He cared about me wanting a good job and everything. "Never give up son, you try harder and harder and harder someone is gonna take notice." And he was right. Its were I am right now. I have a job, saving up for a future investment for a home, and it didn't take me a pill
Okay, now imagine the same scenario except your parent has no idea what the job market is like, had all jobs handed to them by someone else, made more than you ever will, has a home and you can't even get a single interview off of 80 applications. Now then imagine pulling yourself out of depression.
Depression is what people called "the blues" or equally idiotic stuff in the past, even though it ran people into suicides all the same. No matter how much you write it off as lack of bootstrap-pulling, it's a real thing, and the same way you don't want to stroke your dick one moment and the next want to knock up 3 women, your brain can't outperform your natural instincts. I had a friend who was pretty unstable and weird. He went to the doctor, got his hormones rebalanced, and it was literally a new, better man 2 days later. From simply having his hormones fixed.
Imagine that: Spending years going "is it a depression? is it not?", to then getting it pilled up and suddenly you're ripe for life again. I work in a mental hospital and I know not even half of people get fixed by meds, but nor do half of people not just end up blaming themselves into suicide by not pulling themselves up. Sometimes life is against you. Self-made millionaires are literally as rare as winning the lottery, but because they grinded, hustled, and lost 18 years of their life working overtime to get there, it's well-earned etc etc, while the greasy loser one house over made the same by buying bitcoin to fund his weed addiction.
I like Andrew Tate's answer to this question; "I tell men to get a six pack". A six pack in and of itself won't make you happy but the journey to getting six pack will. It will give you a purpose (surrogate activity in Tedspeak) and force you to develop the necessary mental strength to achieve it.
I watched a documentary on the "blue zones" where people lived longer on average than elsewhere. In japan, because you had a societal purpose beyond retirement. Spain and south america because there's bigger culture for families to live together for generations. Purpose and family. Ask the millionaire in his white mansion what impression he left on society before kicking the bucket and best case he'd go "uhh i donated money lmaooo!". Ask the broke-ass loser with nothing but energy and time to invest and he's probably both a kids' soccer club trainer and a choir teacher.
Purpose really does wonders, but it's impossible to get these days. To have another person go "damn, I miss you. I wish you weren't sick so you'd be here" etc. EVEN IF it's solely because of the role you took on. You're the one who clean up the chairs, yet if someone appreciates it enough, you'll be missed if you were gone. The interpersonal angle maybe coming later than the practical one, but still. Humans need purpose. We laugh about the ideas of dogs and horses enjoying work but so do we, and we rob ourselves of it. I played 6v6 TF2 for years and by the end I'd rather just aid other people to play by doing management etc. I always wanted to be a healer main in WoW because the success criteria was "people didn't die so they got to shittalk about their dps meters and whatever while I'm playing an entirely different game than them", on top of also scheduling raids etc. Purpose, if just practical.
anyway i'll be over here not getting into rts or fighting games communities which such exact spaces to put in the work for others to have fun.
