How to deal with being "unpersoned"

[Stupid Sexy Flanders]

No offense, but why are there so many fucking faggots on here? It's honestly more surprising to me than the amount of women posting.

Well where else on the internet can you find pictures of Kevin Gibes' vagina to masturbate to?

 

[frap]

Sorry dude. The willingness of sane adults to go along with this shitshow has been a horrifying spectacle.

I dealt with this inevitability by unpersoning myself before anyone else could do it for me.

You know, it's been a while and a half since I just hung out with straight men. They're hilarious. Maybe I can show amholes to them as a gross joke.

Straight men are underrated. Definitely the easiest to be around. No handwringing or pearl clutching, generally forgiving, pretty straightforward. And, like you said, hilarious.

No offense, but why are there so many fucking faggots on here? It's honestly more surprising to me than the amount of women posting.

Who would have thought a gossip forum would attract the womens and the gays. Truly a mystery.

 

[The Feline Solution]

Who would have thought a gossip forum would attract the womens and the gays. Truly a mystery

Very fair point.

 

[KittyGremlin]

Welcome to being a man.

 

[The Internet Dick]

I am a ghost now though.

Others on this thread keep saying it and you keep ignoring it. This Internet shit doesn't matter. The real world is where your friends are. Those people in your support group--the ones who weren't there for you when you needed them--are just pixels on a screen.

Join a gay bowling league or something. Wear a gayly colored team jersey. Knock down those pins as flamboyantly as you can. Make real friends.

 

[Stupid Sexy Flanders]

Others on this thread keep saying it and you keep ignoring it. This Internet shit doesn't matter. The real world is where your friends are. Those people in your support group--the ones who weren't there for you when you needed them--are just pixels on a screen.

Join a gay bowling league or something. Wear a gayly colored team jersey. Knock down those pins as flamboyantly as you can. Make real friends.

I know, but these are people I've met in real life and thought I had a friendship with. Granted, not deep, but at least the sort where I'm not just tossed aside.

I might just start hanging out with heterosexuals. I think I can shock them with amholes.

 

[GunCar Gary]

Welcome to being a man.

in some ways i feel sorry for the younger LGB people. they've spent their entire life being lied to, growing up with the doublespeak of being told they're in constant danger while being treated like precious fragile angels by most of society and the government. now that a new group has taken their status what they're really finding out is "welcome to being like everyone else"

they're having a lot of trouble grasping this concept because this is definitely a "good times create weak men" situation and a whole generation of queers have completely lost the tenacity and grit it requires to be the odd man out of general society (daily reminder that only about 7% of people in the US identify as LGBT and 60% of those people are bisexual). now that they're being kicked out of their hugboxes for not following the new cult they're confused and floundering because some teacher or social worker or other codependent white faghag was always there to pick them up but now they're too busy flocking to trannies

we are now in the "weak men create bad times" part of the LGB timeline

 

[Billy Bob Dick]

You know, it's been a while and a half since I just hung out with straight men. They're hilarious. Maybe I can show amholes to them as a gross joke.

some real talk here, dude:

Straight men will love you and accept you as one of their own, evem adopt you as their pet gay so to speak, as long as you don't try to fuck them. it's a little known secret that straights view a friendly gay as little brother material. thay want to like you and stick up for you and so forth, they just don't want to have sex with you

straight men go through similar scenarios with cute friendly girls we can't have. it's hard being straight

 

[ITK]

Have you considered not being a faggot?

 

[(((I am NOT a jew)))]

Something happened to me a couple years ago. I'm not a faggot but it was more a mental health group, so pretty much just as faggy.
I was unpersoned and lost people I'd talked to for years. People I considered good friends. Because of a low-effort troll I did that too many people took seriously.
It hurt... a lot. Still does most days. But then I have to remind myself. The moment I lost those "friends" over something retarded... that I was always kind of alone. The people I wasted years of my life around were losers who just indulged me. I had wasted valuable time being a depressed loser on social media, trusting complete strangers that really didn't give a fuck about me, who were so rejected and alone they'd take anyone in, just like me.
But in accepting that and embracing that, it created a pathway for me to be a better person and meet real people. And even on my worst day now, no matter how hard shit gets, I always have to tell myself at least I'm not wasting time talking to cringey faggots on an app. I could be eating out of a dumpster and I'll still know I haven't sunken as low as pretending random spergs on some forum are "muh true fwends".
Online friends are not your friends. I don't give a fuck what anyone says. The majority of people who will insist that idea the most are the ones who will be the most apathetic, conniving, spineless faggots who will unperson you the second you inconvenience them.

So stop talking to random faggots online and talk to faggots offline. They also don't have to be actual faggots either. I think the problem a lot of people make is they want to always associate with people who they see as just like them. That can be nice, but it can also make the rejection or expulsion from the people you feel a shared interest with that much more painful, because you're not being rejected by general society, you're being rejected by people who you see as essentially "you". Hanging out with normies, or people with different interests than you can can actually be worth a lot more. I'm into a lot of cringey, niche shit. Does that mean I want to join the communities that are also into them? Fuck no. I'd rather hang out with gym bros or anyone with the same sense of morals as me rather than deal with someone because they happen to like the same shows and base our friendship off some consoomerism/identity politics.

TL;DR: Grieve the loss of friends you never had, thank god you're not on a community forum anymore and can actually do shit of value, and move on appreciating the knowledge you've acquired.

 

[Anti Snigger]

Step 0: Never feel accepted in society, adapt to this sensation even if you eventually are
Step 1: Don't care
Step 2: Profit

 

[smile.jpg]

The only thing you can do is to not give a shit, that's because anything you do now that you've already angered the herd can only make it worse, there's nothing you can say or do that will make them change their mind about you. You said something that triggered their programming, as a rational person, you may assume that you can bargain with them somehow, "If only I can make myself understood, then maybe they will see where I'm coming from", but it's hopeless, the groupthink has taken over, any interaction you have with them from now on will be hostile. You have been flagged as an enemy. There is no possible combination of words in the English language that can redeem you in their eyes now.

Think of it less like dealing with a group of human beings, and more like dealing with an aggressive NPC in a videogame. Think of it as accidentally picking up a mug or a plate in Oblivion and drawing the aggression of every NPC in the city, you did nothing wrong, you just fucked up and tripped a line of code that has made them hostile, and you have to live with it from now on.

I get that it sucks that you've lost your support network, especially with you being a ghei and now being a certified villain to every other ghei in a 100 mile radius, but there are no quickloads in real life, you can't go back.

You can do things differently in the future, though. If you wanna discuss hormone blockers, pedophiles, black crime statistics or the like in real life, do so only with a small network of like minded individuals you know you can trust. If you want to win the approval of a large group of flesh golems, keep it light, shut up, and go along with The Message, and don't get too emotionally attached to them, you saw how quickly your "friends" abandoned you once you went against the herd, they chose the herd over you. Don't let yourself become so dependent on these people that you couldn't bear to cut them off and leave them forever at a moment's notice.

 

[Maverick Vile]

Needing support from the other homosexuals in your community makes you more of a faggot than all of the dicks you've sucked.

You're a vanilla gay, why are you hanging out in an identiarian group, anyway? You're basically normal nowadays, just hang out with people who don't congregate based on what sex organs they like to slam together. People who don't congregate based on identity tend to be less craven about ejecting you for not being in political lockstep.

 

[Yeeted Teet]

Worst of all, even those who supported me in the arguments (again in private) are treating me like I don't exist.

They're cowards, and fake friends.

 

[Harbinger of Kali Yuga]

This is the way things are.

It's really that bad in the "real world" and has been for some time, despite people saying otherwise. I've seen it everyday. I still see it regularly. I don't think people understand just how scary the times we live in are right now.

SSF, unfortunately within your homo spheres of influence the propaganda is strongest since modern propaganda targets the disaffected or mentally ill (not saying you are mentally ill). It's not just online though. It's very much the real world too. I see so much shit in the real world and when I see you people describe how being online is worse, I just have to assume you guys cloister yourself to your own social circles that agree with you, because I hear and see what the most hip people today say and it's fucking scary and ugly out there. (You know it's not rhetoric, they really DO hate you for being cis white male, right? Like, it's not a joke or meme, they literally fucking hate your guys and they think cis white males have very easy lives, all of them).

Eventually as you get older you realize most other people are worthless and provide nothing.

Be aware that when these people re-tell the story about you, they will use the least charitable interpretation of what was said. Years later when discussed I would see people talk about how I was supposedly a "race realist," "alt right" etc when anyone who has followed me on here knows I definitely don't have that affiliations. These people--MOST PEOPLE--are outright nuts and will lie about you.

Others on this thread keep saying it and you keep ignoring it. This Internet shit doesn't matter. The real world is where your friends are. Those people in your support group--the ones who weren't there for you when you needed them--are just pixels on a screen.

Join a gay bowling league or something. Wear a gayly colored team jersey. Knock down those pins as flamboyantly as you can. Make real friends.

These kinds of people ARE the real world now.

I instead would argue going even more radical: divorcing yourself in your mind from society and other people. Never allow yourself to feel too lonely, or to blame yourself. It's an absolutely bonkers world.

Step 0: Never feel accepted in society, adapt to this sensation even if you eventually are
Step 1: Don't care
Step 2: Profit

^ This guy looks like he's shitposting but a random nugget like this is gonna be the most profound advice you will ever receive. This really is great advice.

In fact, the desire to be accepted is why they are so totalitarian about this shit and why they are so susceptible. This modern propaganda uses exclusion threat to establish conformity.

What I did was instead lean into it. When I was persona non grata for the things I said and did, it ended up making most people hate me but it made me a few way more loyal friends. Everyone wants to be loved by everyone else or a celebrity when reality is appealing to a niche.

Ask yourself, why do I need to be loved? Fuck 'em, and be a troll. And when they turn their backs on you, relish it, because now you know what makes them tick just a little bit more, and you know how to get inside their heads...

 

[Comfyman]

Did you talk to the ones who supported you privately per text or directly? I've noticed a couple times that it can make a huge difference if you speak to someone directly and try to reason with them, than if you write a text that doesn't always bring across your sincerity and your character. Texts can easily seem aggressive, especially if it's something you're passionate about. Maybe you could change a couple people's minds by engaging in a direct conversation with them, in which you state them your viewpoint as a whole and try to reason with them.
Other than that, and especially if it just was an online group, there's really not much you can do. As others here have said, you have to move on and try to build a circle of people you can personally trust. Being ghosted sucks, I've experienced that myself. But if they aren't willing to listen to your side and only want you around if you agree with them 100%, they aren't your friends.

 

[Next Task]

I feel like shit because apparently I've upset people, but logically I was just standing on my ground.

Yes, but being reasonable and sticking to your guns is the wrong move with ideologues. I'm sorry you're doing through it, it sucks and isn't fun. @Otterly 's advice is great, do that. It will also remind the cowards who support you in private but are ghosting you in public that you could be outing them as fellow 'bigots', but aren't. At best, they'll realise they're idiots and start acting like a friend again, but don't expect that, they've already betrayed you. It can just be good to know that, yes, you are better than these shallow cunts, and any paranoia or fear they might feel about being exposed can only exist because they're unwilling to treat you with respect out of fear.

and thought I had a friendship with.

Many people here have had the same issues when discussing troon insanity, where you find out that other people's friendships are conditional on accepting insanity from people who aren't even troons. Again, it's shit when you lose friends like this, but if they can't accept even the slightest questioning of their orthodoxy, that's on them not you.

You hurt someone's feelings and they are upset with you? Don't feel bad about it, considering their response was to not deal with things as an adult but to banish you to the cornfield. They want to punish you for not conforming, and being gay gives you experience in that area already.

It will hurt less with more time, so just get on with your life and let them sort out whether any of them are mature enough to agree to disagree, let alone actually stand behind their unpopular opinions. You'll likely find a lot of people share your opinions, but only in person. You've narrowed your social group, but your emotions will catch up to the part of you that's well aware how this is on them, not you.

And yeah, making a wider variety of friends is only a good thing. As @Billy Bob Dick says, straight guys will accept you just fine if you don't try and fuck them and can handle banter.

They're ordinary bitches trying to mean girl you because you're morally and intellectually correct. Don't give them the satisfaction of hurting, just be disappointed in their weakness and attempted cruelty. One day if you keep telling yourself that, it will be true.

 

[Stupid Sexy Flanders]

Just an update an I am ok.
Writing Amhole Erotica because why not.

The group seems to be imploding because of this, and yes, I'm sniggering from the sidelines. There are more people contacting me, but I don't want to answer because it all seems so disingenous to me. You were willing to throw me under the bus and now we're going to be friends?! Sorry, not sorry.

 

[RMQualtrough]

Who cares, you don't need people. Get cats. Cats don't talk, they just love you instead.

 

[Stupid Sexy Flanders]

Who cares, you don't need people. Get cats. Cats don't talk, they just love you instead.

I am not a lesbian!!!!