Trainwreck Alex Dacy / Alex Dzimtowicz / Wheelchair Rapunzel - 50% wholesome disability influencer, 50% that cash me outside girl

[glass_houses]

sorrry if its been discussed before, but who the fuck is funding this lifestyle? she doesn't seem to have enough sponsorhsips to cover it even though i hear they can pay a lot. it also doesn't seem like the sort of regular income letting agents prefer.

so, her parents? i know they are rich but they are also getting on, earning power decreasing and likely healthcare costs increasing. obviously she can't exactly work a normal job so i appreciate why they help her but there's a difference between that and funding an eyewateringly expensive apartment and with money left for three discretionary meals/drinks out in a single day.

i'm guessing noah's family are pretty minted given he seems to come in and out of rehab with no trouble, he's not waiting on a single chance in a state sponsored place.

who is paying for her treatment and care? that alone must be insanely costly.

i know the wealth gap in the states is different to over here, but most families i consider wealthy couldn't fund even the $3-5k apartment indefinitely.

There's very little information on Alex's father. I actually wonder if it's worth looking into who built/owns the building that Alex lives in. I wouldn't be surprised if Alex comes from serious money. I wouldn't be surprised if Noah does too, he's got "spoiled weak rich boy" written all over him, and Alex is cunning enough to pick a baby daddy with his own rich daddy. If Noah didn't have value beyond being an anonymous sperm donor, he'd have been able to escape her long before now.

 

[Barbarella]

Earlier in this thread, one of Alex’s friends (?hair dresser?) spilled tea and said her parents weren’t rich; weren’t even middle class. No clue how true that was.

No chance disability is funding this. And while sponsorships can pay a lot, Alex doesn’t have many, as noted. It would take her more than 4 or 5 good paying ones to pay her apartment for a year, depending. It may be Noah’s family but why would they fund Alex’s lifestyle. It began before the baby. They can’t be happy Noah is with her.

That rave video of them with Ari is horrifying. That baby looks very uncomfortable. Can a baby be terrified?

@often puzzled Thanks for single-handedly keeping this thread alive AND funny. In these hard Tor times I’m glad we have you!

 

[often puzzled]

Her mom is Jackie Dzimitowicz, aka Jackie Dacy, aka Jacqueline. I'm looking at her Facebook and Instagram profiles but don't have any exciting info so far. Just in looking, she does not appear to be wildly wealthy, though Noah's family is said to be well-off. @Barbarella is correct in remembering what Mikey the hairdresser said about Alex's family: that they're not at all wealthy and are kind of trashy. Jackie comes up later in this post, so you all have good timing, when it comes to wondering about her family.

Just in reading through Mikey's posts to Reddit, my general impression is that he's a drama queen but factually correct. I don't even really mean drama queen in a negative way: I just think he's the kind of young guy who loves a mess (and don't we all?). Alex reads every single word on her subreddit and claps back when she can, but she's never (to my knowledge) disputed Mikey's claims that her family is a trashy hot mess.

In scrolling back on her Instagram, I see that she and Noah moved to the high rise in or around November 2022. At that time, Alex had already announced her pregnancy. I do wonder if that's an indication that Noah's family could be footing the rent bill-- they wanted Noah, Alex, and the baby to be securely in their own place.

My archiving from yesterday was kind of on the fly, so I may have some things out of order. She didn't really put anything where chronology seemed to be important, though.

Spoiler: Wednesday with Alex

Ari loathes the sunglasses. We've already seen her crying because she doesn't understand what's on her face. She said "Mom insists" on putting the sunglass on-- it may be true that mom insisted, but I'm not sure that's Alex's foot in the lower left.



Ari's judgy face just cracks me up. That baby has SEEN THINGS.



A smile!



Cairo appears to be hiding behind Alex's chair.





Alex is correct: this really is Ari's signature expression. Also, going back to previous discussions about marks on Ari: there's a scratch on her nose in this one. It's hard to tell how big or deep it is because of the filtering. Typical baby scratch? Dog scratch? Who knows?

Alex posted to TikTok, so I had to grab that from Reddit. Here's one bit to highlight:



"Great technique excrpt [sic] for my tires staining her bouncy." I'd previous noticed that the bouncy seat had what appeared to be scuff marks on it, but I thought they were surely just weird shadows from filter trickery-- after all, how could a bouncy seat have what looked like tire marks? You'd think I'd know better by now, but alas. Alex cheerfully informed us that those are marks from her chair hitting the baby's seat. Fabulous.

And now for a grid post, which is from Thursday. Alex is fully nude once again, as is her custom, so the image is also under the spoiler. It's taken from the back, but I don't blame anyone who doesn't want to see Alex's nudes in mixed company. Or at all.

Spoiler: morning nudity with mom

Because it's totally normal to awaken to blasting music, screeching, and your naked mom, right? Right?

This is a still from the video. The full video is under a spoiler at the end of this post. The original still is from Reddit (hence the face scribbles), because I somehow missed that it had also been posted to Instagram.



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"Are she naked again" utterly cracked me up. I don't know why it hit me that way, but it. That's the question we're all asking, my friend.

If she wanted to stir up engagement, this post succeeded. People really want to know why she's naked all the time, why she can't wear some kind of loose garment, and why, if she really has to be naked, she has to post it to the internet in the form of pictures with her infant.

You can see this in the full video, but the camera pans into Alex's naked back before it focuses on Ari. This was a choice, not an oops, accidentally revealed lack of clothes.

Spoiler: today's stories, featuring grandma Jackie

That's Alex's mom's back. Hi, Jackie! Noah's mom has also visited fairly recently, though of course it's not odd or surprising that grandparents would want to visit their new grandchild. However, Jackie has a history of showing up when Alex needs a caregiver's help, and Noah is still AWOL.



Yesterday's high in Chicago was 82 F/27-ish C. Long sleeves and a folded blanket seems like a lot for a rooftop deck? At least she's finally protected from the sun, I guess.



I find it hard to believe that Alex reads anything except gossip about herself.



Rooftop playpen.





Finally: in her last post for Thursday, Alex reveals that she is "hostessing tonight." Maybe she means she's playing hostess to her mom? I don't exactly think she means she got a job as a restaurant hostess. Shockingly, this involves wearing a shirt and pants! Progress! I mean, the strap of the shirt is artfully falling off, but still.

She's at Whispers Café, 1031 N. State St., Chicago. They have a Facebook page, and it appears to be a seasonal spot (warm weather only). It's 1.3 miles from her apartment.

NOAH WATCH: he's not in any of the photos or videos from these past couple of days. He's been very absent, except from the Father's Day photos/videos. And I guess we don't exactly have confirmation that those were taken on Father's Day itself, unless the Daddy's Girl onesie counts. Is he still being punished because he asked for nudes? Is something else going on? Stay tuned for the next episode of As Alex's World Turns!

Spoiler: morning nudity video (from Instagram)

 

[glass_houses]

Thank you for your service, @often puzzled

I don't think it's such a big deal for Alex to be topless in her own apartment, but I hope to god her seat cushion has a washable cover, or at least there's a towel over it. It's not like babies aren't supposed to see boobs. It'd take just a second for Alex's minder to drape a shawl across her body for photos, and pluck it off when they're done. Showing off the assets is something that young people frequently do, but Alex has utterly no boundaries and it's extremely worrying that she keeps doing it with the bub right there.

Ari does have an adorable smile, I will say.

 

[GenociderSyo]

Have they had the child tested for SMA like her mother has?

 

[TismFarmer]

Have they had the child tested for SMA like her mother has?

Right after Birth.
It was one of the first things She announced.
TBF I would imagine they surely would have tested in utero, no point in such severe risk to the Mother if Baby is screwed genetically.

 

[often puzzled]

Let's catch up with Alex's weekend! She had a pretty quiet day on Friday, as is her custom. By Saturday, she was out on the town, seemingly without Ari or Noah. Her mom appears to still be around.

Spoiler: Friday's stories, with scary B sound video

First up is a still from a slightly terrifying video of Alex screeching BEEEEEEEE at Ari. Her caption says that babies like the B sound, which probably means the actual B sound: buh buh buh. I imagine it like the sound you make when blowing raspberries at a baby. Anyway, Alex interprets to mean the actual letter B, and she accordingly yells BEEE BEEEE BEEEEEE at a deeply stoic Ari-- who, as usual, is not being held or even touched during all of this. Seriously, does anyone ever just pick up and hold this baby?

Ari is not amused.

Full video at end of post, under spoiler.



Alex also reveals to us what she's reading: a book called The Psychology of Money. Here's the summary from Google Books:

"Doing well with money isn't necessarily about what you know. It's about how you behave. And behavior is hard to teach, even to really smart people.

The field of finance, including investment, personal finance, and business decisions, is typically presented as a mathematical one, where we are given precise instructions based on data and formulas. However, people in the real world don't use spreadsheets to make important financial decisions. At the dinner table or in the conference room, people mix in their own backgrounds, perspectives, egos, prides, marketing strategies, and peculiar motivations to come up with these decisions.

To help you better understand one of life's most important themes, award-winning author Morgan Housel presents 19 short stories in his book The Psychology of Money."

It sounds like it's about making wise financial decisions in your everyday life. I don't think we've ever heard Alex mention a book before, aside from Ari's children's books. Not being snotty: she just hasn't. What's interesting to me is that the book about financial literacy appears when her mom does, and she's also been pushing her OnlyFans lately. Is she having money troubles?

Spoiler: Saturday's stories: Chicago sights and an Instagram announcement

No mention of who she's with. At least Cairo is leashed this time.



She's passing Relish Chicago Hot Dogs, which has several locations. The one in this photo is located at 550 E Grand Ave, Chicago, IL 60611, 0.3 miles from Moment Apartments. It's a six minute walk from her place, says Google Maps.



You can see a sign for Caffè Olivia in the background. It's also located at 550 E Grand Ave, Chicago, IL 60611. The body of water you see in all her photos is Lake Michigan; her complex is lakeside, which contributes to the exorbitant rent.





A smile from Ari!



And here's the announcement. Ari has her own Instagram now (more about that under another spoiler). She conveniently made the username Ari's full name, which seems like a less-than-ideal choice. I don't know if she's choosing to do this because she gets so much pushback on her personal account about not separating the thot stuff from the parenting stuff, or if she's just bored and addicted to social media.



That's a view from the rooftop pool area. That view-- where you can see the bridge, the lake, and the piers-- is how I narrowed down her apartment location. From there, it was just looking at the various decks until I found the one that matched.



Alex attends a nude bicycling race. It is the World Naked Bike Ride Chicago, which is apparently a thing. To be fair, she might be dining at those tables that appear to belong to a restaurant. Most of the places around there have outdoor seating, what with the views and all.

The person she tagged in this photo is a female, presumably a friend-- not Noah.



By evening, we're done with city views and wholesome disability influencer activities and have returned to our usual cash me outside programming. She didn't tag the club, even though she usually tags the places she goes. I'm willing to bet that's because she recently got caught on film while drunk at a club; she doesn't want to tip off her location. She didn't tag any people, either.

Spoiler: Ari's Instagram

Because what infant doesn't need their own personal social media presence?

So far: 4 posts, 1,209 followers, 1 following. Bio reads "Daughter of my mommy Alex and my daddy Noah. My Live Photo album."



The one person she's following is Alex. Noah also has an Instagram account, but Ari is not following daddy.




First post: "When I was in mommy's belly, she didn't feel so good all the time, so she started to like doing interior design! She made my nursery so pretty, I love looking at my wall art when I'm in my bassi"

I like how the caption is entirely about Mommy and her talents and feelings.

The first comment about Ari living in the living room: she does, because it's a one bedroom apartment. However, all the decoration is in the bedroom itself, not Ari's area.



There were a bunch of pictures of the so-called interior design. I just capped one, because it's very generic and not interesting.



Next up: "love my gammy so much! She plays with me and reads to me all the time. She makes me so happy."



At least "Gammy" actually holds and burps the child. This is a current picture that's already been on Alex's personal account.



Alex's mom-- Gammy, aka Jackie Dacy-- chimes in. Gammy also has a public Instagram account, but I guess Ari chooses not to follow it. Also, more about Alex's parents coming soon. I've been poking around.



Next up: "Mom and dad said we were having a pool day, but I was not feeling my sunnies, even though mom says I'm super cute in them."

I just noticed that someone in the comments asks why Ari isn't following any other family Instagram accounts. And I thought I was making an original observation, darn it.



That's a recycled picture of Noah and a bawling Ari. Because it's a really good PR move to post a picture of your kid crying in distress because they hate the sunglasses you're holding on her face.



I was posting these backwards, though they were really all posted at once. This last photo is therefore the first/intro photo on Ari's Instagram. Caption reads: "Hi everyone. Just a three monther growing and snuggling a lot with mommy & daddy."

Editor's note: that is not true. No one ever snuggles this child. Like, ever. There are no pictures of her just being held for the sake of cuddling or snuggling. If anyone's holding her, it's Noah to feed her or hold her up for a picture, or it's Alex stuffing her down her shirt for a photo op.

That's the weekend so far. In summary, Alex's mom is there, and they're staying in the general area of her apartment. Alex went out with a friend on Saturday afternoon, and she was at an undisclosed club Saturday night. We can therefore assume that her mom is babysitting. Ari did not appear to be on the Saturday excursions. Ari did get her own Instagram, and she's the narrator. Her favorite subject is her mom, to the surprise of no one.

NOAH WATCH: Noah appeared only in an old photo for Ari's Instagram. He did not appear in any current content, and he was not tagged as a participant in any activities.

Spoiler: BEEEEEEE video

 

[Barbarella]

Makes me sad. I wonder if a child can have an attachment disorder from a situation like this? Babies need to be held a lot, not only for caretaking but generally nerve and brain stimulation. I don’t know how much others actually do it, Alex seems to be quite secretive about the real disability part of her life.

 

[SpiceyHuman]

Makes me sad. I wonder if a child can have an attachment disorder from a situation like this? Babies need to be held a lot, not only for caretaking but generally nerve and brain stimulation. I don’t know how much others actually do it, Alex seems to be quite secretive about the real disability part of her life.

As a mother, reading this legitimately got me in the feels.

Its no doubt she is obviously downplaying just how useless she is at "mothering". A perfect example is the breast feeding. That was something she talked about alot as she was nearing delivery and seemed very excited to do without realizing how difficult it is even for abled women. We saw... what, like one photo of Ari "latched" at the hospital and then that was it. Straight to formula after that.

Her fantasy of motherhood being rainbows and butterflys obviously isnt coming to pass and it really shows by the photos that she delibertly selects to show on her social media. I think whats infuriating to me is how shes still trying to live up to her party girl persona. Obviously, it's okay to have personal intrests likes, hobbies, ect when you become a parent, but when my kids were infants, i was just so tired and busy taking care of them I wouldnt have thought of clubbing. I can't be the only one here that feels like that.

 

[Barbarella]

You aren’t. My clubbing days were over when I had my first. Too tired, too broke-my life and me had changed the second of his birth.

I don’t think Alex feels that. It seems she just wants her life to go on the way it was and is getting very little joy over being a mom. Sure, she’s taking cute pictures but they seem impersonal. I think in large part because she can’t do anything and those early days are important for bonding for mom and baby. (Dad too) Hard as it is for the first few months when you have changed blowouts three times before lunch had have fed the baby 4 times and you are still in puked pajamas and haven’t eaten yourself- it’s still wonderful when you can spend an hour holding and rocking him and having the baby make your arm go numb because you forgot a pillow and don’t want to wake him. That’s bonding, watching eyelashes flutter in sleep, having their sleeping body near yours, opening eyes and seeing a little yawn or smile.

It’s magical and bonding, and I don’t how she can bond without touch. Well, she can wear the baby but for some reason prefers her shirt trick.

When Ari is a toddler and her life will have to be saved ten times a day Alex won't be able to help but even if there are helpers, whose arms will the child find comfort in? If the answer is a revolving door of low paid caregivers Ari may end not attaching to anybody.

Like I said, it makes me sad. I’m sure that some woman could make this work with a loving helpful husband, professional help and planning, but not Alex.

 

[often puzzled]

I'm here with a couple of days of Alex content. Outwardly, there's not a whole lot going on. She's leaning into the wholesome disability influencer role right now. Could that be connected with her mom's recent visit? We also see more hints of financial worries.

Spoiler: twitching Noah, ignored baby

Noah appears to be back, and he's going to be wearing that same shirt for the next few days. This is a still from a video. He was watching The Jungle Book "with" Ari (not really) and was bouncing his foot up and down very quickly. As you can see from his face, he looks miserable. His jiggling foot also indicated some kind of restlessness-- drugs? Despair?

Alex, of course, doesn't see anything wrong with this and posts it to Instagram.



And where's Ari while dad is supposedly watching a movie with her? She's in her bouncy seat, alone, in the floor. They've got her turned toward the TV. I guess we may have an answer as to who will really raise Ari: screens will.

This is honestly depressing. No one ever holds that kid. She's just plunked in the floor. Neither parent is even particularly close. This isn't a one-off: this is her life.

Spoiler: Alex makes Nina cook, with bonus appearances by Noah

Outwardly, this sequence isn't too interesting. Alex is, in her own words, "making breakfast this morning." What this actually means is that she's directing Nina (who's wearing the Good Vibes t-shirt) to cook. Alex, though, speaks as if she's the one doing the cooking, not Nina.

The Good & Gather brand is found at Target.





"Been cooking a lot lately"-- well, Nina has. Also: further indication of financial woes?



"Live reaction to Al's breakfast lettuce wraps"-- my reaction is tthat lettuce wraps don't sound like breakfast food. Alex calls herself "Al," because nicknames for everyone are apparently her new things. Nina does the um-um-um reaction that you do when you're eating something that you don't like at all but have to be polite about.



I didn't download this video and probably should have, because Noah's live reaction was interesting. He was pacing all over the place while he was tasting. Take a bite, then pace back and forth and you chew. Whatever's going on with him, it isn't good.



He looks rough.

Spoiler: daddy and Ari share a minimal interaction experience

This video (these are stills) is one of two times anyone is shown touching Ari during these past three days. As you can see, she's propped on a pillow as Noah kind of touches her chin/lip.



There's a Bible storybook there, which is fitting, because Ari's parents need Jesus. Or a church daycare, where nice ladies would hold Ari and coo at her and feed her a bottle without the bonus air from holding it improperly.

This is the other time someone is touching her. It's Noah again: that's his hand and the long sleeved pink shirt he's been wearing for days. He's doing exactly the same thing he was in the previous video-- touching her chin/lower lip. I think he's trying to provoke a smile for Alex's camera. She doesn't appear to smile a lot on her own; she's a solemn baby.

Spoiler: cooking, round two, now with more Noah

All that Whole 365 brand stuff is from Whole Foods. If they're doing their ingredient shopping at Target and Whole Foods, then they're not saving a ton of money. It's doubtless still cheaper than eating out, but it's also not meal prep on a budget. Baby steps, I guess? And I really do wonder what was said between Alex and her mom, if she's suddenly trying to cook at home more.



She never says what her "own recipe" is actually supposed to be making. It's maybe some kind of taco pie? Alex must never follow anyone else's instructions, if she can't just look up a recipe and try it out.



Still doesn't say what this actually is.



Maybe it tasted better than it looks. We can hope.



Wholesome disability influencer!



Noah is revealed to be the cook for this one. He's still in the pink shirt, which you can now see reads COOL DADS CLUB across the back. That's the same pair of unfortunate shorts, too.



She asked him what he thinks of it, and he starts reeling off a bunch of "it's got XYZ" statements. While pacing. And pacing. And pacing. He sounded tense, unhappy, and odd. Very disconnected. I failed to get the video, so I apologize for that.

I stole this next shot from Reddit, while I was doing my check for TikTok updates (didn't appear to be any). Someone there caught that the marker board says "do something good for yourself." Ma'am. Do something for anyone else, Your infant daughter, for example.

Spoiler: Cairo has an emergency vet visit, and we finally see some real affection

Cairo is apparently fine, as we will see, so dog lovers need not worry.



Alex can and does hold Cairo (he's a little thing, so he's likely easier to hold than Ari). This is far more affection and physical contact than Ari got in this entire sequence of photos.



She's more genuine in her affections for Cairo than she is when she speaks of Ari. It's not the least bit wrong to adore your pets, but perhaps show that much love for your human child? These two just weren't ready for an infant.



More holding Cairo, though I think this is from the same photo sequence as above (same floor). Alex managed to put on real clothes-- shorts and a t-shirt, fully appropriate for summer in Chicago-- to go to the vet.

Spoiler: even more cooking and an accident

More video stills. She pans over the pile of ingredients.



Noah is cooking again. It was more evident in the video itself, but that's his arm.



Only two cooking shots and no finished product shots. Why? Because: "we didn't get to finish my recipe because Noah sliced open his finger and we went to the ER but it was completely full so we ended up coming home and bandaging him up and we are going to immediate care tomorrow to get stitches." Whew. Punctuation, anyone?

Also: "my recipe." She talks like a child who's pretending to cook with mud and grass.

And they're not going to stitch that 24 hours after it happened. Noah has been weirdly restless, and I doubt he was able to sit still and wait at urgent care. He's in constant motion. I'm not surprised he sliced his finger; he's beyond jitttery.



From this last shot, I inferred (perhaps wrongly) that Alex's mom has gone back home. If she's texting and telling Alex to wear a mask because of the wildfire smoke, we can assume that she's back in Florida and watching the news (and texting worried instructions, as mothers will do).

So, that's the past few days with Alex. Mom is gone, Noah is back in her social media, Nina is cooking, Cairo is ill (but hopefully on the mend), and Ari is an afterthought. When Alex commands people around her to do things, she says that SHE is doing them (and no, that's not normal for disabled people; that's just weird). There are more hints that money is tight, and there is no hint of new sponsorships. Whatever merch she was hinting at does not appear to have dropped yet.

NOAH WATCH: he's back (if he ever left), and he doesn't look good at all. He's in constant motion and has been wearing the same shirt and shorts for at least three days.

 

[sorrycharlie]

Ari is a very cute baby, but she is so damn skinny and she's always alone on the floor. At this point I wish Alex just wouldn't even share pictures of her. It's so depressing, but I can't not look. Someone cuddle that baby!

 

[Barbarella]

Does Noah have a mental illness? I know he has drug problems, they sometimes go hand-in-hand.

When is Ari’s next checkup? Will they even take her to an appointment? She’s clearly underweight. The fact that she’s already learned not to cry and just lie there is an ominous sign for her future mental stability. If what we are seeing is true and she ends up having an attachment disorder it will be a major problem for the rest of her life-for her and everyone around her.

I can only hope she’s so underweight that it qualifies them for a home nurse or something. (We know CPS can’t do anything.) Even a nanny who is there to see to her needs (not for Alex), hold her when she cries, feed her when she’s hungry could help a lot. It’s still not too late.

I agree, this is very distressing.

 

[often puzzled]

Ari is a very cute baby, but she is so damn skinny and she's always alone on the floor. At this point I wish Alex just wouldn't even share pictures of her. It's so depressing, but I can't not look. Someone cuddle that baby!

Does Noah have a mental illness? I know he has drug problems, they sometimes go hand-in-hand.

When is Ari’s next checkup? Will they even take her to an appointment? She’s clearly underweight. The fact that she’s already learned not to cry and just lie there is an ominous sign for her future mental stability. If what we are seeing is true and she ends up having an attachment disorder it will be a major problem for the rest of her life-for her and everyone around her.

I can only hope she’s so underweight that it qualifies them for a home nurse or something. (We know CPS can’t do anything.) Even a nanny who is there to see to her needs (not for Alex), hold her when she cries, feed her when she’s hungry could help a lot. It’s still not too late.

I agree, this is very distressing.

I thought I was overreacting when I thought that Ari seems awfully thin. I'm sorry I wasn't overreacting and that other people also think so. I'm not especially touchy-feely, but I really want to scoop her up and hold her. I've wondered what they do when she cries-- do they hold her and walk her around, or do they just ignore it? Neither parent seems to understand that babies need more than cute accessories.

In one of the cooking videos, you can hear Ari vocalizing in the background. I interpreted as the sound of a baby who wants attention, but I might be projecting. Regardless, no one investigated or even spoke back to her. (I realize you can't actually talk back to a baby; I just mean that no one said something like "whatcha see? You talking to birds?" or whatever general chatting you do with your baby.)

Noah is diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder (in addition to the substance abuse problems). I really don't know what's going on in these most recent photos and videos, but it's certainly something. He hasn't changed clothes, doesn't look washed, and absolutely cannot hold still.

 

[Brett DeLawyer]

She's more genuine in her affections for Cairo than she is when she speaks of Ari. It's not the least bit wrong to adore your pets, but perhaps show that much love for your human child?

I dunno man, have heard a lot of women say that they borderline hated their pets for a while after having a baby, especially the first one. They're always ashamed about it, because really they love their pets, but the sleep deprivation and the sudden responsibility really wear you down. You just get fed up with anything, living or otherwise, that is a demand on your caregiving efforts when you're trying so hard to adjust to your new life. It usually gets better by the time beeb's a year old.

Just kinda weird to see the opposite... an outpouring of affection for the "lethargic" dog, but your spindly infant daughter is depicted spaced out in front of the TV on the floor with nothing warm over her tiny little legs while the a/c is high enough that her daddy is in long sleeves (at least I hope that's why he's in long sleeves)? Bizarre.

 

[Octopi]

Whatever's going on with Noah, it is certainly not being helped by Alex shoving a fucking camera in his face 24/7. I do feel sorry for him on that front - knocking someone up when he was so unstable is his own fault and he has to own that, but that someone sure is not helping recovery.

There seemed to be plenty of photos of him cuddling and holding Ari to begin with. What changed? Surely the Instagram nudes thing shouldn't impede on father & daughter time, even if Alex is frosty with him at the moment.

 

[glioblastoma multiforme]

the fact ari was on the floor when noah was 'watching' something with her is just fucked. she's small enough to be tucked in her fathers arms, there's just no need. and don't most parents want to hold their babies pretty constantly? it would have taken him zero effort but meant so much to her.

i agree with the others that this doesn't bode well for her future mental stability, so much can be done in those first 6 months that is really hard to undo.

like my parents have pics of me and my sister snuggled up to them on the sofa at way older ages. i assume this is normal?

 

[Barbarella]

like my parents have pics of me and my sister snuggled up to them on the sofa at way older ages. i assume this is normal?

I’m not a touchy-feely type either but neither of my kids was out of my arms when they were babies, unless asleep. I wore them in pack and slings to do chores and errands, sat playing with them on the couch, let them nap in my arms. Sure, they had bouncy chairs and swings and a stroller but those things were typically used when I had to shower, or when they were fussy or I was taking them a longer distance or whatever. Dad would get home and have his turn, a ball game woukd go on and he’d watch sports while holding playing with baby.

I cuddled with them until they decided they were too old, not my decision.

I’m not unusual, I think that’s normal parental behavior. I’ve never seen somebody leave their baby all day in a chair or swing. I know Alex can no longer hold the baby but Noah and the caregivers can. If Alex hasn’t read a book on child development, shame on her. That baby needs holding, physical touch, her needs met and by 3 if she doesn’t have that her brain is not going to form in the right way and she’ll have personality disorders, etc. talking at a baby and waving things in front of her face is not enough.

 

[BunchofMunch]

Obviously, it's okay to have personal intrests likes, hobbies, ect when you become a parent, but when my kids were infants, i was just so tired and busy taking care of them I wouldnt have thought of clubbing. I can't be the only one here that feels like that.

Yeah, and even if you for some weird reason would have had the energy for clubbing, who would want to leave their infant for even a second so early on? However sleep deprived and exhausted you may feel as a new mother, there are still all these primal instincts making you want nothing more than to keep that little poop monster within an arms reach at every second of the day.
This situation is honestly just appalling, that poor child...

 

[SpiceyHuman]

Seeing Noah on the couch "watching a movie with Ari" without actaully having physical contact with her just seemed so alien to me. With all my kids, I was constantly holding them.