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It's been a while since I've wrote in this thread. Honestly sometimes life just comes at you all at once and you never see it coming. My closest friend has ghosted me for about 5 months, I started a new job a couple of months ago, and lately I've had the flu over the weekend until now. I guess for a while I just got so used to being in a comfortable state of stability where you just expect certain things in your life to just always be there for you. It makes you sort of take for granted what you really have, but losing it makes you cherish the ones closest to you all the more.

But I was never one to let life get me down. The trick I've used is always try to keep yourself occupied with something to look forward to.
 
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Yamamura Video Rental said:
It's been a while since I've wrote in this thread. Honestly sometimes life just comes at you all at once and you never see it coming. My closest friend has ghosted me for about 5 months, I started a new job a couple of months ago, and lately I've had the flu over the weekend until now. I guess for a while I just got so used to being in a comfortable state of stability where you just expect certain things in your life to just always be there for you. It makes you sort of take for granted what you really have, but losing it makes you cherish the ones closest to you all the more.

But I was never one to let life get me down. The trick I've used is always try to keep yourself occupied with something to look forward to.
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why did your friend ghost you? this happens to me sometimes and I dont even know why
 
TIM4EUS said:
why did your friend ghost you? this happens to me sometimes and I dont even know why
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I guess that's always the real crux of it, is that they never really tell you why. I don't think it's anyone's fault particularly. Sometimes two people have different expectations of what they expect out of a friendship and when those expectations aren't met it leads to unreconcilable differences. Sorry I realize this is a vague answer, but I don't really have a good answer tbh.
 
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I'm good, but also feeling weary of the world again. Though I love following the news, it often makes me wonder why some people weren't born as farm animals instead.

Also, I actually got to tell off a scumbag this week too. It was satisfying because I made him feel both angry and sad. I told him that he's literal human garbage and people like him justify institutions like cops, courts, prisons, gun ownership, self-defense, security systems, and the death penalty. Finally, and this was what made him sad, I told him he's a waste of life, a drain on society, and if he had any dignity and self-awareness that he would have killed himself a long time ago. He'll never get better and any attempts to "help" him are pointless.

This scumbag is a former neighbor who terrorized my family long ago. I have never forgiven him nor will I ever do so.

Thanks for hearing me out. (:_(
 
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Springs here but the Temps are near summer levels. It almost topped 80 where I live today. As much as I love the fall. Everytime spring comes around the shift in the temperature and the air gives me...."that feeling." You know what I mean? Like you stop and suddenly a lot of old memories just flash through your mind and for a brief moment it's like a waking dream/memory.
 
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I'd been having chronic back pain (tingling, burning nerve pain) for months and month that was just killing me, especially when I sat for any length of time. I figured I'm well into my 30s now and pretty tall, so it's probably just something I'm going to have to live with.

Took an extra long break from my normal lifting routine at the beginning of March and... the pain is gone and it doesn't seem to be coming back. I have no idea what I did to solve the problem, but I'm feeling much, much better physically.
 
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I'd been having chronic back pain (tingling, burning nerve pain) for months and month that was just killing me, especially when I sat for any length of time. I figured I'm well into my 30s now and pretty tall, so it's probably just something I'm going to have to live with.

Took an extra long break from my normal lifting routine at the beginning of March and... the pain is gone and it doesn't seem to be coming back. I have no idea what I did to solve the problem, but I'm feeling much, much better physically.
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maybe you weren't giving yourself time to heal after pushing yourself too hard one day?
 
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maybe you weren't giving yourself time to heal after pushing yourself too hard one day?
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I don't think so - at least not just that alone. I've taken that kind of time off in the past and the problem persisted.

I started really working hard on posterior chain flexibility in early 2022 and have really made a lot of progress. I'm wondering if that's finally paying dividends and relieved a pinched nerve or something.
 
I strongly suspect that I'm being sexually harassed by an older women at work(old, not hot and not a retired person). I say "strongly suspect" because I don't know what the criteria is for men but flip the script/genders and it would absolutely be 400% sexual harassment if I was a woman. It's kind of funny though.
 
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I was getting some withdrawal until I realized I could access this site through tor. Still too quiet tho
 
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I used to think that your username was quirky, but now I know that it actually had a real world origin story.
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Yeah. I wish I was joking.

Long story short, the said neighbor was a drug addict with a horrendous criminal record. He only got to move into our community thanks to one of his relatives. After he got arrested/evicted, he had the nerve to come back many years later and try to make amends because he was hoping that maybe he could move back and have a second chance. Besides making our community less safe, he vandalized my property and even threatened to kill one of my family members. As I said before, I never forgot nor forgave. He tried to say that prison life changed him and he goes to church now, so I should totally let my guard down, forgive him, and blindly trust him.

Nope. Not going to happen. Ever. His antics in our community weren't his first rodeo with these types of issues, so I highly doubt he's genuinely reformed. Even if he did reform, I believe he has to live with what he did. Fortunately, he was turned away. Fuck him and fuck everything about him. Like a wise man once said, you get what you fucking deserve.
 
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Neighborhood Curmudgeon said:
Yeah. I wish I was joking.

Long story short, the said neighbor was a drug addict with a horrendous criminal record. He only got to move into our community thanks to one of his relatives. After he got arrested/evicted, he had the nerve to come back many years later and try to make amends because he was hoping that maybe he could move back and have a second chance. Besides making our community less safe, he vandalized my property and even threatened to kill one of my family members. As I said before, I never forgot nor forgave. He tried to say that prison life changed him and he goes to church now, so I should totally let my guard down, forgive him, and blindly trust him.

Nope. Not going to happen. Ever. His antics in our community weren't his first rodeo with these types of issues, so highly doubt he's genuinely reformed. Even if he did reform, I believe he has to live with what he did. Fortunately, he was turned away. Fuck him and fuck everything about him. Like a wise man once said, you get what you fucking deserve.
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Right call. People may (:optimistic:)change, but history don't.
 
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Catching up on errands today, getting some cleaning done. Cautiously optimistic about pulling myself out of bad spiraling behaviors. I went for a bike ride today 👍
 
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Neighborhood Curmudgeon said:
Yeah. I wish I was joking.

Long story short, the said neighbor was a drug addict with a horrendous criminal record. He only got to move into our community thanks to one of his relatives. After he got arrested/evicted, he had the nerve to come back many years later and try to make amends because he was hoping that maybe he could move back and have a second chance. Besides making our community less safe, he vandalized my property and even threatened to kill one of my family members. As I said before, I never forgot nor forgave. He tried to say that prison life changed him and he goes to church now, so I should totally let my guard down, forgive him, and blindly trust him.

Nope. Not going to happen. Ever. His antics in our community weren't his first rodeo with these types of issues, so I highly doubt he's genuinely reformed. Even if he did reform, I believe he has to live with what he did. Fortunately, he was turned away. Fuck him and fuck everything about him. Like a wise man once said, you get what you fucking deserve.
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Forgiveness is not a right, or something you can be guanteed to earn with apologies and promises. Sometimes a relationship or a connection is pernamently severed, and the best you can do is accept that and move on, not spend years pleading and begging to be let back in
 
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