For example the mindset if that if you lose its your fault. Say you go to a hairdresser and they botched your haircut, it's your fault for failing to prevent it by going to a different salon, or if you hit and killed someone but you manage to avoid prison then it's the victim's fault for not avoiding your car when you head towards them.
Sounds Chinese/Korean, lol.
Honestly, that sucks. Back when I was struggling to get along with my mother, she would notice that and instead of handling things differently (how?) she would loudly say that, oh, I just didn't love her. How could I? She was just
such a bad mother...
I ended up not loving her anymore, really. Years passed before I felt a thing. I genuinely thought that I would live the rest of my days not feeling sad, frustrated, embarrassed, ashamed, for not talking to my mother any more than I needed to. But, I don't know, she stopped acting clinically insane and I kind of am starting to love her again? It sounds ridiculous, coming from an adult, but hey. Maybe, some day, your parents will stop acting this way? Although, perhaps not.
I'm yet to tell my mother that I once stopped loving her; and that I am attempting to love her back now. That conversation would most definitely be awkward.
It's 2 AM and I just realized how stupid of a concept dating is.
I downloaded [insert dating app here] and stuck with it for a year or two. It "worked" but finding anyone worthwhile took time; and that's fine, actually! It's hard to describe people with an itemized list the likes of a shopping list, and that's exactly what these apps intend to do. The item, the product, what you're looking for has been so thoroughly reduced to a bunch of tags and short sentences that it's genuinely hard to find "the one" if all you're doing is look at five pictures and read for a minute about them.
Also, there's FOMO. It's not about finding the hottest and smartest person, but it does make you think: if I want to get married, and I'm dating this one person, could I really imagine myself marrying them? And it is this mistake that triggers FOMO, prompting you to never "date seriously" because you don't have enough information. And you never will on the first date!
I'd like to point out that your friends setting you up on dates was fairly common back then, and I bet it still is now; but people don't have as many friends anymore, and that's factual. So it's not just about dating, but developing adequate, healthy, relationships with people (coworkers, friends, boyfriend-girlfriend, etc.).
There are 3 secrets to sleep that normies have no clue about.
TakeThiamine-coded. Wait, did we talk here before? Are you the human person I talked to ages ago?
Regardless of whether that's the case or not, I'm trying
NoScroll! I used to spend like, I don't know, four to six hours a day "reading" Xitter posts to learn a thing or two, only to realize that I'm not learning a thing.
Maybe if I just use an AI to go over everything and send me over what's akshually relevant (giving me a so-called
digest), I could both save time and finally learn things, too?
My secret is you chug a bunch of laxatives and take a massive shit, like so massive it's traumatizing, and then you'll sleep for days.
I once got scared out of laxatives (not that I've ever taken any anyway) from skimming over a paper that talked about increased cancer rates from laxative usage. And no, I don't mean that using them once will give you ass cancer, but still.
Lots of thoughts on race, like colonization. If migrants aren't allowed to come into the US, why is the US allowed to come into other countries and take over them? This is a genuine question, I'm not even being cheeky. I've been wondering it for a while.
Every time I encounter this argument, I am forced to admit that I have no answer. From whatever little I learned about what is now known as Latin America, lots of indigenous peoples were used as cannon fodder, or the most dangerous forms of human labor, ensuring that anyone that survives is ethnically cleansed through assimilation: pumping out mixed-race kids, which would then have their would-be lesser blood further diluted.
Are there races "superior" to others? It depends on what, say, scale. Jews are, by far, the most ethnocentric and
vicious people I've ever had the misfortune of learning about; then there are Asian peoples that seem rather amoral at times, but not as what countless people from "the West" would deem purposely evil. Others may digress.
Then there's the colonialist argument, that those that managed to both explore the world and extract their resources, however much they could at the time, as well as setting up shop there,
are the superior peoples. I find that to be entirely reasonable when I compare humans to animals.
As always, one can talk about how, akshually, humans are fundamentally different to animals so we must consider another scale; or none at all. But even if we talk about intelligence or height (which are heavily influenced by nutrient availability and contaminant exposure), strength, knowledge—that's influenced by resource availability, too, which brings the colonialist argument back.
I've been thinking about it, and I don't understand what we as humans are supposed to do in regards to handling the different peoples of the world. If you don't do anything, for instance, millions upon millions
more of humans will die of starvation and disease in a given time frame; if we keep dumping resources for them as if we were babysitting them, somewhat proving that some societies require more assistance than others, we'd be creating life; but how much do we want to give to this world, and why?
I've read all kinds of religious arguments, but I'm unsure what we, as wielders of a worldwide civilization we're starting to become as a species, are supposed to do: become trillions of humans on Earth? Kill everyone till our numbers diminish till 500M or so? Solving disease and most lethal, preventable harm from humans? Just let nature do its thing and let everybody die naturally like we've been mostly doing until
somewhat recently?
