The Asexual Visibility and Education Network

[Joan Nyan]

"I have a car, and sometimes I feel like driving my car, but I don't because of reasons".

I believe their explanation is that they have a biological desire for sex like most people but there's no one in the world who they would actually be interested in sex with. For instance most straight people wouldn't have sex with another person of the same gender no matter how horny they are because they're just not at all attracted to them. Basically the same thing except they're not attracted to anyone. I guess it's more like "I have a car, and sometimes feel like driving it, but there's nowhere I actually want to go."

I'm sure that out of the 100 billion+ people who have lived throughout history there's been a few people who felt that way, but of course feeling this way doesn't make you special or oppressed or interesting.

 

[Null]

asexuality doesn't exist and everyone i've ever met who said they were one had massive problems.

 

[Bork Laser]

Asexuals are like the vegans. Whenever you see one they always brag about how they dont like meat inside of them

 

[Holdek]

asexuality doesn't exist and everyone i've ever met who said they were one had massive problems.

They were just trying to let you down easy.

 

[nonnewtonian]

How can you make an AVEN topic and not talk about the site's weird obsession with pedophilia?

Spoiler: PVEN

I don't know if things have improved over the years, I don't pay much attention to AVEN these days.

 

[HickoryDickory]

This just makes them seem like ridiculously picky dickheads.

There's a correlation to be made between asexuality and autism. Make of that what you will.

But, it's not so much (For me, anyways) about being picky/snobby/uptight. If I was let to choose to have sex with anyone in the world, I would not be able to choose. The reason being that I do just not have those feelings, wants or desires, not because I was being picky. It's kind of like being a blank slate, if that makes any sense?

Spoiler: They forgot to include blood and mucus. =p

 

[Positron]

Many tumblrites would claim that asexuals can have a sex drive but just aren't attracted towards anyone.

I don't want to know what they direct their sex drive onto.

asexuality doesn't exist and everyone i've ever met who said they were one had massive problems.

Nah I think true asexuality exists, but a genuine asexual don't talk or think about sex at all, just like a non-paraglider don't talk or think about paragliding at all.

 

[A Random]

I know it's not wholly related, but I remembered reading about books written by asexuals starring asexual people.

Like this one.

Relevant excerpt thing:

The mysteriously titled SEX BROOD promises intelligently written asexual characters, challenging of gender norms and an intriguing crime mystery. (Now with added fandom participation!)

It takes self-insert tough and smart asexy private investigator Gabriel and asexy police psychologist John Watson into the poorly researched Dark And Mysterious Underworld of sex work, where their saintly asexy pureness is put to the test by the evil sexysexuals and their conniving ways.

Follow these amazing characters through what sounds like a bad sherlock suefic and into a whirlwind of overused crime tropes, pretentious prose and even the occasional racist cliché! (The phrase "I need a steak and a blowjob" is an actual line, delivered completely straight.)

Marvel at the the asexy character's moral superiority and saviour complexes! Watch as the author falls into traps a 12-year-old fanfic writer would avoid, but never fails to project their issues all over the place!! And all of this for $4, on your Kindle NOW!

 

[The Knife's Husbando]

Okay. Point here. If you're human, you have a sex drive. It's how humans make more humans.

It's one of our primal instincts we use for survival: Eat, kill/run, fuck, sleep. You can try to repress it as much as you like, but it'll still be there in the base of your mind.

 

[Trombonista]

There's a correlation to be made between asexuality and autism. Make of that what you will.

But, it's not so much (For me, anyways) about being picky/snobby/uptight. If I was let to choose to have sex with anyone in the world, I would not be able to choose. The reason being that I do just not have those feelings, wants or desires, not because I was being picky. It's kind of like being a blank slate, if that makes any sense?

Spoiler: They forgot to include blood and mucus. =p

See, that's what I'd imagine having sex while asexual would be like, so when I see those tumblr posts by so-called asexuals claiming to enjoy having sex, I get confused and occasionally frustrated.

 

[AnOminous]

And it's incredibly harmful. Many of them eventually go on to realize "hey, bumping my bits actually feels GOOD! and I'm not gonna die!" but by that point they're in too deep. That's where you get shit like demisexuality.

Yes, and by in too deep, that means into some bullshit identity politics associated with their imaginary sexuality that they came up with when confused. So they can't just admit they're really normal, or at least were really normal before they filled their head with tumblr bullshit. After that, they need a deprogramming or something.

 

[☻]

"I have a car, and sometimes feel like driving it, but there's nowhere I actually want to go."

I usually call people like that assholes. It's off topic and I won't go too in-depth, but it comes off to me as someone who can't enjoy the things around them. I don't think this quote really applies to the non-lolcow section of asexuals or the lolcow section. I think the non-lolcows primarily don't find it important, and the lolcows use that guise to attempt to justify being alone, a virgin, prey on people who are susceptible to that (pity sex), or take advantage in other ways. I don't really think asexuality actually exists in humans, which is why it's a stupid fucking name for it. It could only really exist from trauma or in association with a disorder, but I'm sure this post will look horribly cissexist or something.

 

[OldInternetMeme]

Okay. Point here. If you're human, you have a sex drive. It's how humans make more humans.

It's one of our primal instincts we use for survival: Eat, kill/run, fuck, sleep. You can try to repress it as much as you like, but it'll still be there in the base of your mind.

I'd have to agree with this. If asexuality is a thing, then I would imagine it'd be extremely rare. However, because we're biologically wired to want sex, it seems more likely to me that there are other explanations for so-called asexuality. Maybe there's a hormone problem? Maybe there's a problem with the person's reproductive organs? Maybe the person suffered some kind of trauma, like rape?

 

[The Knife's Husbando]

EFKS as I call it- Eat, Kill, Fuck, Sleep- are things that are hardwired right down in that reptile primal part of our brain.

You suppress "eat" and you end up bulimic or anorexic. Go without sleep for seventy two hours and you have a psychotic episode. Try to ignore your fight or flight hardwiring & you'll be dead in a mugging. Suppress your "fuck" instinct & you'll end up as one of these people, or a Catholic priest balls-deep in an altar boy.

Fucking with any of them is a recipe for disaster.

 

[CatParty]

http://diverse-mlp-headcanons.tumbl...d-pie-or-at-lest-my-human-interpretation-is-a

 

[The Knife's Husbando]

Well, truth be told, it's nice to see an interpretation of a MLP:FIM character that doesn't involve sex.

 

[Arctic]

The worst thing most asexuals will have to face is teasing. Workplace bullying at the very most. You're not going to be murdered for not wanting to have sex with anyone. You won't be informed that you're hellbound for it. There aren't anti-asexual rallies.
I think asexuality is real, but it's seriously hyped up for something that's rather inconsequential compared to, say, the LGBT spectrum.
I've read horror stories about corrective rapes while hawking Tumblr blogs, but you have to take Tumblr stories with a pinch of salt. If this is true, then that's obviously horrific and should be stamped out, but it must happen to a tiny, tiny percentage of the asexual population. I don't think a pride parade is needed...

I think you need a bit more salt.

So this movement is where that brilliant header quote comes from: "I'm asexual and my boyfriend is very supportive of my sexuality."

 

[Bugaboo]

I don't think asexuals generally get discriminated agaisnt so why do they need a movement? Most of the time when people say "I'm not interested in sex" people are like, fair enough.

 

[autisticdragonkin]

I don't want to know what they direct their sex drive onto.

Shipping and children

Why is @Holdek so salty in his ratings on this thread

 

[HickoryDickory]

I don't think asexuals generally get discriminated agaisnt so why do they need a movement? Most of the time when people say "I'm not interested in sex" people are like, fair enough.

There was a long powerlevel as to why, but I don't know if they deleted it themselves or a mod did. (It was no different than issues that anyone has/might have to face, imo)

To be on topic, here. An archived thread about some aces feeling physically sick or over-thinking dirty jokes.