After years of anxiety and counseling, of building up the courage, and then chickening out, I finally opened up to my wife about my kinkiness and polyamory. I never used the word polyamory a though. The moment she sensed what I was about to try to explain, she shut the conversation down. This all occurred in the office of our very nonjudgmental marriage and sex therapist... I knew my wife wouldn't react favorably, but I didn't expect to be called "greedy." Our marriage is in the best shape it's ever been. But I can't suppress these feelings any longer. I feel depressed and incomplete most of the time. My friendships are very intimate, but not physical. I've never had a FWB. I would never want to leave my wife. But I can't deal with this chronic lonely feeling that I still have in my chest...
I'd appreciate words from any monogamous individuals who have fallen into poly relationships. What helped you become accepting and comfortable with your arrangement?
