How to deal with being "unpersoned"

[Stupid Sexy Flanders]

Welp.

I shared my very abrasive views on puberty blockers in my local faggot group and well... it didn't go over well publically (weirdly enough I got some support in private messages). It went back and forth and I thought it was over. Until I was banned. Now, I know you Kiwifarmers are like "go and find another amhole", but having a support network with other gay men is pivotal for most of us. Worst of all, even those who supported me in the arguments (again in private) are treating me like I don't exist. I feel genuinely terrible and like the runt of the internet right now. But at the same time I know I'm right and I just can't lie.

Sorry for being a faggot and sharing this, but I'm probably more upset than I have the right to.

Oh well, at least I can spam @Null with amhole pictures, especially as Kevin Gibes hot and sexy boob job is coming up.

 

[Garamok]

Find a group with normal gay men. Or just become a misanthrope like me.

 

[Poppavalyim Andropoff]

fucking what?

 

[GunCar Gary]

having a support network with other gay men

sounds pretty gay

 

[Stupid Sexy Flanders]

sounds pretty gay

it is

 

[Kari Kamiya]

it didn't go over well publically (weirdly enough I got some support in private messages).

Nah, it's par for the course that you'd get private support. You were just saying the quiet part out-loud and you got punished for it. But in the process, you got yourself a list of people you won't miss in the revolution.

You're better off finding friends offline at this point, even if it means you'll have to move to another town.

 

[rel=alternate]

but having a support network with other gay men is pivotal for most of us.

Why?

Sounds like it's some discord group which makes it extra gay.

Why do you rot your mind trying to associate with people on the basis of their sexual preferences?

Get IRL friends. Maybe do some gay hobby like knitting or something. Even if you want to associate with gay people, I am sure there are some who share your ideas. You don't have to settle for any dick sucker on the block.

 

[Agarathium1066]

The fact that you got private support should tell you everything you need to know. Some of them agreed with you but are too terrified to say it outloud. Nothing you can do. Make some new friends and own up to what you said.

They won't forget and if your new friends find out they'll think you're a weasel if you try to hide it. Or ideally don't just hang out with gay groups with an IV drop of twitter "X". Really do both.

 

[Free the Pedos]

You’re obviously stating a popular opinion of you got private support. I’m sorry you’re dealing with the loss of your friend group. If you find two or three other compadres, you can start a new group that’s trans exclusionary. It would take a long time to build it up to what you had, but the best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago as they say.

 

[Stupid Sexy Flanders]

Nah, it's par for the course that you'd get private support. You were just saying the quiet part out-loud and you got punished for it.

I think the fact that I stood on my ground made it worse and made me (in their eyes) an "unperson".

Look, being disliked is one thing, but being treated like this is another. I feel like shit because apparently I've upset people, but logically I was just standing on my ground. It's very odd and I'm not sure I can explain it.

 

[1440p Curved Monitor]

I shared my very abrasive views on puberty blockers in my local faggot group and well... it didn't go over well publically (weirdly enough I got some support in private messages). It went back and forth and I thought it was over. Until I was banned. Now, I know you Kiwifarmers are like "go and find another amhole", but having a support network with other gay men is pivotal for most of us. Worst of all, even those who supported me in the arguments (again in private) are treating me like I don't exist. I feel genuinely terrible and like the runt of the internet right now. But at the same time I know I'm right and I just can't lie.

Nothing. Go about you life. Keep acting like nothing happened and hang out with people in that group.
I'm not saying this from a position of ignorance, the same thing happened to me. There probably is another group of gay guys in your area. Join that and just interact with others. Also go to in person events - online people are different than offline people. I did exactly that and I can still make friends. There may be some who talk behind you back but just ignore them.

 

[Stupid Sexy Flanders]

Nothing. Go about you life. Keep acting like nothing happened and hang out with people in that group.
I'm not saying this from a position of ignorance, the same thing happened to me. There probably is another group of gay guys in your area. Join that and just interact with others. Also go to in person events - online people are different than offline people. I did exactly that and I can still make friends. There may be some who talk behind you back but just ignore them.

That sounds ideal but - I don't really think people get how they treat me. I am not a person now. I'm a ghost. Can I even make friends these days?

I just feel... well, "blah". It's shit. Really shit, not the type of shit where you here "oh this is shit", but absolute steaming dump. They were my support network and now I'm nothing. Blah, whores everyone.

 

[Robert Fagot]

Was it the kid stuff in particular or trans stuff in general that they’re being fags about? Because I was under the impression that the gays and lesbos were just as, if not more sick of trans shit than straights due to pooners and hons moving a lot of people’s opinion on homosexuality back about 20 years.

 

[Stupid Sexy Flanders]

Was it the kid stuff in particular or trans stuff in general that they’re being fags about? Because I was under the impression that the gays and lesbos were just as, if not more sick of trans shit than straights due to pooners and hons moving a lot of people’s opinion on homosexuality back about 20 years.

There are gatekeepers - they absolutely control the discussions and they think that trans is a-okay and my comments (which didn't come close to TTD) was offensive.

 

[m1ddl3m4rch]

You can't force them to change their minds. Leave them. On your way out the door, talk to your private supporters and reiterate that this treatment will happen to them. If they still don't want anything to do with you publicly, then they are taking a stand, against you, no matter what they say in private.

I've lost close friends about two months ago over the trans issue. I had to walk away. I was sick of apologizing for the truth hurting people's feelings. Because if we say it nice and say it mean, and people get offended either way, then it reveals that it's actually the truth that offends them, and you can't do anything with someone who gets mad at reality.

 

[GunCar Gary]

It's very odd and I'm not sure I can explain it.

the T cult, pushed by pedophiles who love grooming children, has taken over the LGB community, media, government, etc. they're backed by huge amounts of money and influence from the elite class. activists love the money and attention they get for buying into the cult. once you look at trannies as a politically charged version of scientology it's very clear

plenty of normal people might agree with your opinions but the kind of people who run discord servers and social media hubs are losers that have nothing going on in their lives -- prime targets for capturing by a cult

 

[Magicicada_septendecula]

Start a local Gays Against Groomers group and see who joins.

 

[Stupid Sexy Flanders]

Start a local Gays Against Groomers group and see who joins.

Fun story: gays against groomers actually did try to recruit me but in all honesty, internally they do seem kind of lolcows themselves. But that's another topic.

 

[Drag-on Knight 91873]

Yeah, I wouldn't consider any online friends to be friends, including us Kiwis. But since you admitted to standing up to trans while hearing back door support, on the way out, make it public to the entire group who supports you in private. Of course, they'll deny it, but their jannies will treat them with suspicion anyways and feuding and struggle sessions will increase. After all, they've formally cut ties with you, so you don't owe them any discretion.

 

[Stupid Sexy Flanders]

I want to point out - these aren't just online friends, we meet IRL somewhat regularly.

I am a ghost now though.