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MrLooks said:
Yeah well I do feel like I'm getting to a point in my life where I want some sort of affection. It could be because I'm getting older and this is what naturally happens, or it could be because my best mate is getting hitched and I feel like I'm missing out on the happiness that he has, or a combination of several factors. I don't feel like I specifically "need" it, it's more like I'm open to the idea.

Probably I am changing in a way, because I find myself thinking more about the idea of love recently when before I never did.

If I was sober or if somebody told me just before the date that I need to seem less attached, I easily could have forced myself to remain more aloof. Being clingy is a product of having no other options. Because there are no other women I'm talking to who I'd consider dating, and because it's been over 5 years since I last had feelings for a woman, it felt like my final shot at this, so it fueled this feeling of attachment (plus ofc I just plain had feelings for her). It's easy to act like you don't really care over text, but when she's sitting in front of you smiling with her beautiful eyes and hair and lips, it's much harder to suppress the feelings. I mean the girl was easily billboard tier she was objectively stunning.

If I'd met her in real life sooner before I got so attached it might have worked out even, or at least I wouldn't be this hurt by it. But whatever, it's not like I'm sitting around doing nothing. I spent this week feeling sad, but I'm talking to other women and trying to meet another who I feel as strongly about, and I'll start hitting up the clubs again from this weekend. I don't think it's necessarily true when people say you can't meet a decent girl at a club or at a bar.
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Good gravy, it's like @MysteryMan fused with @Connor Bible.
 
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MrLooks said:
Being slightly aloof is good, but then again I only mean it as in "don't seem too keen," obviously you have to show some interest. Women hate desperation or guys who are overeager.

There are no issues to solve by the way I just wanted to share a story with you. I could have a girlfriend if I wasn't as picky. It's not really conscious pickiness eiher just very few women give me that warm and fuzzy feeling. This time it didn't work out but that's okay. She thought I was a niceguy chump who was desperate for her. She's probably as disappointed as I am, after chatting for months she probably thought she was about to get a boyfriend, and I ruined it for us both.
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I'm seriously disappointed you haven't killed your self yet.
 
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meatslab said:
He's one of those dudes that thinks nobody can read his personality when in reality he makes it painfully obvious what an uninteresting asshole he is.
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He's a perfect example of how not only does everyone on the Internet know you're a dog, they know you're a dumb, ugly asshole of a dog, too, and have fleas and autism.
 
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MrLooks said:
Being slightly aloof is good, but then again I only mean it as in "don't seem too keen," obviously you have to show some interest. Women hate desperation or guys who are overeager.

There are no issues to solve by the way I just wanted to share a story with you. I could have a girlfriend if I wasn't as picky. It's not really conscious pickiness eiher just very few women give me that warm and fuzzy feeling. This time it didn't work out but that's okay. She thought I was a niceguy chump who was desperate for her. She's probably as disappointed as I am, after chatting for months she probably thought she was about to get a boyfriend, and I ruined it for us both.
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Question:

If you had to guess your ratio of times where you're "talking about yourself" versus "asking the girl about herself," about how much do you think that would be?

Do you ever ask any of these girls about their lives or interests? Do you even pretend to care?
 
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Meowthkip said:
Question:

If you had to guess your ratio of times where you're "talking about yourself" versus "asking the girl about herself," about how much do you think that would be?

Do you ever ask any of these girls about their lives or interests? Do you even pretend to care?
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Truly about 50:50. You have to remember I legitimately cared about her life and interests, I was crazy about her, so I didn't even have to pretend.

What happened was I came off as overeager and unconfident. I would lay money on it that she thought I was a chump, rather than any other alternative. I don't think I've actually explained the date to you guys, but definitely that's the theme. Just alcohol-induced overly keen behavior and us barely being able to hear each other over the music in the bar. And to be honest, she wasn't the perfect date herself, she was asking inappropriate questions like asking for too many details about dead relatives and how they died and it wasn't a pleasant topic for a first date. I didn't mind telling her but she kept going deeper into it. I could tell she was feeling the alcohol too.

But like I said it's done now. I'm actually extremely pleased with everything else in life. I wouldn't have minded experiencing love simply because the idea of even kissing her gave me a much more powerful feeling than I get from the idea of fucking Megan Fox. It's a really powerful and intense feeling of butterflies and intimacy that you get with people you like and it'd have been nice to have that in my life. But I don't need it, it's not something I have a strong desire for, it's just like I'm open to it.

No doubt I'll meet more women over the weekend and I have some on Tinder so you know, if it happens it happens, we'll see how the chips fall. If I ever find a girl I feel this way about again, I won't do things the same way.
 
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MrLooks said:
Being slightly aloof is good, but then again I only mean it as in "don't seem too keen," obviously you have to show some interest.
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This is the point where you say you need to "neg" a woman to get her interested in you.

This is also the point where I make fun of you and say "fuck off and grow some balls, you manchild."
 
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flossman said:
This is the point where you say you need to "neg" a woman to get her interested in you.

This is also the point where I make fun of you and say "fuck off and grow some balls, you manchild."
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I know you know that acting desperate is a turn off, you are being a contrarian just because you want to fight... But I love you anyway, and besides I know what happened now and the situation has been resolved.

I received a message today from her best guy friend. It said that she found me physically attractive but... Well I fucked it up is what it comes down to. He sent this because my friend got her number from a Tinder screenshot and has been sending her random messages saying I've died lmao (I guess they thought it was me on a different number). So it wasn't because I was too nice, or because I was ugly, or even because I didn't make a move on her.

One third of an empty water battle filled with vodka and 250 mg of caffeine was enough to ruin my chances with my dream girl. I have been on many dates sober but this one was "the big one," the one I really cared about and wanted to go well. I thought I'd be too nervous to perform at my best sober. But turns out using this stuff ruined it for me.

So what have I learned from this experience? Well two things, first thing is that I am physically attractive enough to be considered hot by a girl I think is a 10/10, so I never have to worry about my appearance again. The second thing is that I shouldn't drink or take caffeine before dates no matter how nervous I am. It sounds obvious but I'm usually a very controlled drunk and thought it'd better to be tipsy than super nervous and unconfident. If I was sober, I might have been really nervous but I wouldn't have been how I was, and I'd probably be seeing her again. I didn't MEAN to get wasted, I just eyeballed it wrong clearly and then once we started drinking the wine it put me over the edge.
 
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MrLooks said:
Well two things, first thing is that I am physically attractive enough to be considered hot by a girl I think is a 10/10, so I never have to worry about my appearance again. The second thing is that I shouldn't drink or take caffeine before dates no matter how nervous I am. It sounds obvious but I'm usually a very controlled drunk and thought it'd better to be tipsy than super nervous and unconfident. If I was sober, I might have been really nervous but I wouldn't have been how I was, and I'd probably be seeing her again. I didn't MEAN to get wasted, I just eyeballed it wrong clearly and then once we started drinking the wine it put me over the edge.
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What I think about this dude: Fag obsessed with looks, thinks love=appearence, says unironically things like "10/10", is extremely dependant on mind altering substances, is super insecure and unsure of himself and bitch about it on an forum where nobody gives a micro shit.
Normally, I don't say this type of thing, because I'm a hopeless optimistic that thinks almost everyone can do better, but dude, just kill yourself. Seriously.
 
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MrLooks said:
One third of an empty water battle filled with vodka and 250 mg of caffeine was enough to ruin my chances with my dream girl. I have been on many dates sober but this one was "the big one," the one I really cared about and wanted to go well. I thought I'd be too nervous to perform at my best sober. But turns out using this stuff ruined it for me.
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Man, that sounds rough. You know what might help you feel better? Cutting yourself until you hit bone and uploading it to the thread.
I can keep this up longer than you can, asshole.
 
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Dr. Boe Jangles Esq. said:
Man, that sounds rough. You know what might help you feel better? Cutting yourself until you hit bone and uploading it to the thread.
I can keep this up longer than you can, asshole.
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I admire your persistence.

I have finished talking about her now. I wonder if there's anything else I could share with you guys let me think. I did go to the club on the weekend, I don't suppose this is something you would be interested in hearing about? Otherwise the thread will probably die again.
 
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Meowthkip said:
You realize that means she's probably terrified of you and you creep her out, right?
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You're right... I feel bad, I genuinely felt something for her you know? It's retarded to be scared of me I don't act remotely threatening, maybe she was expecting me to blow up at her and insult her if she told me? I don't know but I wouldn't do that. I sent them both a nice message, one to him to thank him for telling me what happened, and one to her wishing her luck. I also admitted to them that I was drunk on the date, I partly lied and said I'd been to the bar with friends before meeting her. Wasn't about to say I drank half a bottle's worth of Dutch courage.

I was drunk and she got the completely wrong idea of me. I wish I could go back and not turn up wasted. I really think she was the girl for me, I still feel tingly if I imagine being with her. I wish she would have given me another chance and I would have turned up sober, and at least then if she didn't like me I'd know we weren't right for each other. Instead her impression of me was colored by pints of vodka and caffeine.

I realize I've talked it into the ground now. I do have other experiences to share.
 
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