Virtually no men who make that argument want or care about the kids. At best they worry women will take their money. They are also the type of men who would do the same thing that single moms do to their kids, which is to bludgeon them with guilt and sadness over their mother being a piece of shit. I get so tired of the bad faith from that side. Yes men often lose custody but on the flip side there are many, many men who abandon all responsibility for their children and leave it to the mother.
Nick would love nothing more than to only have to see his kids once a year. He probably envies Aaron.
That explains why he does not do Friday evening shows and only one short stream on Sundays (his members-only show). He does seem to protect his 'dad time'.
Fwiw, MN is one of the most progressive states for fathers wrt visitation. The best states for equal parenting time are a weird hodgepodge of states - Minnesota, Kentucky, Utah, and Arizona. Most states are slowly deferring to 50/50 time based on evidence that it's psychologically better for kids and encourages fathers to pay their share of the parenting costs over a longer time (better bonding with more time = better financial support for kids).
About 40% of states aim for 50-50 shared parenting time. In MN it’s the default starting-point assumption (which also has impacts to child support analyses, as those typically slide based both on income and on parenting time %).
If the parties negotiate a formal arrangement, whether the same or different than that court’s starting point, courts usually go with it.
Parties can also informally agree to something different than the order if they want to do so without having the court formally endorse it. The buttoned-up approach says no, but reality is different. There is also the phenomenon of a titular 50%-time parent just flaking out. The cost of going to court to…do something about that…can be prohibitive.
In general, when men petition for and go to trial for primary custody, they get it the majority of the time. But most arrangements - of whatever flavor - are not contested.
Is that a reaction to this?
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Nick's lying again if that makes you feel better.
Aaron has said he has 50/50 custody, which I believe is true on paper but is
also an exaggeration in practicality. He's explained it. IIRC, he gets 3 weekends/month, which includes Friday, Saturday, and Sunday nights, and half of their vacations.
So that’s 9 days of active responsibility/ month (98 days/year), plus maybe another 10, counting 2 weeks’ vacation at Christmas and a week of Spring Break. So 118/365, or close to a third. Sounds about like the reality of many “50-50” arrangements, except that Aaron claims he freely gives up 3/4 of his weekends, which most are not willing to do.
I say all that not from opinion of Aaron or his parenting, but to point up that if what he has said is accurate, then Nick’s snark is as usual way off-base.
AND, Nick, even when you had three, four, or five adults at/ in your house, your kids still looked bedraggled and disconcerting. So I really don’t think parenting critiques should ever come out of your mouth.
That may be one of Nick's most flabbergastingly idiotic copes. The CPS person was obviously flabbergasted that someone could come from the silver spoon background of Nick and still be an even bigger fuckup than the usual white (and other colored) trash she deals with.
Nick just has a problem picking up social cues I guess.
I LOVE how he missed that so utterly and completely. This derp gets insulted to his face and runs around bragging about it. “Mommy, mommy! Everyone at school says I’m
exceptional! That means I’m the best!”