why are you still single - and general discussion of the dating game

[Two Hands]

I hope that girl gets some self-esteem and never thinks about you again in her entire life.

Not my finest moment.

 

[Anasûrimbor Kellhus]

There’s three options for you: mutual friends, friends of family, or moving.

I met my wife through mutual friends and I think that’s where the hidden gems are. They’re not on dating apps or at least not regularly. Same goes for bars. If you’re friends or at least on good terms with the wives or girlfriends of your friends most of them get a kick out of playing matchmaker. It’s how most people got to partner up throughout history; conversely, dating apps have been around for over a decade and are a terrible way to meet people.

Even if it didn’t work out the only dates that didn’t end in revulsion on my end were ones where I was set up. Having that filter or vetting helps a lot as many times the people I know try to set up with someone I can at least get along with

 

[Señora Airi]

I'm fat, therefore women will not date and have sex with me

 

[Spud]

I'm fat

You should lose weight

 

[Toji Suzuhara]

I'm fat, therefore women will not date and have sex with me

Eat. Less.

 

[fresh prince of anywhere]

Because no one wants to date niggers, fatties, the socially inept, low-income, or boring people. So when you're all of the above it's simply joever. That aside it's 100% my fault though, as I dont actively date or put myself out there. Romantically or otherwise, since I'm a recluse outside of work.

It bothers me less and less the older I get. At the very least I'm becoming less of a fatass over the last few months

 

[⋖ cørdion ⋗]

Been far from home and thus swiped a bunch out of boredom, and holy shit if you ignore the fact they're women and thus are unable to not get at least a few suitors, the average woman's bio is beyond dogshit.

Nobody wants equality and mutual attraction, swipe for swipe? Nah most women fill their 'about me' with 'about you'; things you must do and be. "You have to stand out, women get so many matches", why? Cause they can't stop hunting for more attention. If they got 12 pending matches, they don't send 12 messages and filter out the boring ones, they go "their loss" and keep swiping.

However, I do live in a good country and (most) women are sane and respectable, however suffering from bad bios and no conversational skills. I've grown beyond "hi how are you " and often risk it with an immediate plug to their interests or a shared inside knowledge of their hobbies, only to be ghosted because one word was misfired and gave them "ick", undoing the favor you paid them the last 10 messages.

I only use dating apps in a moment of weakness and only swipe on every 25th fitting my own lifestyle and looks, yet feel like I'm discarding all of my social skills and experience to stoop to entertaining the monkeys on dating apps. Carried on ass and feet through a conversation where any single word can completely disregard a human they've liked until the 12th message. It's absurd.

I've become very trigger happy about unmatching and probably lost a few good shots that way, but people live with their phone in their hand and do not live such busy lives that they go 6 days without replying. I recall that urge to talk non-stop to people; it's not a minigame. If I meet someone new, regardless of medium, I've interest in talking as much as possible. I don't chew on a reply for hundreds of hours. Accept your 'ick', unmatch and move on. But no, the modern girlboss is above even that ethical killing-off.

 

[Sargon's wife's son]

I have no interest in finding a significant other right now because I'd rather focus on building up my finances building up my assets and being around another person we get in the way of that maybe in a few years

 

[Neighborhood Curmudgeon]

I attempted dating and had a girlfriend recently, but it didn't work out. Believe it or not, and I shared this in the "How are you doing?" thread in General Discussion, I don't care either. Instead of feeling sad, I actually felt relieved. I have also lost all interest in trying to ever date or have a girlfriend again. I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with it. It's just not for me.

I'm fine with just living my life as it is. I know that sound autistic as fuck and probably is, but like a wise man once said, "I yam what I yam and that's all I yam."

 

[PimpC]

i just turned 30 and most women my around my age have kids or there crazy or both. and i cant stand being round most people born after 2005. i got mates in there mid 30s that mess around with girs that are barley in there 20s and it never ends well for them and they just come out with the dumbest shit sometimes. i was hanging out with my friend whos like 34 or something and his girl was 19 and was bragging about how shes like some rapper she likes because she sold a couple grams of weed or something. and shes a rich white girl whos dad has millions.

 

[Ughubughughughughughghlug]

I find it increasingly hard to sympathize with Western women when they’re top priority seems to be killing their own babies.

 

[Whoopsie Daisy]

Because women crowdsource their attraction to men.

You could put a man in a solitary confinement cell with a woman and he would instantaneously know how sexually attractive she is. She wouldn't fully be able to decide her opinion of him until she found out what her peer group thinks.

Spice girls said it best: "If you wanna be my lover, you gotta get with my friends".

 

[Metatron]

There are some good girls out there. Very few. You gotta get one, frens. It makes life better.

 

[Ibanez RG 350EX]

You gotta get one, frens. It makes life better.

I'm not convinced this is the case.

Despite dating perfectly nice, decent women, my reaction to a break-up was always a sense of relief until I had the epiphany in my early 30s "wait, why am I doing this at all?"

 

[Metatron]

I'm not convinced this is the case.

Despite dating perfectly nice, decent women, my reaction to a break-up was always a sense of relief until I had the epiphany in my early 30s "wait, why am I doing this at all?"

Did these women add a profoundly positive effect to your life? Or were they simply a pleasant companion for a while but nothing more?

 

[Heavy Metal Kiki]

Men don't want to wait before marriage to have sex. Guys who've initiated IRL leave after hearing that. I just want to marry a best friend I don't use dating apps.

 

[Whoopsie Daisy]

Men don't want to wait before marriage to have sex. Guys who've initiated IRL leave after hearing that. I just want to marry a best friend I don't use dating apps.

In my 20's, when I was filling toads with holes with my warm sausage, I thought sex-before marraige was mental. I stil think it's a little extreme because you don't buy a car without test driving it. BUT, nowadays, If I met an attractive woman who was my best mate? Yeah I would wait and if the sex was bad, so what? Cute tradwife outranks sex with degenerates.

Stick to your guns and hopefully you'll find your homo lover.

 

[Ibanez RG 350EX]

Did these women add a profoundly positive effect to your life? Or were they simply a pleasant companion for a while but nothing more?

My point is that I'm not convinced the former is a reasonable expectation. That's Hallmark Channel original movie shit and "pleasant companion" is as close as real life gets.

 

[Fount of BadSpeak]

Women in America are morally, and often physically, repugnant. All women here pretend being a slut is a human right, over 70% of American women are fat fucks, tattoos are trashy and ugly but damn near every woman plasters herself with graffiti, most piercings are nasty, but the cow nose rings, gauges, and other "alternative" piercings beyond a simple earring are truly foul. Single motherhood is a societal pox yet over 40% of kids here are being raised by them, many women pretend killing babies is a human right AND it's their number one political concern, along with ever more welfare and mass immigration. Add on that the government is dedicated to fucking your life up the moment a woman is bored of you, or remotely uncomfortable, and I genuinely don't know why any self respecting man deals with these public urinals. You take on a second full time job and massive legal liability so that you can get sloppy who-knows-how-many with a fishy hole that has had more men in it than a taxi cab.

Frankly, the women here are absolutely garbage by every quantifiable metric. I haven't even got into harder to prove things, like their overwhelming narcissism, the all encompassing selfishness, the total absence of loyalty, zero appreciation of or respect for family, their open adoration of evil men, their open hatred of good men, the rampant mental illness, the widespread substance abuse... Hell, I could go on and on but you get my point; the women here are simply not worth dating, and I genuinely do not understand why men here still bother. Simping is not easy, it would seem.

 

[PaleTay]

Men don't want to wait before marriage to have sex. Guys who've initiated IRL leave after hearing that. I just want to marry a best friend I don't use dating apps.

Sometimes I feel like this, I won't reject a girl 's advances but it's rarer for me to find one I like hanging out with as a person, lost count of how many close female friends moved to LA or some other major city and I miss them more than the ones I've dated or hooked up with.