I picked a target weight for a BMI of 21.75, which is exactly in the middle between underweight and overweight. It meant losing 30 pounds, and it's taken me 6 months. I like the way I look now, but I'm attracting quite a lot of negative comments. I'm also slightly worried that my body fat percentage is too low. I'm not a body builder, but I have enough lean mass that I looked okay even when technically overweight by BMI, so I'm concerned that maybe even at a healthy BMI I might be at an unhealthy body fat percentage.
I used to hang out on the my fitness pal forums a lot. This came up quite often actually. The general consensus there was that the general population has no idea what a normal Bmi looks like anymore since the average person is overweight.
If you're happy with your weight, and more importantly your doctor is (or would be if you went to the doctor regularly, I don't know where you are or your suitation), then that's all that matters. I'd suggest just coming up with a statement you can use like "I appreciate your concern, but my doctor is happy with my weight and so am I. I'm not going to discuss this further."
Use that appeal to authority fallacy to your benefit. Most people aren't going to argue with what a doctor says, not to your face. Over time as you maintain your weight and don't fall prone to the vapors the comments will die down.
Following up on a post I made ages ago:
Turns out my blood sugar (I'm diabetic) is out of control. So, for the next three months I'm going to be doing the following. Eating my normal breakfast, which is a couple egg sandwiches on low-calorie bread. Then at lunch time I'm going to have a
huge salad. I'm talking a mixing bowl full of veggies. This salad will use up the rest of the calories I'm "allowed" for the day.
I plan on varying the veggies by cooking a couple bags of frozen veggies in the morning and chilling them until lunch because I'm not a big lettuce fan. I'm using my food processor to shred carrots, bought a mini processor to chop onions and mushrooms and other vegs. Bought a couple books of salad dressing recipes to make sugar free dressings. The calories in the salad will come from dressing, cheese, nuts, olives, and bacon bits - which I will vary from day to day to get a variety of nutrients and flavors.
The first day I did this I wasn't hungry until almost 8 pm, and I can live with that. My blood sugar at bedtime that night was 99, which is good.
I think if I stick to this I'll start losing weight again and be able to get off some of my blood sugar meds as my body works off the extra sugar in the body. We'll see.