She can call us haydurs all she wants - she IS looking more sickly every video & lately, coming across as emotionally flat. What she's not doing or saying lately may be telling. I don't think D & D were there last weekend nor do they appear to be there this weekend. If they were, I would expect she'd be 'on her best game'; makeup, chirpy upspeak & talking about what she'd been doing, what she was going to be doing. Possibly 1 or both have landed jobs & as new employees, are stuck with working nights and/or weekends? But yeah, the mattress in the living room - it's not Amber using it - it's not sporting a thick coat of pillows & I doubt it could support her weight. If D & D are there & spending the weekend, would it not be courteous to the boys to put the mattress in Amber's "den"? It's not like there's much else in there. No mention of Hallowe'en - of her costume, fun activities or anything; again not like her not to talk up an activity.