laws that punished adulterous women in harsher ways than adulterous men), or by social consent (e.g. the man or the son of the house raping the maid was acceptable until very recently, and everyone involved knew to keep quiet), or due to internal dynamics of the relationship (e.g. dude is desperately in love with his girlfriend and will accept her suggestion they start fucking around for fear of losing her). In the olden days mostly only men were allowed to play. Nowadays women play too. That's it. It's the same shit as always, and it has always been acceptable to some degree, with varying circumstances in different places and eras.

And it's way older than gay rights. Plenty of gays but especially most lesbians prefer monogamy and blending in, because they are actually normal people, and not idiots suffering from arrested development who need constant attention and drama with their 'polycules'. Even notoriously promiscuous gay men very often settle down later in life, because their terrible partying and fucking around habits eventually catch up with them and they crave stability too.

 

[NoReturn]

I'm not going to post every update of that dumb comic from earlier, but I figured you guys might get a kick out of this discussion in the comments.

 

[Tom Nook's Gloryhole]

A rare moment of non-reddit cringe

Comments locked almost instantly once everyone dogpiled on her for being so disrespectful.

Of course they look like THAT

 

[LinkinParkxNaruto[AMV]]

Not to sound dramatic but seeing this huge influx of polyamory media really worries me. I was hanging out with my younger cousin and she was watching tiktok, and one of the clips she watched had 4 teenagers boasting about their polyamory relationship. The clip made it seem like it was totally normal, and it had over 100K+ hearts and so many comments gushing about how adorable it was. These teenagers couldn't have been older than 15 either.

I don't want to know what the ramifications will be of kids being taught this shit from a young a

Is the kind of stuff that screams Think Tank. There's absolutely a deliberate push to sell the idea and making it seem like is all spontaneous and a big movement everyone is into already, as in trying to create a social contagion. You don't see a curve, is a sudden spike of interest and talking about it, exactly like with troonism.

 

[Country Matters]

The slippery slope was already well known before gay marriage became an issue. Gay culture was mainstream in the 80s with the HIV issue and opposition got mocked then too. The cultural cycle used to be 30 years when children became adults with influence pushing the latest issue. As society sped up and social media took over now the cycle is closer to 5 or 10.

here's the thing: we can latch onto any easy idea like: if we rejected the PROGRESSIVE GAYS WHO WANT TO HARM TRADITION AND SOCIETY then we can erase any decay of society!

and that is simply not how it works. it would be nice to have an easy idea of moral perfection we could all ascribe to so that we don't have to figure out for ourselves what's right and what's wrong

and every single time that notion will fail because of a simple fact of existence: its rarely ideology itself, but rather the cowardice of individuals that congeals into a mass of a failed movement.

there are gay people (such as myself) who value and honor tradition in their own way: the idea of me having to attracted to men to be a moral person is simply retarded. so instead i focus on treating people, as individuals, right.

the issue with the people in this thread, in my opinion, isnt that that they wanna fuck more than one person, its that that refuse to take actual accountability for that. yeah, you wanna fuck more than your boyfriend? then go for it. dont gaslight him for months on end to convince him thats what he wants - if the two of you want different things then you should split up.

trying to assign this to a sexuality thing, rather than an individual who refuses to take accountability for their own situations and actions, is lazy. it would be easy if moral decay could be assigned to any one group, but its an individual responsibility each one of us carries to try not to be a fucking degenerate

 

[Retired Junta Member]

. Condoned/tolerated 'cheating' or polygamy (the two main versions of what we currently call 'polyamory') have always existed and have always revolved around the same thing: power games between spouses.

Yes and no. Open marriages have been a thing since forever but it was usually a strictly private business between spouses and the general public was more aware of the associated risks (people aren’t jealous until they are and react accordingly).

Modern polygamy is a strictly public business between the “partners” and the surrounding community. And it’s almost never the emotional aspect that is made public, but the erotic one.

There’s an added political emphasis that cannot be ignored.

 

[Hellbound Hellhound]

I think it's been said here before, but I'll reiterate that swinging and poly are really separate things.

still gonna fuck up your kids either way when it comes out
i guess swinging is easier to hide from them though

There's a big difference between swinging and polyamory in my opinion. In my experience, swingers tend to be fairly ordinary couples who simply like to spice up their sex lives with the occasional threesome or orgy. As long as both partners are into it, I've never been under the impression that it had any negative impact on their relationship or home life, since for them, it was purely about enjoying the sexual experience in the moment.

What makes polyamory different is that it alters the relationship dynamic entirely, and as a consequence, potentially invites all manner of dysfunction into the lives of everyone involved.

 

[LinkinParkxNaruto[AMV]]

What makes polyamory different is that it alters the relationship dynamic entirely, and as a consequence, potentially invites all manner of dysfunction into the lives of everyone involved.

I've had friends who in their late teens or early adulthood found out about their parents "arrangements", like finding out they had each seen other people or that one had looked the other way and allowed the other to cheat. It fucked them up every time, is like a part of their sense of structure and trust dying and even affected their own personal relationships, despite being around 18 and these being parents who actually tried to keep their selfish coomerism in secret as everyone in that sort of arrangements should do.

These poly couples instead go out of their way to involve their children, their relatives, their friends, is sickening, extremely selfish and self centered to do that only to satisfy your groin. I actually believe exhibitionism and humilliating your loved ones is part of it, same with lots of agps "coming outs" so i have nothing but contempt for parents who do this. At least some hedonists are self aware and do have the courtesy of choosing not to have children instead of wanting to mix both lifestyles and clapping to themselves for being brave and stunning.

 

[Medicinal Molduga]

I've had friends who in their late teens or early adulthood found out about their parents "arrangements", like finding out they had each seen other people or that one had looked the other way and allowed the other to cheat. It fucked them up every time, is like a part of their sense of structure and trust dying and even affected their own personal relationships, despite being around 18 and these being parents who actually tried to keep their selfish coomerism in secret as everyone in that sort of arrangements should do.

These poly couples instead go out of their way to involve their children, their relatives, their friends, is sickening, extremely selfish and self centered to do that only to satisfy your groin. I actually believe exhibitionism and humilliating your loved ones is part of it, same with lots of agps "coming outs" so i have nothing but contempt for parents who do this. At least some hedonists are self aware and do have the courtesy of choosing not to have children instead of wanting to mix both lifestyles and clapping to themselves for being brave and stunning.

Hope this isn't too much of a power-level, but relevant story:

Years ago I used to hang in a friendship group that overlapped with some polyamorous groups, which means I attended some 'normal' (i.e. not for hooking up) parties that some polyamorous people attended too. They usually have extensive social lives because they are constantly on the lookout for new victims people to recruit into their insane ways.

Once, at one of these normie gatherings there was this divorced, polyamorous forty-something guy who brought along one of his girlfriends and also his teen daughter. She was the only child in attendance and definitely old enough to stay home by herself, which to me screams he brought her along because it was his weekend with her and knew he shouldn't leave her at home. Or maybe he wanted to play the 'cool dad' with her . He then proceeded to spend the whole party flirting and taking uncomfortably close up portraits of women much younger than himself and his own girlfriend, and also ignoring his own daughter (to whom people were very nice because everyone felt sorry for her). It was such an obviously inappropriate situation that people talked about it for a long time afterwards.

I remember the daughter seemed so serious and detached, acting older than her age and like everything was normal and cool, obviously coping with her weird life as best she could. She must have already been so, so screwed up.

Also, during the party the girlfriend was unnaturally cheery and acting all 'everything is fine' when it obviously was not. She was also terminally on Twitter, clearly very insecure, and ended up breaking up with this guy some months later.

Anyway. There are other cases I know in which polyamorous people go to normie parties to creepily try and get laid while their spouse stays back home with the kids, which to me is also fucked up, but at least they seemingly keep things separate. Involving your children directly in your shenaningans is the worst of decisions and will destroy any healthy boundaries the children might have, which will have very damaging and lasting consequences for them. Not that these people would know, having zero boundaries and self-respect themselves.

 

[LinkinParkxNaruto[AMV]]

Hope this isn't too much of a power-level, but relevant story:

Years ago I used to hang in a friendship group that overlapped with some polyamorous groups, which means I attended some 'normal' (i.e. not for hooking up) parties that some polyamorous people attended too. They usually have extensive social lives because they are constantly on the lookout for new victims people to recruit into their insane ways.

Once, at one of these normie gatherings there was this divorced, polyamorous forty-something guy who brought along one of his girlfriends and also his teen daughter. She was the only child in attendance and definitely old enough to stay home by herself, which to me screams he brought her along because it was his weekend with her and knew he shouldn't leave her at home. Or maybe he wanted to play the 'cool dad' with her . He then proceeded to spend the whole party flirting and taking uncomfortably close up portraits of women much younger than himself and his own girlfriend, and also ignoring his own daughter (to whom people were very nice because everyone felt sorry for her). It was such an obviously inappropriate situation that people talked about it for a long time afterwards.

I remember the daughter seemed so serious and detached, acting older than her age and like everything was normal and cool, obviously coping with her weird life as best she could. She must have already been so, so screwed up.

Also, during the party the girlfriend was unnaturally cheery and acting all 'everything is fine' when it obviously was not. She was also terminally on Twitter, clearly very insecure, and ended up breaking up with this guy some months later.

Anyway. There are other cases I know in which polyamorous people go to normie parties to creepily try and get laid while their spouse stays back home with the kids, which to me is also fucked up, but at least they seemingly keep things separate. Involving your children directly in your shenaningans is the worst of decisions and will destroy any healthy boundaries the children might have, which will have very damaging and lasting consequences for them. Not that these people would know, having zero boundaries and self-respect themselves.

Wonder how that girl's relationships ended up looking as as an adult, that would affect anyone.
Hippies did stuff like that to a bunch of the kids they raised thinking it was the coolest thing and instead of indigo children it just created a bunch of fuck ups.

 

[mario if smoke weed]

Not to sound dramatic but seeing this huge influx of polyamory media really worries me. I was hanging out with my younger cousin and she was watching tiktok, and one of the clips she watched had 4 teenagers boasting about their polyamory relationship. The clip made it seem like it was totally normal, and it had over 100K+ hearts and so many comments gushing about how adorable it was. These teenagers couldn't have been older than 15 either.

I don't want to know what the ramifications will be of kids being taught this shit from a young age.

Get your cousin off of TikTok; it's a poorly-designed pool of filth. Even if you aren't close with them you'd do them a big service.

About the pro-polyamory mindset: I'd argue the young people who approve of this believe more people means more love and fewer restrictions and run with that idea. They don't understand why polyamory hasn't been a part of regular society and monogamy has. They don't understand the potential for people to get left out in a polygamy, the potential for jealousy and possessiveness, how awkward shit gets when complications arise in the relationship, and so forth. The way young people romanticize polyamory makes it hard for anyone to really say anything without getting called hateful and close-minded, similar to transgenderism and nonbinary genders.

Maybe it'll die off once more people get into polyamorous relationships and realize that it's far from simple like these TikToks make it out to be. Sadly it'd mean a bunch of dumb teens would get heartbroken but you have to crack some eggs to make a sensible omelet.

You could stop at five or six stores, or just one.

 

[Brain Problems]

Get your cousin off of TikTok; it's a poorly-designed pool of filth. Even if you aren't close with them you'd do them a big service.

About the pro-polyamory mindset: I'd argue the young people who approve of this believe more people means more love and fewer restrictions and run with that idea. They don't understand why polyamory hasn't been a part of regular society and monogamy has. They don't understand the potential for people to get left out in a polygamy, the potential for jealousy and possessiveness, how awkward shit gets when complications arise in the relationship, and so forth. The way young people romanticize polyamory makes it hard for anyone to really say anything without getting called hateful and close-minded, similar to transgenderism and nonbinary genders.

Maybe it'll die off once more people get into polyamorous relationships and realize that it's far from simple like these TikToks make it out to be. Sadly it'd mean a bunch of dumb teens would get heartbroken but you have to crack some eggs to make a sensible omelet.

You could stop at five or six stores, or just one.

The beauty of polyfaggery is that generally speaking it's a self-solving problem since I don't know a single example that isn't a rapdily teetering house of cards built on self-loathing, resentment, and insecurity. The bigger issues are the long-term damage it does on its way to dissolving, or on a more direct level, me having to hear my ugly married friends openly discussing the other ugly people they're fucking on the side.

I genuinely feel terrible for any children growing up in a house like this where the parents are laying their cards on the table that getting laid always trumps raising a safe and healthy family... until the jealousy overflows and one partner tries to put the genie back in the lamp.

 

[Country Matters]

I genuinely feel terrible for any children growing up in a house like this where the parents are laying their cards on the table that getting laid always trumps raising a safe and healthy family... until the jealousy overflows and one partner tries to put the genie back in the lamp.

really hoping (perhaps naively) that children who grow up with this shit are able to speak about it without getting drowned out by the woke crowd (at least online, i genuinely cant imagine them finding many people who wouldnt find it fucked up irl bc most of the hardcore poly cultists are terminally online dangerhairs)

i remember that one reddit thread that was like "my parents want me to participate in a documentary/study about how poly doenst hurt kids except it damaged me deeply" that was absolutely heartbreaking to read and i believe most of the comments were on his side. i genuinely cant imagine prioritizing getting some ugly strange over your own children, fucking unreal

 

[NoReturn]

"Help, reddit! I'm being pursued by the furies!"

 

[ChadBrazilian]

"Help, reddit! I'm being pursued by the furies!"
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This will end up badly.
Like... why even open up in the first place? You are in a happy marriage. You don't need to pursue every fantasy that you have in your head. I feel swinging for a threesome (still degenerate) would be a better route than this shit. This lifestyle only works if one of the sides has a hardcore cuck fetish.