Age Gap Relationships - You can't stop me from doing your grandma... but I'll stop myself, because I respect you

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JohnMadman said:
Currently husband is 21 years older than me. Our relationship has lasted over a decade so far.
I prefer older men because you know what you're getting. That and it's easier to find an older guy who also doesn't want kids.

The downside is my husband will get old and annoying long before I do. I can cope with saggy testicles but I don't look forward to the upcoming perils of old age.
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Nearly in the same situation though I wanted, and got, kids. Miraculously without the autism I was told we were guaranteed to encounter.

Does your husband ever tell you about his younger days, and do you ever feel glad you missed all that crazy shit? Because that's where I'm at with mine. Glad he's the world's most interesting man, but also glad I never had to spend a sleepless week wondering if he was okay while he almost died in the desert riding his motorcycle on mushrooms.

Meanwhile a good quarter of my contemporaries are finding out who their husbands really are, or getting traded in for a newer model. I am really happy for my friends and family who have same-age husbands who are dependable and compatible though. Must be nice living in a household where no one is turning off my Lady Ga Ga to make me listen to his Steely Dan albums.
 
Skitzels said:
Video game microtransactions, OnlyFans, guns… list goes on
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I was going to say in Rekieta's kids case, probably balldos.
Lady Bizness said:
Meanwhile a good quarter of my contemporaries are finding out who their husbands really are.
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It boggles my mind how people can be so immature in their 20s and 30s. Do they just not feel like they have responsibilities? Or maybe I'm just an outlier since my parents browbeat all the responsibilties of my extended family into me?The only immature thing I do is shitpost on the farms... Probably...

That being said, some older lady (late 30s) in my town keeps hitting on me and I'm not sure if I say yes or no. I know my family would like me to say no though.
 
♂CANAM productions♂ said:
It boggles my mind how people can be so immature in their 20s and 30s. Do they just not feel like they have responsibilities? Or maybe I'm just an outlier since my parents browbeat all the responsibilties of my extended family into me?The only immature thing I do is shitpost on the farms... Probably...
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It really is inexcusable. I feel like a bit of a late bloomer when I look at my grandparent's photos in their first apartment, two kids by the time they were 22...and they were happy!
 
Friend of Dorothy Parker said:
Keep winning, guy.

[Re-think your life.]
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Well, yeah, I'm not the one who's
A) suspended/blacklisted by my job agency for dating and proposing to a superior and not notifying the job agency beforehand

B) dating and proposing to a career woman

C) dating then soon marrying a woman who's well over the age of 30 and has already hit the wall and all eggs depleted :eli:
 
lostpwgoesbrrrr said:
Well, yeah, I'm not the one who's
A) suspended/blacklisted by my job agency for dating and proposing to a superior and not notifying the job agency beforehand.
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Dumb
lostpwgoesbrrrr said:
B) dating and proposing to a career woman.
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Mad
lostpwgoesbrrrr said:
C) dating then soon marrying a woman who's well over the age of 30 and has already hit the wall and all eggs depleted :eli:
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Autistic

Rarely have I seen all of those covered in such a short post. So good job?

But you're still a snitch bitch.
 
lostpwgoesbrrrr said:
Well, yeah, I'm not the one who's
A) suspended/blacklisted by my job agency for dating and proposing to a superior and not notifying the job agency beforehand

B) dating and proposing to a career woman

C) dating then soon marrying a woman who's well over the age of 30 and has already hit the wall and all eggs depleted :eli:
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A) All marriage proposals must be pre-approved. Send engagement ring receipts and valuations/appraisals to HR. Exceptions apply if the betrothed happens to be blue-collar.

B) See paragraph 1, sentence 2 above. No exceptions.

C) Forward Marriage Licences, Birth Certificates, Fertility Tests, photographs of wall and missing eggs, so we can deflect the dragon dildo any decent employment tribunal will probe the job agency with. Dry.
 
All I know for certain, is that while I was getting my driver's license, my girlfriend was starting kindergarten, and we're both pretty damn happy.
Of course, I also make her call me Daddy when she gets off, so maybe I'm just a filthy degenerate.
 
My boyfriend is 6 years younger than me, at first i was concerned. When we met, he was 19. I thought he was like 23 and he thought i was also 19 so both of us were shocked when we found out each others age. Being a 25yo female dating a 19yo male was kinda weird at first, people thought it was weird af too which make me really insecure. Lucky me i looked 19 too so the age gap wasn't clear to everyone. What made me comfortable with the age difference was the fact that i could, somewhat, prevent him from making mistakes i made when i was around his age. Things i deeply regretted, like wasting too much time on dumb stuff, college related decisions and etc. I feel like i made things easier for him like this, it was like i gave him a walkthrough of life that saved him from a lot of distress and bad choices. Kinda made me cope about bad stuff that happened to me too, because at least i had the "cautionary tale" excuse to justify them. We're still together, he still listens to me and trusts me a lot.
 
lostpwgoesbrrrr said:
Glad I found this thread. Bumping it instead of creating a new one.

I knew someone who's in one.

I'm against them because I'm not in one.

Just kidding. I think it's a stupid fetish, on the same level as foot fetish. And should be treated with animosity.

I'm with a job agency and worked a temporary construction job between July and November and one of my colleagues, who's with my job agency, is dating a woman 7 years older than him. They've been dating for 3 years. Dude is 27 and his S/O 34.

Plot twist, that woman was his/our superior for the construction job. Something unethical is clearly happening here.

At first we never knew, maybe except the snr site boss, they were in a relationship but there were small signs, like the both of them leaving the site for lunch and them arriving and getting in the same car to go home, half the time his car and her car.

Toolbox meeting was called by the snr site manager just after lunch and signs were confirmed. Dude proposed to his girlfriend infront of everyone and she foolishly said yes. People were foolishly clapping, smiling and cheering like sheep. Some were filming it. I did too and snitched to our job agency by emailing them the video. Surely there's something here that violates agency policy.

Next day at work, we are short one person. The dude who proposed to his girlfriend. Our superior tells the 11 of us her fiancé has been blacklisted by the agency.

Unironically proud of what I did, unrepentant and unapologetic.

We followed each other on instagram at first but I unfollowed after he stopped turning up and I followed with a dummy account. Took a peep at his IG couple hours ago, they were relaxing on a beach in Indonesia.

I pray for the downfall of their "relationship".

To me age gap relationships are basically "tell me you wanna fuck your mum's friends without telling me you wanna". If the ages don't touch, neither should you.
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If this isn't some dumb LARP, you are probably the most pathetic and miserable faggot on all of Kiwi Farms.
 
Women are most attracted to men in their thirties, because men are valued for their status and for their ability to provide.
Men are most attracted to women in their early twenties, because women are valued for their fertility and for their ability to rear children.
Because of these reasons, age gaps have always been very common in the world.
I don't think this is a very big deal, and I think circumstances should be judged on a case-by-case basis.
Age is not just a number, but I have met some very intelligent young people and some very fucking stupid old people.
Although there is a correlation between age and maturity, it is not always the case.
I think that as long as both parties are committed to the relationship, and the nature of the relationship is not predatory, it is fine.
 
Wendy's Chili said:
Women are most attracted to men in their thirties, because men are valued for their status and for their ability to provide.
Men are most attracted to women in their early twenties, because women are valued for their fertility and for their ability to rear children.
Because of these reasons, age gaps have always been very common in the world.
I don't think this is a very big deal, and I think circumstances should be judged on a case-by-case basis.
Age is not just a number, but I have met some very intelligent young people and some very fucking stupid old people.
Although there is a correlation between age and maturity, it is not always the case.
I think that as long as both parties are committed to the relationship, and the nature of the relationship is not predatory, it is fine.
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This is basically the basis for my uncle and his wife when they married. He was mid 30s, she was mid 20s, he wanted kids and someone who wasn't going to argue too much with him, she wanted financial security. From what I've seen, it's worked fine. Little bit of a rift between his wife and my other uncles and their wives (they are older and married women closer to their age, so bit of difficulty connecting with someone who is 15 years younger on an equal level). Seemed to work out in the end, especially as the years passed by.

Yeah, age gap relationship seems to be fine depending on the age. I would be far more suspect if it was something like a 27 year old going out with an 18 year old, who to me, is still mentally a kid. Mid 20's to 30's, it can work.
 
La Usurpadora said:
My boyfriend is 6 years younger than me, at first i was concerned. When we met, he was 19. I thought he was like 23 and he thought i was also 19 so both of us were shocked when we found out each others age. Being a 25yo female dating a 19yo male was kinda weird at first, people thought it was weird af too which make me really insecure. Lucky me i looked 19 too so the age gap wasn't clear to everyone. What made me comfortable with the age difference was the fact that i could, somewhat, prevent him from making mistakes i made when i was around his age. Things i deeply regretted, like wasting too much time on dumb stuff, college related decisions and etc. I feel like i made things easier for him like this, it was like i gave him a walkthrough of life that saved him from a lot of distress and bad choices. Kinda made me cope about bad stuff that happened to me too, because at least i had the "cautionary tale" excuse to justify them. We're still together, he still listens to me and trusts me a lot.
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Around that age I was in a similar situation with a girl who was 5-6 years older than me (and was also above me in my company) who was very actively interested, and she looked young for her age, she got a fair bit of attention from other guys too because she was pretty extroverted and admittedly had a kickin butt.

I wasn't really comfortable with the idea though because the concept of getting involved with an assertive older women seemed suspect to me, like there was going to be Freudian stuff going on there and it was going to turn it into some kind of weird codependent mother/big sister deal that wouldn't really be healthy for anyone involved in the long run.
I wasn't sure if I was just being cynical though.

Thankfully your story has confirmed to me that I was almost definitely correct as to how it would've turned out, and probably made the wise choice.

There isn't anything wrong with being with older women casually, it's just that if the younger guy is a little insecure or doesn't know what he's doing she'll absolutely turn him into a lapdog and he's probably never going to develop into an independent man.
 
Uberpenguin said:
Around that age I was in a similar situation with a girl who was 5-6 years older than me (and was also above me in my company) who was very actively interested, and she looked young for her age, she got a fair bit of attention from other guys too because she was pretty extroverted and admittedly had a kickin butt.

I wasn't really comfortable with the idea though because the concept of getting involved with an assertive older women seemed suspect to me, like there was going to be Freudian stuff going on there and it was going to turn it into some kind of weird codependent mother/big sister deal that wouldn't really be healthy for anyone involved in the long run.
I wasn't sure if I was just being cynical though.

Thankfully your story has confirmed to me that I was almost definitely correct as to how it would've turned out, and probably made the wise choice.

There isn't anything wrong with being with older women casually, it's just that if the younger guy is a little insecure or doesn't know what he's doing she'll absolutely turn him into a lapdog and he's probably never going to develop into an independent man.
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You sound like a really pathetic beta male to be honest. Thank god your girlfirend got someone better. lol Imagine your grandparents who went to World War II in high school reading this shit how you are terrifed of assertive women becuase of your mommy issues. And I'm pretty sure you're one of the people here who does a lot of fedposting, which makes this even funnier.
 
mr.moon1488 said:
>has an obsession with teenager girls
>College freshmen
The nu-west is generally retarded, but if I had to pick one thing which is the most bizarre and arbitrary shit I've ever seen it would be the juxtaposition of, on the one hand, acting like a mid-20s dude dating an 18-19 yo girl is pedophilia, but on the other hand, having no issue whatsoever with just overt child grooming.
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To me it's neither bizarre nor arbitrary. The social sentiment is society's reaction to seeing the rampant grooming in a general sense. The problem comes from trying to enforce that sentiment in practice, when the groomers are so often doing so because they are protected from consequences. It takes actual courage and sacrifice to call out the grooming specifically happening but less so to lash out at the general idea of it.
 
Netizennameless said:
To me it's neither bizarre nor arbitrary. The social sentiment is society's reaction to seeing the rampant grooming in a general sense. The problem comes from trying to enforce that sentiment in practice, when the groomers are so often doing so because they are protected from consequences. It takes actual courage and sacrifice to call out the grooming specifically happening but less so to lash out at the general idea of it.
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I'm not well versed in sociology or psychology but I do remember another explanation that older women (mid 20s age like the men) were doing that because they considered those 18-19s to be their competition.
 
Uberpenguin said:
Around that age I was in a similar situation with a girl who was 5-6 years older than me (and was also above me in my company) who was very actively interested, and she looked young for her age, she got a fair bit of attention from other guys too because she was pretty extroverted and admittedly had a kickin butt.

I wasn't really comfortable with the idea though because the concept of getting involved with an assertive older women seemed suspect to me, like there was going to be Freudian stuff going on there and it was going to turn it into some kind of weird codependent mother/big sister deal that wouldn't really be healthy for anyone involved in the long run.
I wasn't sure if I was just being cynical though.

Thankfully your story has confirmed to me that I was almost definitely correct as to how it would've turned out, and probably made the wise choice.

There isn't anything wrong with being with older women casually, it's just that if the younger guy is a little insecure or doesn't know what he's doing she'll absolutely turn him into a lapdog and he's probably never going to develop into an independent man.
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I think it takes a certain level of maturity to accept advice from people with more life experience than you, plus, listening to loved ones doesn't make someone insecure or a "lapdog". I guess its more about your personality and values than the age itself, given that if my partner was the same age as me or even older i would act the same because when you love someone you're supposed to support and take care of them no matter what age they are (imo). In the end, the age thing just means that you have more experience and can somewhat help them more because you went through most situations first. You seem really bitter with the idea of a woman having more life experience than you (age aside?).
Guess your "Freudian stuff" is already going on and you didn't even needed the older girlfriend for it to happen. :thinking:
 
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