I'm aquainted with a foid that has said something that was peculiar. She said something along the lines that most guys that take care of themselves today look like fags or hustlers and most men that don't take care of themselves look like slobs and molesters.
Gurl, I've had the same thing happen! ...just fewer women fresh out of jail and more women wanting to be spoiled. A few years ago I saved a bunch of the most egregious profiles to send to friends. If we don't laugh we cry!
There's a middle ground between grooming obsessively and looking like a slob. Don't pluck your eyebrows with a ruler, but do shave your beard/keep it nice (if you choose to grow it). Don't style your hair with a blow dryer and hair products every morning, but do wash it and get a haircut on a regular basis. Don't always wear the latest styles, but do wear clothes that fit you and look new-ish without too many wrinkles.
We would hit the gene pool harder than crack in the 70s but I would love to see it
I have literally never heard anyone say this before. Your friend is very
That's kind of a thing with a lot of guys. Those that care about appearance care about it a too much to the point they are willing to take advice from anyone. Those who don't would dress themselves even with curtains if it was socially acceptable.
It's a combination of 1) most people being NPCs with little going on up there. 2) men optimizing their dating profile. Women complain about men with their fishing photos or being excited about their tibetian woven basket collection. So they look up what are good hobbies for dating apps and pick those.
Your friend is falling for the same trap almost everyone does in the social media era; extremes of either case are displayed and discussed prominently, moderates aren't.
Women like men who they can feel secure in but at the same time aren't disgusted by. A man who is so committed to his high maintenance appearance will never give a woman that sense of security; he will always be more concerned with his own looks than his woman's well-being and that is extremely unattractive.
All the more reason for Josh to roll out KiwiDating
If you like fishing and basket weaving but are "optimizing" to cast a wide net of people who find those things ridiculous, then you're optimizing for failure? Just be yourself simple as.
I don't disagree. But maybe the basketweaving doesnt make for a good opener, but does work well once you sit down and talk. A lot of men feel hopeless and desperate. They tried being honest and upfront, but didn't get any matches. They look online what other people suggest. "Travel? Well, I've been to tibet to weave baskets before. I'll just say I like travel".
This "phenomena" is found whenever a bunch of men are polled about their height. Vid related, it also includes self-reported height that isn't for a dating app: https://youtu.be/eipZ4hVV1R4
What app did you end up picking?
Hinge as it seems like the most "normal" one, I heard from friends that it's easier to find more people who want long-term relationships instead of one night stands.
Nobody's first choice, or second, or third, is a dating app. If people have a choice, they prefer to meet someone at a leisure gathering, or hobby club, or school, or club, or pub, or even someone they woke up next to with no memory of last night, just anything other than a dating app. When you try dating apps, you're desperate enough to endure the misery of dating apps everyone tells you about. And you don't care about lying if that at least gets you a date.
I don't think it's possible to find someone I have a genuine connection with on an app, not because there's no good women on it, but the format just doesn't allow you to get to know each other. I also don't have any other options though, so I just have to hope I'm wrong and hit the lottery.
This is why I've tried finding locations or groups to join where we have at least one common interest already. Effectively, the ice is already broken, taking away the hardest part of interacting with strangers. My only hang up is I keep meeting other dudes or women who are either already taken and/or have a 15+ year age difference than me.
