So…okay what is my main problem with ASOIAF just in terms of criticism?
Is it Martin’s hubris with the Aragorn tax comment? No.
Is it his overly descriptive paragraphs of food and dysentery? No.
Is it the utter glacial pace of the plot? Well somewhat but not really.
My main criticism is the work is misleadingly advertised. At the end of the day-it’s about wolf tribe being good guys, all going on their own coming of age hero arcs, and the lion tribe is bad. Dragon tribe seems to be leaning towards bad too.
Martin disguises this pretty well with Tyrion in the early books and Jaimie later, as well as showing how Ned especially was a fairly complex character in his own right-not just a benevolent and naive patriarch.
But as Martin has stated-Tyrion is a villain, Jaimie’s “redemption” is less a redemption per se and more Martin exploring the notion of redemption itself, and cersei and Tywin are both morally rotten and the narrative wants us to believe are far less competent than they are appear.*
*one common refrain is people are loyal to house stark, after all the mountain clans want to save “Ned’s girl” and Tywin’s legacy is collapsing.
This being a major thematic contrast between the two men. Okay first off-it’s two entirely different situations. Secondly-Tywin never had a subordinate house betray him, even the Westerlings defection was mostly insincere. Tyrion is probably going to wreck the Westerlands(or he would if Dream ever came out) and sure that’s a massive failing on Tywin’s part. He never had his ancestral holdings overturned though, and while House Baratheon of King’s Landing may be headed for the Grave(to be fair- a de facto branch of house Lannister what with the incest and all) the Lannister lion is still flying proud in the westerlands. Literally no one, including the Vale is interested in actually seizing casterly rock. And the martells are banking on dragons. Winterfell has already been sacked, the stark family scattered.
It’s just such a ridiculous “point” the narrative wants us to accept.
Backing away from that related tangential a bit-at the end of the day the starks are the protagonists with the Lannisters as antagonists, and the targaryens likely to be antagonists of the starks if the show remotely followed the outline in anyway-especially if Bran becomes king and Sansa ruler of something or another(but not Queen in the Norf because that was dumb).
TLDR: Some of the “themes” don’t really work on closer examination, the Tywin-Ned contrast, the immorality of vengeance(who will be condemning LSH when she guts Daven’s wedding?), and there aren’t “heroes and villains on both sides”-that is simply false.
Basically the narrative is far more conventional and less “subversive” than people say it is, Martin included. He just does a good job of obscuring this fact.