Weight loss support thread

As far as kicking sugar completely, how do you feel about fake sugars like sucralose?
I am familiar with cooking with stevia, I use sucralose for flavoring my water RE: Mio
It's just that I've been probably fearing the withdrawel symptoms. I think I jokingly said it was like having rabies the last time. I really just do feel like an addict.
The problem is when I leave work I can just go anywhere I want and buy anything I want. And I know I should be going straight home, but I don't. that's number one thing I gotta stop.
 
I am familiar with cooking with stevia, I use sucralose for flavoring my water RE: Mio
It's just that I've been probably fearing the withdrawel symptoms. I think I jokingly said it was like having rabies the last time. I really just do feel like an addict.
The problem is when I leave work I can just go anywhere I want and buy anything I want. And I know I should be going straight home, but I don't. that's number one thing I gotta stop.
Do you live with anybody? Shame is an easy way to keep yourself honest. If you have a wife/roommate/girlfriend/gimp in the basement/whatever that you can tell about your plan to quit, the idea of failing in front of them might be enough to help you stay on task. Additionally, if you meal prep/plan and start the week off having purchased/prepped the food you plan on eating, the idea of wasting money on that food might prevent you from stopping to buy a different option.

I've never quit sugar but I was once a heavy drinker and smoked two packs a day, quitting anything sucks. There's just no way around the fact that quitting anything will suck and be very difficult. Three things that helped me finally quit (after failing several times) were 1 removing myself from situations in which I would normally indulge. That's pretty hard with food, but if you know there's a particular place you stop for food where you're gonna get a large coke, just do not go there at all. If you have a certain friend who always has a two liter open, don't go to their house for a while. 2. Take it one moment and one day at a time. If you start thinking about the rest of your life, it feels impossible, but if you think about right now, it's much more manageable. Break the day into meals and each one where you eat right is a victory. It might seem unbearable in the long term, but sometimes you gotta break down the day into ten second segments. Ask yourself "can I go the next ten seconds like this?" And the answer is always yes, then do ten more. 3. Stay busy. The more downtime you have, the harder it is. If you're super busy and exhausted you may not have the energy or time to take any extra steps to indulge, and hopefully it'll take your mind off the cravings.
 
I live alone so that's not really an option. I think part of it is just not stopping on my way home so that's step number one. And having appropriate snacks like nuts around. I've got some coacoa dusted almonds I should eat, since they're relatively low carb they could help me get through the week.

I really gotta start rewarding myself again for the small victories, like this journal I was keeping to get my over those mental walls that make everything harder. Anxiety and such.
Get a sticker for it, it seems childish but it actually works.
 
I live alone so that's not really an option. I think part of it is just not stopping on my way home so that's step number one. And having appropriate snacks like nuts around. I've got some coacoa dusted almonds I should eat, since they're relatively low carb they could help me get through the week.

I really gotta start rewarding myself again for the small victories, like this journal I was keeping to get my over those mental walls that make everything harder. Anxiety and such.
Get a sticker for it, it seems childish but it actually works.
Im in the middle of the process too.

What I've found helps is b planning the day. So I write a page in my journal every morning, just stream of consciousness stuff but at the end I plan what I'm going to eat and since I'm in lockdown what I'm going to do for the day

Then at night I get to give myself a pat on the back that yep I made an omelette for breakfast and a healthy stir fry for dinner and got my planned chores done instead of sitting on the Xbox all day. Tick it off in the journal and give myself some gbp
 
I reach for carbs and chocolate when I'm anxious or not feeling good. Identifying what makes me go and eat has been instrumental in stopping myself. Also just choosing to get fruit instead of chocolate if I go shopping has helped A LOT. I love apples so I know I will enjoy it and not feel bad after.

You may also find success in starting with intermittent fasting. I started off with waiting to eat for 14 hours for a few days, then 16 for another few, and was up to 20 within 2 weeks. Fasting murders my appetite for shit food within 2 days. I just don't want it. Work up slowly and it may help a lot. I haven't done it lately and I should start again. Helps my sleep and energy levels like nothing else, dude.

Some good questions to ask yourself if you find you're impulsively eating:

Why am I wanting food right now?

Am I trying to bury an emotion by distracting my body from that uncomfortable memory or fear?

What happens if I don't eat and just write down what I'm feeling or draw instead?

Why don't I go for a walk or do a quick ten minute workout to express this feeling through my body?

How about I go and sit or lay down for a few minutes to process this before talking to a friend/my cat/my journal?

What if I let myself experience this uncomfortable emotion this time so I stop ignoring what needs to be felt?

Rewards are very important. I put away five to ten bucks a week in a spare account, and I use it to buy new fitness equipment, art supplies, clothes, bath/body stuff, or something else that makes me feel good about myself.

I also find setting incremental targets for my overall wellbeing is just as important as numbers and scales. If my mood is improving and I notice myself not reaching for shit food, I put 5 bucks in that account. If I make an effort to do a workout even though I'm not motivated in the first place and it's a pain my ass to even roll out my mat, that's another 5, and a nice coffee scrub in the shower after.

Fitness and eating is about loving you and your body. Showing up for yourself is the most important thing you'll ever do, because you need to train the voice in your head to motivate you, not DEmotivate you, through some plain old follow through. Seeking comfort from stress is normal but it becomes a problem when that avoidance of discomfort results in not being able to look after yourself. ALR is your bogeyman of what happens when you eat instead of dealing with your feelings.

My fave foods last me at least two days and I make them all at home. Fried rice, eggs benedict, satay chicken, soups, casseroles, stews, one pot meals, stir fry, apricot chicken, nachos, burritos, muesli w/ yoghurt and fruit, wraps, salads with tuna, rice risotto, smoothies... I just add lots of extra veges and fruit in to fill me up, lots of protein to help with building muscle, and whatever snacks I have are usually fruit or wholegrain crackers. Plan your meals out and shop online to avoid impulse buys, make food in advance to last you more than one meal which can go in the fridge or freezer, keep an apple or banana with you when you're out to eat that instead.

This was very long, sorry, I just really identify with where you're at and I want to reassure you that you are capable as fuck and you deserve this kind of self care. X
 
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My inner voice sometimes is less a voice and just a directive, like if my brain just clicked an action in the sims.
I fiind it very difficult to defy that. Not sure if it's the ADHD or addiction driving that. Probably the addiction.

I didn't exactly have the best rolemodels either for eating either, nor do I have any support from family. Mostly because my relationship with my mom, who does support me, but she does it by shaming me in multiple ways (not just the weight issue) so our relationship isn't that great. Like she bullied me about voting for Biden (Her canidate choice, and her way or the hightway) so its not like I can actually talk to her without getting a political lecture but that should tone down now.

My dad barely reaches out to me, my sister has her own neurotisism (A prepper) and she's busy as fuck.
So Covid, isolation, I'm fucked socially right now. It's fucking depressing. And I probably am just eating my feelings so even while I know I'm fucking doing horrible things to my body I haven't beenable to stop.

yes... Bananas. Apples, oranges, all preferable to doughnuts. I'm a strawberry fan myself.

Whats ALR?
 
Does anyone know of any NON INSANE body positivity groups? I'm struggling more with how i look now then I was last year. I still feel the same weight as last year. It's depressing.

Nov 17th 2019: 228

Nov 17th 2020: 142
can't help much there, but congratulations on the weight loss! definitely not the same weight lmao, hope you can change that mindset : )
Maybe you are struggling more with how you look now because you've hit a plateau with the weight loss?
 
Does anyone know of any NON INSANE body positivity groups? I'm struggling more with how i look now then I was last year. I still feel the same weight as last year. It's depressing.

Nov 17th 2019: 228

Nov 17th 2020: 142
I do not, unfortunately. I would try talking to friends/family/significant other/etc about it instead of seeking out a whole new group. Surely with a loss so significant people have noticed. No matter what, good job and keep up the great work, I'm sure you're doing great.
 
198 lbs! I'm finally sub-200, bitches!

My bike-riding and the anti-inflammatory meds my doc gave me helped my knee a TON, too, to the point where I don't need said meds anymore. Feels good! Gotta get back into the stretches from my physical therapy for my back, though: My hip's starting to act up again. I ain't tryin' to relapse when I'm feeling this good: I'm back to runnin' circles around the young'uns at work, heh heh.

I was stuck at 204 for...since my last post here, whenever that was. I'mma say two months ago. You know how winter/holiday season is: Everyone's getting sick or "sick", so tons of call-offs leading to working on your off days and overtime galore. I keep falling into the old habit of forgetting to eat, even with the app, because I'm too busy working and then too tired to do anything besides sleep at home. So I forced myself to make a shit-ton of stew on my day off because I'm a cheap-ass and also wanted more meat. I also got this REALLY good banana and raw almond butter. Been pairing that with apricot preserves on brioche bread and a little jar of almond milk for lunch at work, because just the sight of the food there anymore is making me completely lose my appetite.

Speaking of appetite, I think I got a good sign that my metabolism might finally be un-fucking itself besides the weight loss: I actually felt hungry for the first time in literal years. Not skipping straight to shakiness and a migraine and dizziness; just regular ol' hunger. I know that's a weird thing to 'brag' about, but yeah. I wasn't getting hungry before, just "Oh shit, my sugar's super low. I need a nibble before I throw up and/or pass out".

Now I just need to get rid of my gut, arm wings, and thunder thighs, and I'll be gravy. I swear my arms, thighs, and gut actually seem flabbier since I've started losing weight. I'm guessing that's because I just need to work on toning those areas, yeah? You'd think the bike would've helped with the thighs at least, but it's only strengthening my knees, it seems. I've got some exercises for my arms and legs, but anyone got some light exercises that'll help with the gut but also not aggravate my hip/back? Preferably some that don't require equipment? As it is I couldn't do the crunches from physical therapy because my back/hip didn't agree with them at all.
 
I've been eating like shit lately and every time I try to get off sugar, which is the biggest issue for me, and which is something i feel ls making my state of mind and state of health decline in the last month or so because I've REALLY been awful about it. I have an eating disorder and no money to consult a therapist.

Someone I know with a similar eating disorder says you have to get to the root of the problem. Honestly as cathartic as posting on this website has been for my own... personal reasons (having known a cow) I actually think it's just sort of made things worse. Or just the pattern of behavior started around the same time as those events.

I don't really have a plan to get off sugar. I know stopping drinking diet soda would be a good start since it has an insulin response. (I'm not diabetic but it runs in the family so I have to be careful.)
I feel like a fucking coke addict after a few days and relapse quickly. I've gained like 20 lbs. Help.
Fren, if I can make a suggestion? Try thinking about one type of sugar at a time. Lots of people go "NUKE ALLLLLL THE SHUGAAAAZZZ!!!!!" which is a lot. Focus on one thing - sodas, candies, refined carbs, whatever - at a time and work on cutting down. Not cutting out, cutting down.


It's not easy, but recognising you have a problem is the first and biggest step and too many people fail toeven get that far.


Also the people on here posting about their recent weight losses? Good for you ladies and gents. Seriously. Very, very, very well done. You should be proud of yourselves. Edited to say: I know a lot of people who have taken an "aw, fukkit" approach. If people can lose weight in all of this then that's just brilliant.
 
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Fren, if I can make a suggestion? Try thinking about one type of sugar at a time. Lots of people go "NUKE ALLLLLL THE SHUGAAAAZZZ!!!!!" which is a lot. Focus on one thing - sodas, candies, refined carbs, whatever - at a time and work on cutting down. Not cutting out, cutting down.


It's not easy, but recognising you have a problem is the first and biggest step and too many people fail toeven get that far.


Also the people on here posting about their recent weight losses? Good for you ladies and gents. Seriously. Very, very, very well done. You should be proud of yourselves.
Yeah I have noticed that. And I keep trying to go cold turkey and it's not working. I can also just make cookies with lower carbs so I get that fix. I finally figured out the proportion of xanthan gum to make Almond flour do what I want it to because otherwise it's too moist and flat.

I think I can actually make my chocolate cherry cookies in this lower carb format without much issue texture wise. Gonna have to experiment but it sucks not to have holiday treats. That and lowcarb Cheesecake is doing the trick for me right now. Just been putting some low sugar raspberry jelly on it for flavor and it satiates me for now.

Still trying to figure out how to do eggnog properly, with lower carb in mind. Replicating the flavor of high fructose cornsyrup though, not exactly easy. And the last time I tried I put too much thickener in it so it was just goopy sludge. (Which is what eggnog haters think it is anyway.) but I'll find a way to survive Christmas and lose weight.
 
Yeah I have noticed that. And I keep trying to go cold turkey and it's not working. I can also just make cookies with lower carbs so I get that fix. I finally figured out the proportion of xanthan gum to make Almond flour do what I want it to because otherwise it's too moist and flat.

I think I can actually make my chocolate cherry cookies in this lower carb format without much issue texture wise. Gonna have to experiment but it sucks not to have holiday treats. That and lowcarb Cheesecake is doing the trick for me right now. Just been putting some low sugar raspberry jelly on it for flavor and it satiates me for now.

Still trying to figure out how to do eggnog properly, with lower carb in mind. Replicating the flavor of high fructose cornsyrup though, not exactly easy. And the last time I tried I put too much thickener in it so it was just goopy sludge. (Which is what eggnog haters think it is anyway.) but I'll find a way to survive Christmas and lose weight.
Naw, ignore the haters, a good eggnog is a thing of beauty :D Ooh, what's your secret on xanthan gum and almond flour, by the way?

I had to change to a keto diet for health reasons (not the beetus, I've got epilepsy and a low carb/keto diet can help with keeping fits less severe/to a minimum). I found that higher fat food keeps me fuller for longer. I eat two meals a day now, both high fat/veggies/high protein, and I struggle to clean my plate. It's ingrained into us that fat = badbadbadbad but it's not.

And jelly is no bad thing, if you mean, like, jello? Rammed with collagen and protein, which is good for you.

Maybe focussing on cutting down is a solid plan? Cos you're not making it a big bad Nono in your head, but you know you're reducing it slowly and steadily? From my own experience, weight loss starts in the head and is build on in the kitchen. and identifying why you overeat is important too. But it's not an easy step to make, but once you do, it's like solving one of those metal puzzles where there;s bits and thingies that interconnect, lie it all falls into place, you know? But the amount of work to get to that point is HUGE.

It's not easy pal, and I do feel for you. And it is SO easy to fall into the "I had a bad day so into the fuckkit bukkit goes the rest of the week/month" mentality.


Oh, actually, a thought on the eggnog? Have yo considered goose or duck eggs? I've a neighbour who has both, and she gives me eggs from them. They're very rich, but relatively healthy, plus rammed with nutrients and good fats. Plus they have a divine mouthfeel too. A cake made with duck eggs is sublime, and mereinges with them are something else. Might be worth looking into? I know if I get 6 duck eggs, they last me a good fortnight, cos I use a duck and a chicken egg for scrambled at a time, cos more than one duck egg is just too much.
 
The Xanthan gum replaces the binding of gluten and thickens it up. The first batch of cookies I made were flat and merged with all the others, without it.

Second, they were still flat but following the instructions on the conversion on the back of the xanthan gum which is 1/2 per cup of non flour.
So the third time I did heaping 1/2s fulls and that did the trick. They were well formed cookies. A little less perfect than the typical flour based cookie but I'll take what I can get at this point.

Maybe I'll buy a couple ducks for my sister and she'll give me the eggs. lol. She's got a farm now.
 
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