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[Tanner Glass]

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Her mind is trying to fight the indoctrination so hard

> I have an amazing relationship with my husband that has literally never been better.
> For some stupid reason my brain can't figure out how to want to see him less so he can have time for his side relationships.

 

[vertexwindi]

I'm so crazy for wanting my husband and not to share intimate physical and emotional closeness with other women. Haha hormones amirite?

 

[Tanner Glass]

I'm so crazy for wanting my husband and not to share intimate physical and emotional closeness with other women. Haha hormones amirite?

I'll just re-read those recommended books again, I'm sure I'll sort it out.

Edit - Oh this poor woman, lmao. She's actually been going through the recommended books for several months. Bless her heart. She articulates so well why it's a bad idea and just can't stop herself.

Fucking imagine your husband wants to fuck other women after being married for 10 years and he has you fill out exercises in a workbook like you're in grade school.

It’s been about 1.5 months since my spouse of ten years dropped the poly bomb on me.

I have been reading this subreddit and More Than Two

I have been making my way through The Jealousy Workbook and Nonviolent Communication

After going through some of the exercises in The Jealousy Workbook I have discovered that my jealousy mainly lies in insecurity

I am grateful that he has never cheated on me, and think it speaks volumes to the respect he has for me that we have been in a monogamous relationship this long without the betrayal of cheating.

((When asked "Why are you in couple's counciling?)) We originally went for our own sex life.

 

[Crunchy Leaf]

I wish there could be a cultural exchange between r/polyamory and r/relationships, so r/relationships could tell her to dump the motherfucker already.

Her first reddit post.

 

[AprilRains]

>My husband insists that "am I good enough" is the wrong question to ask, because in truth nobody is.

Wow. So close to a conventionally wise but reasonable answer, and then he goes all Dennis Reynolds in the last clause.

 

[Hollywood Hulk Hogan]

I wish there could be a cultural exchange between r/polyamory and r/relationships, so r/relationships could tell her to dump the motherfucker already.

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Her first reddit post.

She should also "come out" as poly, and then bang a different dude every night

 

[uncleShitHeel]

She should also "come out" as poly, and then bang a different dude every night

In front of him. Then get a divorce.

 

[SubtleInvitation]

I am grateful that he has never cheated on me, and think it speaks volumes to the respect he has for me that we have been in a monogamous relationship this long without the betrayal of cheating.

I am grateful that the restaurant I have lunch daily at has never poisoned me, and I think it speaks volumes to the respect the cooks have for me that I've been their customer this long without the betrayal of poisoning.

 

[Brain Problems]

I am grateful that the restaurant I have lunch daily at has never poisoned me, and I think it speaks volumes to the respect the cooks have for me that I've been their customer this long without the betrayal of poisoning.

Yeah but don't you get tired of having the same food over and over again? Isn't natural and right to go to a different restaurant whenever you feel like it, and establish a similar bond with the cooks there? Checkmate, monotheists.

 

[FierceBrosnan]

Yeah but don't you get tired of having the same food over and over again? Isn't natural and right to go to a different restaurant whenever you feel like it, and establish a similar bond with the cooks there? Checkmate, monotheists.

To quote Exodus 20:5 but with all instances of God replaced with cook/chef

You shall not bow down to them or worship them; for I, the CHEF your Cook, am a jealous Cook, punishing the children for the sin of the parents to the third and fourth generation of those who don't eat at my restaurant,

 

[Tanner Glass]

Yeah but don't you get tired of having the same food over and over again? Isn't natural and right to go to a different restaurant whenever you feel like it, and establish a similar bond with the cooks there? Checkmate, monotheists.

Going to different restaurants is fine, but it's different when you've been running one for ten years and are now trying to spring a shaky franchise agreement onto your business partner with no warning.

EDIT - "Please educate yourself by reading More Than One Location and The Franchisee Workbook".

 

[Brain Problems]

Going to different restaurants is fine, but it's different when you've been running one for ten years and are now trying to spring a shaky franchise agreement onto your business partner with no warning.

EDIT - "Please educate yourself by reading More Than One Location and The Franchisee Workbook".

I prefer The Ethical Glutton, thanks.

 

[Crunchy Leaf]

Putting the 'munch' in 'poly munch', hunh?

Reminds me of that Chris Rock skit.

Niggas always want credit for some shit they supposed to do. A nigga will brag about some shit a normal man just does. A nigga will say some shit like, "I take care of my kids." You're supposed to, you dumb motherfucker! What kind of ignorant shit is that? "I ain't never been to jail!" What do you want, a cookie?! You're not supposed to go to jail, you low-expectation-having motherfucker!

Your husband not cheating on you is about the lowest bar there is.
Also if someone said 'yeah, my husband's great, he doesn't hit me.' I'd be kinda wondering if, well, maybe he doesn't hit her, but he's doing something almost as bad.

 

[Tanner Glass]

Another satisfied customer.
https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/comments/aezagi/i_feel_violated/ (Archive)

After a long long slog of bad sex this week has been good between my husband and I. Then today I find it that immediately preceding each encounter he was graphically sexting with a new interest. I knew about her and was ok in general, but I now feel so dirty inside. I never would have consented to sex after a sext date with another woman. I feel like I was used to dump another woman’s load of cum in.
He swears he was only thinking of me but come on, telling one woman you’re going to go ice your groin and then 15 minutes later getting off in your wife? He would be absolutely livid if the tables were turned the other direction.
He didn’t violate any agreements and I have a new boundary very very clearly communicated that will prevent this from happening again, but in the mean time I feel horrible.
I guess it’s just one more thing to suck up and move on about.

Who would have thought that tampering with a relationship would make it less intimate and personal.

OP from the comments

I feel like a flesh light. I do expect better than that

Trust is definitely an issue. It’s the only reason I need the boundary. Not an issue with my other partner.

Also, saw a familiar face in the crowd.

I wish there could be a cultural exchange between r/polyamory and r/relationships, so r/relationships could tell her to dump the motherfucker already.

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She has a new post.

Came here to say that I am acknowledging the death of an emotional fantasy. A fantasy in which I am the love of my husband’s life and the only one he desires. There have been so many emotions that I have worked through already and I’ve finally made my way to really processing ‘loss of status as one and only’. Logically I understand that it has always been a fantasy but emotionally I want to bid it farewell. I was raised largely by grandparents who adored each other and truly were each other’s one and only and I always thought my relationship would look like theirs. While this fantasy is dead, I’m looking forward to exploring what else life has in store for us.

This sounds like someone being forcibly walked to a guillotine thinking "at least it's finally over" and not actually someone excited to start a new chapter in their life.

 

[Obviously Snape]

Damn, I just posted that one before I saw it at the end of your post. My favorite comment from that thread

https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/comments/aepbyu/death_of_a_fantasy/

You can still be the love of your husband's life, even if he is attracted to other people!

 

[Carrot Cake]

"My husband came out as poly

That's just a way of telling her he's been cheating, in a manner that makes him look like the victim. Trying to group being polyamorous with sexualities is one of the most retarded and manipulative things I've ever seen.

 

[Lydia of Whiterun]

"Emotional soul searching." She's being gaslit. No one "comes out" as poly. It's not a sexuality. They want to bone other people and found the right group and terminology to facilitate their desire. I'd be interested in seeing just how quickly her husband talks about a new partner because I wouldn't be surprised if he already has someone waiting in the wings.

 

[Tanner Glass]

"Emotional soul searching." She's being gaslit. No one "comes out" as poly. It's not a sexuality. They want to bone other people and found the right group and terminology to facilitate their desire. I'd be interested in seeing just how quickly her husband talks about a new partner because I wouldn't be surprised if he already has someone waiting in the wings.

She isn't being gaslit because that would assume that only the husband was in on it - however the's a full poly community that's backing up what he says (and books! don't forget those) and to say that they are all wrong would be un-#woke.

She's being emotionally blackmailed into joining a cult; with her husband holding himself hostage.

 

[BIG DADDY]

None of these people have any self-respect or security at all. If my significant other wanted to bring someone else into the relationship it would be over right away

 

[Silence of the Troons]

https://old.reddit.com/r/polyamory/comments/afy4k1/wife_has_double_standards_can_i_save_this_at_all/

https://old.reddit.com/r/polyamory/comments/afusst/this_morning_i_got_a_message_from_my_local_radio/