Trainwreck Alex Dacy / Alex Dzimtowicz / Wheelchair Rapunzel - 50% wholesome disability influencer, 50% that cash me outside girl

  • 🔧 At about Midnight EST I am going to completely fuck up the site trying to fix something.
Correct, she did nearly drown after whacking her head at the pool! And, after poking through the Reddit, I found some comments from her former PCA/hairstylist, Mikey, and he confirms that she has lost control of the chair before. Those screenshots are included below.

She's currently on a tear about being a disabled mom. She goes back and forth between being a disabled mom and a mom who's just like any other.

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From her stories, and I seem to have missed getting the shot I actually wanted, which was her lying in the dentist's chair in a sports bra. You'll have to take my word for it, I guess.

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This is from her stories. It's a screen recording showing you how to report the Wheelchair Rapunzel Reddit. She indicates that you should report it for harassment against someone else (against her, in other words).

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She must read the subreddit religiously. She showed the post speculating that she's soft-launching a breakup with Noah. Her protestations make you wonder if the snarkers are onto something.

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Alex had posted this image of herself with some sort of drink:

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The Redditors had also successfully identified the alcoholic drink that was stowed in Ari's stroller. I never would have noticed it; they're eagle-eyed. Anyway, while discussing Alex's possible alcohol issues, someone shared this post of hers from 2019:

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This is apparently where they're getting their fears that Alex, alcohol, and PPD could be a bad combination. I thought they were pulling that idea out of thin air, but it turns out they're not.

I mentioned that there were a ton of comments worrying about Ari getting proper neck support. A redditor shared this image as an example of poor baby-handling. It took me a few moments to figure what the heck is even going on. It's Noah (top) holding Ari. Picture is sideways-ish.

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Mikey, the hairstylist turned PCA, is "zynthcat." He's been discussed in this thread before and seems to pop up in the sub from time to time. He confirms that she fell off the wheelchair while drunk "3x in less than a year."

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Mikey is a mess, make no mistake, but all of these people are. However, his claims are somewhat believable, at least to me. Maybe she didn't "almost die," but going off of a too-big curb as at least believable. And, for what it's worth, most wheelchair users wouldn't be as dismissive of everyday unexpected hazards as Alex is.

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Some of this information may have appeared previously in the thread, but I thought I'd screenshot it and include it while I was going through Mikey's post history.

GFM money for the van that wasn't, parents are married:

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Independence and some assorted characters in the Dacyverse:

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Parents not rich:

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Some Alex history, mom on benders:

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Corrects speculation about her parents having money, and their house is a disaster:

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Censored comments:

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I thought these videos were filmed and uploaded accidentally (they were only posted a few minutes ago), but that's apparently not the case. Alex and an offscreen female are talking about someone named Gabby. There's clatter coming from Gabby's direction, like she's cooking or cleaning up.

Ari's headband is slipping down, and Alex is unable to fix it, so she calls out to the female to fix it.

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I don't know if this is the person whose voice you hear or not (since this photo was apparently taken at another time), but I do notice that Ari smiles when this person holds her.

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Reddit is going to have a field day.

I thought I'd gotten up to the present, but Alex was posting while I was writing this post. She's prolific, to say the least. Squishy Hitler is "dancing" with baby Ari to some thumping-bass song about watching money burn. He's jiggling her up and down, and Alex screeches "she loves it!" Editor's note: she does not appear to love it, at all.

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I noticed the curated influencer background is gone.

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"Dancing" continues on pillow.

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Now it's the dog's turn. Dog's face is ready for "if only you knew how bad things really are."

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Fin, for now, but she posts every little thing.
 
This is a messy update, and I apologize for that. The screenshots got pretty jumbled on my end, and I'm going to post what I have before the situation gets even worse. Alex posts on her Instagram stories all day long and apparently does not realize that you do not have to share every last second of her day. I thought influencers were supposed to cultivate their public image? Alex doesn't, and she should start doing that. The snarkers would have less to work with if she thought for even a second before posting. I don't actually screenshot everything that's on her stories, because it's pretty same-ish and often inconsequential.

I could not tell who Kate is, and the Reddit crowd didn't seem to know, either.

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Cute bebe.

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At least he's wearing a shirt in this one.

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"People" = Reddit. Though adding up menu prices sounds like something I'd do, not gonna lie. And I did look up those sushi cones, but I had no idea what they were.

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This is her only grid post since I last updated. Most of her content appears in her stories (and possibly on her TikTok; I don't have access to that).

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Tagging Free People in the photo, in case you were wondering where you, too, could get a completely plain cable-knit sweater for over $100:

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Some comments. The comments on her Instagram account are a bloodbath of supporters vs detractors:

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She posted another heavily-filtered image or two of these Youth to the People (YTTP) products, but there's nothing to see. You really can't see that it's tagged "gifted"-- it's in white text about the hands emoji in this caption. I guess that means she got product but doesn't get any financial kickback (?).

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Getting her nails clipped. Reddit was critical, but I don't know enough about this to know if it was warranted. She was squirmy in a baby way in this video, but she didn't seem upset-- just wiggly.

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Tasteful shirt, ill-fitting shorts.

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This one did make me laugh. Love that expression.

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She still can't decide if she's a disabled parent or if she's just like any other parent.

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She's not wrong, but they're also not wrong. Both sides have some valid points, and I guess we're just going to go back and forth until Ari is 18 or until a grandparent steps in. It's not exactly heartwarming, is it?

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On this screenshot: it's from a subreddit I only became aware of from this post. It's "snarking on WCR snarkers." Yes, you read that right: it's a snark subreddit that snarks at the original WR subreddit. Unsurprisingly, Alex likes this new sub and shouts it out.

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I didn't screenshot the story posts this one refers to, because I didn't think they were significant. Shows how much I know. Anyway, Alex posted herself going out to eat at a nice-looking restaurant (sans Ari, of course). She later posted some stories of them grilling something or the other in a Whole Foods wrapper. Reddit discussed it, she read Reddit, and did I mention that this cycle is apparently going to continue forever?

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It's all a drama cyclone. Alex posts every single thing that happens, and Reddit picks it apart. Then Alex reads Reddit and claps back in her stories. Then Reddit responds to the clapback. And on and on and on . . .
 
It's all a drama cyclone.
Yes, her money is no one's business, unless and until she's asking for rent- and formula-money, etc. I hope they're (she's) saving, but again - her business.
I will also give Alex this: regardless of anyone's thoughts on whether it is well-spent, she does spend money on some very cute outfits for that child. And no, I haven't enlarged and checked the size of any visible stitches, evenness of hems, etc., but (I just did) many appear to be of very nice quality.
 
Babies need someone who can physically care for them. That is all taking care of a baby is: Physical action. If you're taking care of their physical needs (including the comfort stuff, which is physical), that's it. Babies don't need pep talks or well wishes.

Alex: Just because I can't be a mother to my child doesn't mean I'm not a mother to my child!

Yes, Alex. That is exactly what it means. You can't contribute to the care of your child. You are a squawking houseplant in Ari's life. If you disappeared in front of her eyes forever, she is unlikely to even cry.
 
A child Aris age doesn’t need much “parenting” besides the basics: food, clothes, love, diaper changes and baths, so she really has no reason to discuss it yet.

How will Alex handle a crawler who puts something in her moth? Handle the constant nos of a two year old, or a full blown tantrum? Her toddler will learn to walk by toddling toward a caregiver? Can a two year old get in her lap for a kiss and a book?

Wait until Ari is a three year old climbing out of her crib and has to be walked back and taught how to go to bed, over and over. Or learn potty training. Or wants a cuddle, or to play, and mom can’t hold a child, a Barbie, or color or use play doh. Or when they go for a walk and Ari darts somewhere she shouldn’t and mom isn’t fast enough to stop her. Teaching showers, washing faces, teeth brushing is parenting. Swings, parks, all difficult until they are better able to control bodies and handle abilities, somebody has to be right there. That’s getting into parenting. And somebody else is going to have to do it.

Swimming, vacations, lessons, boo-boo’s and putting ice and band-aids on, cuddles, all have to be generated from kid or done by somebody else.

Older Ari will be able to do things herself, but may be very used to it and will learn Alex’s limitations, and if she’s the type, she’ll use them to get what she wants. “Mom won’t know. Mom can’t do anything.” Liquor, smokes, staying out late, all possibilities. Do kids learn to drive in Chicago?

Alex can give advice but can do nothing physical. Teens tend not to take advice from parents anyway but Ari is going to especially think Alex can’t relate to any of her problems.

Parenting a child requires so much physicality that if somebody else is doing it, are you really parenting? I know folks who had nannys, who thought of their nanny as a real mother, even though they had a biological parent. It’s the person who tucks you in at night and comes in with “monster spray” after a bad dream that is the real parent-not somebody paying.

But maybe I’m wrong and putting too much emphasis on mom being able to do these things. If Dad sticks around and there isn’t a chaotic cast of caregivers, it might be ok.

The problem with Alex is she’s so defensive we’ll never get an honest assessment, and she may be too self-centered to consider Ari’s POV. So no matter what happens, we’ll hear it’s perfect.

Having a baby numbering in months, she is hardly an expert on “parenting”. She is a mother and a bio parent, but the actual job of parenting hasn’t begun. I’d say when Ari starts crawling, that’s when it kicks in, and it won’t be Ari doing it.
 
Alex is on social media constantly. I don't even share everything she posts, and I'm posting stills rather than the videos (which are, of course, longer). The snarkers will never lack for material, at the rate she's going.

Her baby is stuffed down in her shirt, apparently. And it's also not the first time.

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Also random shot of Ari on the floor.

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This refers to a TikTok I didn't see, where Alex stated that she has "baby fever" again. Y I K E S.

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Reddit weighs in on shirt-baby.

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Noah, in a screenshot from the TikTok (stolen from Reddit). He looks utterly exhausted. Reddit thinks he's relapsing; I think he looks like he's about to drop dead from fatigue.

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She shared this image from "thebirdspapaya," captioned "Motherhood is not being with your kids." I had no idea who the other account is, but the caption made me do a double-take.

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Reddit explained:

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Charming. Good to know that Alex is selecting good role models.

The "extra glowy" is part of her ongoing sponsorship (or whatever) of that skincare brand.

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3 months old on 6 June.

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Pediatrician appointment, weight is almost up to 9 pounds.

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Noah's feeding technique came under fire.

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Burping and dancing.

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Of course it was dad's choice. It was either his or Nina's.

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I was scrolling through her stories, saying "aww, sleepy baby," as one does. And then I get assaulted by the next story up, which is Alex talking about her cervix and HPV. The thread's "50% wholesome disability influencer, 50% that cash me outside girl" is the absolute truth.

These stills are from a video. Alex says she's due to have a colposcopy. She was due for one but had to wait "until I was done being pregnant." She's got HPV, so they need to check for any abnormal cells.

She goes on to discuss her recent dentist appointment, where she found out she needs to have her wisdom teeth out. This is a challenge, because twilight anesthesia is a risk with SMA, and her small palate makes it difficult to do dental work. She also found out that she had seven (!!!) cavities, which she seems pretty mellow about. I guess she can't brush for herself, though?

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This is an extremely typical influencer post, to the point that all influencers are all apparently contractually obliged to do at least one "all bodies are summer bodies" post as soon as it gets warm out.

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Still from a multi-frame (read: long) video of Noah cleaning the BiPAP (Alex's, that is).

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Feeding Ari while music blasts.

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Dancing-burping Ari, also while music blasts. Noah looks dead inside. Or possibly just very exhausted.

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Kenny (or maybe Kimmy?) sends this comment: "your voice is what nightmares are made of." Alex and Noah respond thus:

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Alex adds that the commenter "better sleep with one eye open." Because she'll-- actually, she can't do a damn thing, so never mind. She'll blast you on social media, I guess. So there!

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Image is a video showing stills of Alex (labeled "mom") and Noah (labeled "dad"), followed by pictures of Ari, who is labeled "what we created."

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Text:

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A few comments:

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That was 30-something images in under 24 hours. And, again, I don't actually screenshot and post everything. Noah looks exhausted. Nanny (or PCA? or both nanny and PCA?) Nina is always clearly in the background but not actually on camera too often. Alex looks the same as ever, because her life isn't really that different. She's got Ari stuffed in her shirt in that one picture, but that's the only real interaction between the two that occurs in this series of images. She also gave more information about her cervix and teeth than she did about her infant.
 
If Noah gains more weight his boobs will be breastfeeding size. I gotta give the man credit though, he’s stepping up (so far.). He looks exhausted; he’s doing double duty and still sticking around. I figured he’d be gone by now. I think he’s getting too fat to be using, besides, I doubt he has time.

Hey, disabled narc bitch: it’s not “what we created” - it’s WHO. Guess Ari isn’t really a human to her. 3 months is about when these shirt tricks will stop working as the baby moves more. Will Alex figure that out before she drops Ari?
 
If Noah gains more weight his boobs will be breastfeeding size. I gotta give the man credit though, he’s stepping up (so far.). He looks exhausted; he’s doing double duty and still sticking around. I figured he’d be gone by now. I think he’s getting too fat to be using, besides, I doubt he has time.

Hey, disabled narc bitch: it’s not “what we created” - it’s WHO. Guess Ari isn’t really a human to her. 3 months is about when these shirt tricks will stop working as the baby moves more. Will Alex figure that out before she drops Ari?
Why are we giving Noah so much credit for doing the logical and expected thing?

He breeded with a physically incapacitated woman.

I mean, babies need caring for, and if out of 3 people (mother, father, paid carer splitting her workweek between mom and baby), mom can do nothing for the child physically, then wow, who does it?

New fathers don't deserve atta-boys simply for not running away. Even druggie wasters who make very stupid life choices. I mean, it's great if he's being a man, but that's the baseline. Or would be if he were supporting his family financially.
 
Taking care of a baby half the day when you don't have to work or do anything else is remarkably easy. Change my mind. He has half the day to sleep, rest, and do whatever he wants.
Unless they've hired a second carer, I doubt he's resting. Alex needs her own fulltime carer, and so does the bub. And he's probably getting up at night for the bub, too.
 
Taking care of a baby half the day when you don't have to work or do anything else is remarkably easy. Change my mind. He has half the day to sleep, rest, and do whatever he wants.
Said by a person who doesn’t have a baby. For the first few months of my kid’s lives I didn’t have time to shower or brush my own teeth. It’s incredibly demanding.

Babies eat slow, so maybe 20 minutes per side. I know he’s not breastfeeding but he still is stuck there while he feeds. Then baby may sleep an hour and he has to wash bottles and make new formula. Baby starts fussing then it’s change, maybe take them for a walk, come back, feed again. Some babies want to be fed every two hours, some three, round the clock. Pacifiers need placement, clothes need washing, spit up needs cleaning, babies need changing numerous times a day, both clothes and diapers. All day long the baby needs attention, and it doesn’t end at night. Some babies cry every time you put them down. Some are colicky and scream all day. Even easy happy babies are a ton of work the first few months.

At three months, Ari is just starting to be maybe able to sleep through the night, so he may now be getting six hours of sleep. Or maybe not yet.

That doesn’t count in whatever Alex is demanding. I’m sure that kid is exhausted. Every new parent is.
 
Said by a person who doesn’t have a baby. For the first few months of my kid’s lives I didn’t have time to shower or brush my own teeth. It’s incredibly demanding.

Babies eat slow, so maybe 20 minutes per side. I know he’s not breastfeeding but he still is stuck there while he feeds. Then baby may sleep an hour and he has to wash bottles and make new formula. Baby starts fussing then it’s change, maybe take them for a walk, come back, feed again. Some babies want to be fed every two hours, some three, round the clock. Pacifiers need placement, clothes need washing, spit up needs cleaning, babies need changing numerous times a day, both clothes and diapers. All day long the baby needs attention, and it doesn’t end at night. Some babies cry every time you put them down. Some are colicky and scream all day. Even easy happy babies are a ton of work the first few months.

At three months, Ari is just starting to be maybe able to sleep through the night, so he may now be getting six hours of sleep. Or maybe not yet.

That doesn’t count in whatever Alex is demanding. I’m sure that kid is exhausted. Every new parent is.
Said by a woman who either took care of her kids full time or took care of her kids while working. DISQUALIFIED, MADAM. You don't understand Noah's struggles.

This tub of guts has half the day while Alex has her sitter look after the baby, too. You don't understand how easy he has it.

Unless they've hired a second carer, I doubt he's resting. Alex needs her own fulltime carer, and so does the bub. And he's probably getting up at night for the bub, too.
Excuse you, but just because you can't lie there like a useless slug while a baby is in need doesn't mean that Noah won't.
 
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Why are we giving Noah so much credit for doing the logical and expected thing?
he's an addict in early recovery and therefore being told he needs to put himself first etc (basically be the sort of selfish you more associate with people in active addiction) by everyone helping him out with that. its a ready made excuse to split. not like the type of man who will abandon his kids needs one. staying around with a young baby is a ready made excuse to use, and therefore be absent for all intents and purposes.

have known some right reprobates get absolutely made by parenthood, totally changed their ways and became decent people, and others who really should not have reproduced. the whole impregnating a profoundly disabled girl thing made me assume he was gonna be the latter but maybe parenthood has had a reforming effect on him. i really hope he sticks around for the long haul now, Ari will have bonded with him.
 
he's an addict in early recovery and therefore being told he needs to put himself first etc (basically be the sort of selfish you more associate with people in active addiction) by everyone helping him out with that. its a ready made excuse to split. not like the type of man who will abandon his kids needs one. staying around with a young baby is a ready made excuse to use, and therefore be absent for all intents and purposes.

have known some right reprobates get absolutely made by parenthood, totally changed their ways and became decent people, and others who really should not have reproduced. the whole impregnating a profoundly disabled girl thing made me assume he was gonna be the latter but maybe parenthood has had a reforming effect on him. i really hope he sticks around for the long haul now, Ari will have bonded with him.
Totally agree with all you said. But I stand by my view that this is a minimum standard, however hard or tiring it might be, and however much he might also be dealing with (crossed fingers) his own demons.*

I get why Noah is often treated (in comment) like a crippled wombat; my point was more a "wtf, if you're going to make children [including if you're going to make children with a person who is physically dependent on others even for her own day-to-day life], then you need to step up, and no, there are/should be no ribbons or medals for it." Choices, outcomes, etc.

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I dislike the undertext of a lot of thought/comment "these days" [and not yours @glioblastoma multiforme; not directed to you] that suggests that trials are not (often) part of life, and that surviving - winning - them is not a part of becoming a full adult. So many people talk about "oh, I so fucked up when I crumpled in the face of x, but I've learned and therefore am a better person"; sure, that happens and it's good to [learn to] be kind to yourself, but also what happens is facing a tough thing and actually *not* failing, but instead rising to the occasion, testing and proving your mettle. I like that modern-day allows for mistakes and failures and provides all kinds of resources and ways to self-forgive even when you blew it. But I dislike that it seems almost a foregone conclusion that "anybody" would quail and fail in the face of x. Because, no, not everyone does. Even average, or below-average, aimless folks can access "more" in themselves. Noah, specifically, doesn't even have to work, much less provide. And he made a choice to create a child. It's good he's engaged [I think he is], but that's more "yay, you didn't fuck off and run away" than it is, "omg so amazing."
 
Said by a woman who either took care of her kids full time or took care of her kids while working. DISQUALIFIED, MADAM. You don't understand Noah's struggles.

This tub of guts has half the day while Alex has her sitter look after the baby, too. You don't understand how easy he has it.
I truly don’t understand this comment. There are more choices than these two, by the way. You sound like a Grandpa who knows nothing about babies and is proud of it.

I’m not saying Noah is a great Dad, I’m just surprised he’s done a VERY HARD job without leaving, yet. Or killing anybody, if you want to go that low. And even if there is a caregiver there for 8 hours, that is still a lot less than half the day that two people need every single thing done for them. Just the lack of sleep alone is rough.
 
I truly don’t understand this comment. There are more choices than these two, by the way. You sound like a Grandpa who knows nothing about babies and is proud of it.

I’m not saying Noah is a great Dad, I’m just surprised he’s done a VERY HARD job without leaving, yet. Or killing anybody, if you want to go that low. And even if there is a caregiver there for 8 hours, that is still a lot less than half the day that two people need every single thing done for them. Just the lack of sleep alone is rough.
I think you're misunderstanding. You likely either take care of your children full time (with more or less help from friends and family, but the majority of care is on you as the primary caretaker) or you have a job outside the home and you utilize childcare options like having a family member watch them, a nanny, babysitter, or day care. Noah doesn't have a job. Noah has bragged about this. It's also not like Noah is a full time parent, as Alex has her caretaker "helping her with her motherly duties." While the job of caring for a profoundly disabled adult and newborn sounds like something I would pass on, I have seen people do equally hard jobs. I suspect Alex's person is probably too young and immature to realize how insane this is. If there's some clear option I'm overlooking, tell me.

I thought you were a less presumptive person before you said some of the things you've said. I guess everyone has off days. Then again, maybe you thought I was just as incapable of making a joke as I was of childcare.

If you have the luxury of a full time caregiver and you don't work or go to school and you use the excuse of "getting sober" indefinitely, yes, you have an easier position than most everyone when it comes to parenting. Oh no, only eight hours to sleep and rest before you have to watch your own child that you didn't give birth to! Should first year resident physicians weep for this man and how hard he has to work?
 
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I clearly am missing something as I’m still confused.

We’ve seen photos of Noah looking exhausted, which prompted this convo.

I thought you said a parent of a newborn in Noah’s position doesn’t really work, and that Noah specifically is just lazing around because they have another caregiver there.

I disagreed, because two healthy people caring for two 100% dependent people doesn’t equal anybody being relaxed and lazy.

I believe that all parents of newborns have it rough, working or not (?) as the baby needs pretty much hands on care 24/7 for the first few months with very little downtime.

Same with Alex, who does nothing and needs continual care herself. (Much I’m sure she hides) Alex drops something, somebody picks it up. She wants to pee, somebody helps her. She wants to eat, somebody fixes it, feeds her and cleans up. She wants to film, upload, she needs help. She has an itch, help. She cannot move and needs a caregiver, probably even to turn her over in bed every two hours. Same with moving her in her chair.

There is a caregiver for Alex and one for Ari, and while they may spot each other, I think the baby care mostly falls on Noah. The paid caregiver has a shift and goes home or to her room, and then it’s all on Noah. He’s likely up most of the night dealing with baby and Alex’s night needs and at least half the day with both Alex and baby.

Whatever else he is, he’s got to be tired.

So that’s my point. Yours seems to be the caregiver does everything and Noah just hangs out.

If we were talking about Harry and Meghan, with millions of dollars and round the clock Nannys for each kid, then I could see your point @LonesomeDud. Neither are tired and parenting for them is all the fun parts and none of the work. I don’t think that’s the case for Alex and Noah though, they would need another two caregivers to give Noah time to goof off.

Anyway, you either see my point or don’t, and I understand yours or don’t, but we can agree to disagree, yeah?
 
@Barbarella I see your point, and maybe Noah is working like a dog to make sure his child and disabled sugar mama are cared for. Ari and Alex look clean and tended to. Maybe Noah is trying his best. It certainly doesn't hurt me to assume he is trying his best, rather than trying to do as little as possible and avoid the crushing responsibility of manhood. There is no reason for me to be uncharitable here, and if he's doing the majority of Ari's care, you're 100% right.
 
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