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[scathefire]

Somehow the most disquieting thing about this to me is that she was apparently promiscuous as a middle schooler... who the fuck is promiscuous when they're 11-13 years old? The sexually damaged/abused, maybe.

 

[Alcoholism]

"I wanted my boyfriend to experience other things since they were not able to when they were younger, so that's why I asked him if I could fuck around."

 

[FeatherPlucker]

Bitch wants what she can't have. You nagged him into letting you screw other guys then when he found someone better in every way you're regretting it.

She sounds like an idiot-- what was she expecting?

His girlfriend sounds like an idiot, too-- why spend your free time chasing some moron with a wife and a son while you're trying to get your PhD?

 

[break these cuffs]

She sounds like an idiot-- what was she expecting?

His girlfriend sounds like an idiot, too-- why spend your free time chasing some moron with a wife and a son while you're trying to get your PhD?

Daddy issues.

 

[Geese Howard]

Not from r/polyamory, but relevant.

https://old.reddit.com/r/AmItheAssh...for_not_writing_my_sister_a_reference_for_an/ (Archive)

From the comments:

https://old.reddit.com/r/AmItheAssh...writing_my_sister_a_reference_for_an/gu1x0xp/ (Archive)

 

[Brain Problems]

Love the replyguy hopping in with his two-cents and "not-alling" poly-coomers. They honestly believe that a bunch of random adults putting the goal of getting laid first and foremost over the health and safety of their children is not "inherently worse" than a monogamous one. The deleted user sounds honestly like their childhood was miserable and fucked up because of (I'm assuming her based on the writing) parents' decision to selfishly pursue cooming at all costs.

Polytards can pretend all they want and waste government and university money on cherry-picked, biased, low sample group studies but at the end of the day they're trying to reinvent the wheel with some fucked up triangular variation that they swear is just as good if not better than you Neanderthal mono types.

 

[LinkinParkxNaruto[AMV]]

They're still married. Shes still lowkey bitter about not being able to fuck whoever she wants. I hope the husband realizes how controlling she is and gets away some day.

whats more frustating is that often those men (and women) realize they are getting played, they still stay for way longer than logic can explain because they are insecure and don't think they'd manage to start from scratch again and ever find somebody better. People will low self esteem are easy targets to become the doormat of manipulators and chronic abusers, there's always glaring power imbalances and gaslighting in these arrangements.

 

[MetalParakeet]

I've noticed a strong push from the poly people on fb lately.

I creep some advice groups and what not, and typically people are bitching about relationships. It's pretty common to see a few posts a day about how someone is falling for their coworker, or suspects the same of their spouse.

There will at least be one vocal prick in the comments screaming about polyamory, and crying that everyone is s mean bigot when people tell them they're not interested.

 

[folly magnet]

Not from r/polyamory, but relevant.

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Custody disputes are always hell on earth with 2 parents. How do they think it's gonna work out with 4? Ask any lawyers, they'll tell you family court will make you lose your faith in humanity. If whoever birthed the child is smart, she'll be the only one on the birth certificate to make it easier when the inevitable split happens. Some courts and legislatures already recognize tri-parenting though. Good luck with custody agreements if they did that.

 

[TVStactic]

Somehow the most disquieting thing about this to me is that she was apparently promiscuous as a middle schooler... who the fuck is promiscuous when they're 11-13 years old? The sexually damaged/abused, maybe.

since it claims to be 26, you can guess it had a awful exposition to pornography at earlier age with the high probability of being abused because at the time the internet was at it's infancy. and it also claims to "experience all the good things in the world" and then it gives nuance towards sex like it's some majical thing. fucking predatory shit man i see from 26yo dudes going around high school chicks around here

Daddy issues.

she may also be into older dudes too, so yeah. daddy issues.

Either way, I feel horribly for those kids. How do people have the time to fuck around so much when they have children?

by being absent parents.

How come you never see this kind of autism with threesomes and swingers?

swingers/3summers hate poly people because of that retardation of "owning" the other, swinging is casual, 3some is casual. these retards want short/long term instead of a casual/FWB (plus they are redditorians so you can guess how dumber they are). anyway i shall check all of the redditorian one-two-three lojics later as i've been getting r/science featured way too many times already.

one example: My girlfriend's twitter got people scratching their heads I think

if you didn't notice the filename, the gf's twitter is protected... meaning only a few people got to see it...

 

[Alcoholism]

How come you never see this kind of autism with threesomes and swingers?

Physically or socially attractive people who are successful in life and just want to fuck around just "fuck around". They don't have to ascribe any higher meaning to their fucking around.

Only ugly losers need to politicize their fucking so they can fill the empty hole that mountains of dick can't.

 

[Schatzi Katze]

whats more frustating is that often those men (and women) realize they are getting played, they still stay for way longer than logic can explain because they are insecure and don't think they'd manage to start from scratch again and ever find somebody better. People will low self esteem are easy targets to become the doormat of manipulators and chronic abusers, there's always glaring power imbalances and gaslighting in these arrangements.

Preaching to the choir, my friend. Been through that shit myself and was lucky to come out the other side without significant lasting trauma.

It was surreal to see with those folks because they are both incredibly bright people with graduate degrees, but then again its important to remember that emotional and academic intelligence are different skillsets. Perhaps thats the core issue a lot of your self identified poly people fall into, that they think they can just read a few books on the subject and "learn" how to do it when emotions just dont work like that.

 

[LinkinParkxNaruto[AMV]]

Preaching to the choir, my friend. Been through that shit myself and was lucky to come out the other side without significant lasting trauma.

It was surreal to see with those folks because they are both incredibly bright people with graduate degrees, but then again its important to remember that emotional and academic intelligence are different skillsets. Perhaps thats the core issue a lot of your self identified poly people fall into, that they think they can just read a few books on the subject and "learn" how to do it when emotions just dont work like that.

true, smart people can be very good at rationalizing very idiotic choices and have a habit of failing when it comes to situations that require common sense. There's actually studies and books written about it.

Not only stupid people act foolishly: Smart people can act foolishly by virtue of their thinking they are too smart to do so. Such people tend to act foolishly through the commission of one or more of five cognitive fallacies: (1) unrealistic optimism, whereby they believe that they are so smart that they can do whatever they want and not worry about it; (2) egocentrism, whereby they focus on themselves and what benefits them while discounting or even totally ignoring their responsibilities to others; (3) omniscience, whereby they believe they know everything, instead of knowing what they do not know; (4) omnipotence, whereby they believe they can do whatever they want because they are all-powerful; and (5) invulnerability, whereby they believe that they will get away with whatever they do, no matter how inappropriate or irresponsible it may be. The antidote to foolishness is wisdom. The balance theory of wisdom proposes that people are wise to the extent they apply their intelligence, creativity, and wisdom toward a common good by balancing their own interests, the interests of others, and the interests of organizations or other supra-individual entities; over the long and short terms; through the infusion of values; to adapt to, shape, and select environments. (PsycINFO Database Record (c) 2017 APA, all rights reserved)

APA PsycNet

psycnet.apa.org

https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/295732

 

[blablabla]

in my mind there is not a single scenario where this would be ok. i mean just what the fuck

 

[572.4]

whats more frustating is that often those men (and women) realize they are getting played, they still stay for way longer than logic can explain because they are insecure and don't think they'd manage to start from scratch again and ever find somebody better. People will low self esteem are easy targets to become the doormat of manipulators and chronic abusers, there's always glaring power imbalances and gaslighting in these arrangements.

I stayed for longer than I should have/wanted to because I moved halfway across the world for that person and was on a temporary resident permit at that time. That resident permit was based on my relationship with that person, so if I left him before I got permanent residency without any other compelling reason to stay, I had to go back.

He brought up poly relationship after I moved and was already living with him. You know, gave up my job, being far away from my family and friends in a country that I didn't know anyone and (at that time) couldn't speak the language and all...I felt stuck.

But I got a job, found someone much better, got out and have been out for a while. My life is much better now but that shit leaves deep trauma.

I was resentful of the girl that he met on OkCupid who introduced him to poly, but I realized that by the fact that he never deactivated his OkC account in the first place, he already wanted to fuck around and that girl just provided him with a convenient "solution" .

I'm glad that the country that I moved to didn't require me to marry that person in order to be able to stay, because otherwise it would have been much more of a nightmare than it already was.

 

[Coccxys]

My mate married the first girl he got with (we all knew she had fucked about half the town at some point or another including 2 of his cousins) at like 19 (was a dumb idea and everyone told hom so but dude had just dipped his wick and thought that tingling feeling was true love).

After a couple of years she did the "let's open up so you can get more experiences". He (trying to save it) said he'd think about it and got me to meet him down the pub for a chat about it all.

Well suprise suprise when he got home she had a guy on the house with "well you didn't say no", almost as if she'd chosen the guy before "asking".

They decided to close the relationship and try to make it work after that about a month later she paid some high end "sex worker" to try and seduce him down the pub to try and get him to cheat/open it up. When he turned the prossy down she must have let the wife know because she was right down the pub pitching a fit about how he must be gay and he was controlling her.

They got a divorce pretty quickly after. So standard "promiscuous" woman trying to manipulate their guy into letting them fuck around like most of this poly shit is.

 

[BubbleButt]

almost as if she'd chosen the guy before "asking".

They always have.

 

[Raisin Boy]

My mate married the first girl he got with (we all knew she had fucked about half the town at some point or another including 2 of his cousins) at like 19 (was a dumb idea and everyone told hom so but dude had just dipped his wick and thought that tingling feeling was true love).

After a couple of years she did the "let's open up so you can get more experiences". He (trying to save it) said he'd think about it and got me to meet him down the pub for a chat about it all.

Well suprise suprise when he got home she had a guy on the house with "well you didn't say no", almost as if she'd chosen the guy before "asking".

They decided to close the relationship and try to make it work after that about a month later she paid some high end "sex worker" to try and seduce him down the pub to try and get him to cheat/open it up. When he turned the prossy down she must have let the wife know because she was right down the pub pitching a fit about how he must be gay and he was controlling her.

They got a divorce pretty quickly after. So standard "promiscuous" woman trying to manipulate their guy into letting them fuck around like most of this poly shit is.

They always have.

I mean, do we need to say it again? If your partner asks to open the relationship or they come out as polyamorous, dollars to donuts they're already cheating or in the process of cheating. The first time they so much as ask, break it off.

 

[break these cuffs]

I mean, do we need to say it again? If your partner asks to open the relationship or they come out as polyamorous, dollars to donuts they're already cheating or in the process of cheating. The first time they so much as ask, break it off.

Same thing if they ask for a break where you're allowed to see other people. They're bored with you and want to fuck someone else, but too chickenshit to end it.

 

[Pastor Martin Ssempa]

"Bourgeois marriage is in reality a system of wives in common and thus, at the most, what the Communists might possibly be reproached with, is that they desire to introduce, in substitution for a hypocritically concealed, an openly legalised community of women. For the rest, it is self-evident that the abolition of the present system of production must bring with it the abolition of the community of women springing from that system, i.e., of prostitution both public and private.” - Karl Marx