Transphobic? Or just a distasteful joke?Possible Trigger (
self.trans)
Would you say this is transphobic or just a joke in poor taste?
A few years ago I joined a queer group in my area on Facebook. There’s this girl who I know (that used to be a client of the service I work for) that also is part of the group as she identifies as pansexual.
I noticed she popped up on my Facebook as a potential mutual friend so I clicked on her profile and her bio says:
“I’m an eco sexual and my pronouns are tree/trunk, you MUST respect this and use these pronouns at all times lmao”
I was taken aback by this and thought it was a little inappropriate. I contacted the admin of the queer group and pointed it out to her. She was also taken aback and told me she would ask her about it.
A couple of days later the admin got back to me and basically said that this girl vehemently denied she was transphobic and that she was making fun of people who have neopronouns who insisted on people using these terms and get upset when you don’t.\
I told the admin that I felt it was inappropriate anyway but there was nothing the admin could do about it as she wasn’t breaking any rules.
I reached out to a few of my trans friends who are friends with this girl and they said that it was just a joke in poor taste.
When I checked out the girls profile again she had written on the bottom of her bio “nice try.”
Am I over reacting? Would you say it’s just a poorly distasteful joke or is there any transphobia involved?