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Something must have happened, she stuck with him during the period where he couldn’t work as a doorman and his YouTube hadn’t taken off yet during the nazi pug era.
How does a relationship survive a massive medical condition that makes you basically infertile.
But breaks apart when you just succeeded in creating the family you wanted.
it feels weird that after all that you go "it simply didn't work out" when you've finally reached the comfy stage of your life having made it through poverty, infirtility and the threat of jailtime hanging over your head.
my cousin broke up with her boyfriend of ~10 years 1 year after their baby was born.
Odd that.
The timing of this break-up, so soon after having kids, makes me strongly suspect that hormonal birth control is the culprit. (The hormone injections that Sue took during IVF might've acted similarly, but I'm way less familiar with those.)
To summarize, hormonal birth control pills alter a woman's tastes in men for as long as she remains on birth control. The hormones make the woman temporarily attracted to both the appearances and the pheromones of men who are not actually genetically compatible with her. If she ever stops taking the birth control, she will find herself no longer attracted to (if not genuinely repulsed by) the type of man that the pills were making her attracted to.
It's a pretty common pattern for a woman to get put on birth control in middle or high school, stay on it indefinitely so her perception of guys is never any different, start a relationship with a guy whom she thinks she likes, finally get off of the birth control in order to finally have kids with that guy, try to write off the growing doubts and lack of attraction to him during the pregnancy as "oh, that's just pregnancy, I'll be back to normal soon," and then reach the point a year or two later where she just can't deny it anymore that she's married to a guy for whom she feels absolutely nothing because the hormones that she's been on for most of her life tricked her into thinking that she liked him.
And in these cases, there's nothing that can be done to get that old attraction back. A lot of people can't make themselves stay together through that, even for the kids' sake.
Aydin Paladin has a good video going more in-depth on the subject: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KET2JncpJ7o
(Obviously, I don't know whether Sue was on hormonal birth control, and I don't recall her ever mentioning it one way or the other.)