I think I speak for lots of tomboys
At least this time i have the excuse that I'm a tomboy and thus should have a right to post in a tomboy thread.
You don't speak for anyone besides yourself. You're in your thirties, you're a dyke. You're not a tomboy.
The only thing that makes you mimic being a tomboy is that you're so autistic and autism is a male trait and makes someone act like the worst type of men. Not taking social cues or hints unless they're spelled out and even then being kinda oblivious about them.
But you're obviously a woman, because tomboys or men are usually not insufferable in the way that they make everything about themselves and soapboxing in a way like they're running for office or a neighborhood committee. Men may be insufferable, but they are in a different way when they are.
Tomboys instead are kinda like one of the guys. They can take a joke. They can act like a rank and file member and take a step back when people are being annoyed with them.
You're the other type of woman when it comes to male groups, the kind that infiltrates, that half the group loathes and wants to kick out but can't because the other half is blinded by the fact that it's a woman and their hormones do the thinking.
I married a tomboy.
Did I buy myself a lifelong bus pass ticket to fagtown
Much confused here ..
Nah, you're fine. Lgbtq just tries to ruin everything.
My impression of tomboys is that there's a distinct boyishness that nonetheless doesn't even mostly obscure their femininity, in contrast to dykes who are actively trying to snuff out said femininity as some means of compensation-- the only place they fail is in their still having their female machinery.
This is really accurate and insightful.
Tomboy shit seems fine, and maybe it actually works out long term for some guys out there to date 'em. Just..man, I'd highly advise against dating one that shares your favorite male-centric interests with you. You'll think it's cool at first until reality sets in. You're still dealing with a woman, tomboy or not, and she's gonna insist on invading what was once your happy place (regardless of doing it alone or with the guys). To her, sharing that interest means she's going to see any time spent on it as "together time" now. Congrats, you've lost your "you time" and now get to spend it with someone who will insist they can keep up with you (possibly even believing it) while almost certainly never being able to do so (ugly truth of life, ladies). It will ruin the relationship in a hurry or make you miserable for life.
I guess a greater lesson in general here is be fucking careful what interests you share with your significant other. You do not want to end up doing literally everything together.
Huh... so that's why I've always ended up avoiding women in that shared the same passions.
Though I've never personally had the problem of her wanting to invade my time in any way, because if it starts to bother me, I just don't let her. Maybe I protect my borders early and vigilantly enough?
I think it's hypothetically possible of doing a lot of stuff together, but I admit I haven't seen it in practice. I've dated one woman where we really did genuinely share the same taste in almost everything. The only issue is that it could get weirdly competitive from time to time.
What you describe sounds almost like someone who regrets turning their hobby into a job.
