I think I’ve just figured out what “she/Her gay men” and “he/him lesbians” are supposed to even be
Stay with me now


I’m going to use a “she/her gay man” for the example here so I don’t need to go back and forth with two examples
So let’s say you are one of these tumblr girls
Ok here you are
A normal straight girl
But everyone is telling you that’s wrong
But you don’t want to be a trans man because you don’t want to be referred to as male you don’t like that who would want to be a man right???
So you decide “ok I’ll be non-binary.”
And you decide to use your original female pronouns because for you this is just a badge for pity points and not actually your identity
But oh shit, you’re still straight
You’re still attracted to boys.
So you dance around that by saying, because you identify as non binary, and just use she/her pronouns out of coincidence, that you aren’t straight at all.
You decide that “ gay man” means attracted to men while not being a woman
(Rather than, you know, what it actually means)
So that makes you a “she/her gay man”
(Reverse this logic for men and normal gay girls who go non-binary to get he/him lesbians)
I think this may also apply to pseudo soft trans bois who don’t want to be an icky straight but are attracted to girls and vice versa