Off-Topic Losing people to transgenderism support thread - Support group for trans widows and other people who lost loved ones to troonism

One of my male cousins fell prey to discord. Tried to warn his mother years ago, she’s single sadly, only made her cry. I saw it coming though, the lingo he used is the type of thing one would hear from furry trannies. It’s hard to explain these things to a normy.. :(
 
This is a good thread. So far I'd say I've seen 2 people troon out while being around spaces favored by trans people, I can't speak for those I've met that are already trans but there were changes within the two I knew.

One of them was a close friend, not up to the point I feel sad about keeping my distance from him now but our group of friends had lots of hangouts with him or at his house. I saw things go downhill with his transition real quick, it's not like I didn't see him becoming trans in the future though, the guy grew up with a father that abused him up to the point of ending with permanent trauma and like people here said that's one reason to troon out, luckily his dad died and left him with lots of cash up to the point he doesn't need a job or a degree to survive. He not only had this but also a girlfriend of 8 years, whom to my surprise supported him up to the point of distancing herself from her family and friends just to get ditched during the pandemic with cheating on his end disguised as polyamory.
Yes, this guy wound up evolving from a shy rich man who liked videogames and had a LTR to an unlikeable trans woman that checked every box related to their stereotypes, narcissistic, communist, poly, Sapphic whatever that is now/ basically a "lesbian" instead of straight and somebody who got easily offended with any content that was deemed too problematic by twitter. His personality was slowly changing, we had this group chat with all of our friends where we just planned hangouts or talked about games and movies where once he went out as trans started dropping selfies every week to fish for compliments, it was so awkward to see that considering the fact nobody else in the group did this but there he was wanting to talk about how his tits were growing with the pills and how he felt sexy while some of us had to fake comments saying "yeah um you look good!".
With his breakup and all the drama around the cheating we are finally done talking but like I said it was for the best considering how he was changing for the worst, he replaced all of us with long distance trans friends he met on twitter, changed his opinions on games or shows he liked discussing with us because "twitter canceled x or y and it's not good to be fan of it considering what happened" and wanted to get complimented constantly for no reason... I could go on but it's like I don't know this person me and my friends met years ago.

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Considering the birth of our new board and how trendy the discussion has become I feel I should follow up on this story and add more...
I went from just not hanging with him anymore or talking much with him to blocking all his social media accounts and all forms of contact info after I found out he kept hurting my friends alongside his ex girlfriend.
It started with one friend (lets call him friend B) he still talked to for advice and whom he kept stressing with suicide threats due to "depression" up to the point my friend B had to answer calls at random hours of the night trying to save him for killing himself. They were all empty threats and I warned friend B to not listen but he didn't until more shit hit the fan. Turns out the ex of this tranny friend had an affair with another person from my friend group (friend C?), it was consensual with text messages as proof but she made up a story of how friend C raped her which my tranny friend also backed up, since him and his ex still talk somehow, by saying this friend also flirted with him (hilarious thought but ok). Some damage was made even if we found out it was consensual sex later because #believeallwomen but that was enough for me and my friend group to completely cut him and his ex girlfriend off. And now that I'm done writing this I realize it feels like a soap opera, I'm so glad I don't heave to deal with this guy anymore, his ex was also rotten and from what I heard had BPD.

Besides this I've had another friend troon out, luckily she is not planning to cut her tits or take hormones (hopefully?) but I find her decision to become a they/them so predictable. Of course she had to be an artist that draws a shit ton of yaoi and is terminally online, oh and loves drawing beefy men, oh and now is envious of how men look, oh and wants to become the buff man since that fits her better cuz she never wore makeup and just dressed up tomboyish. She told me she accepts that there is no way for her to get a functioning dick so it's not worth trying any kind of surgeries of hormones. Sadly she is married to a lanky guy from our friend group who will have to deal with this more than us since all we gotta do is to not forget to use they/them when we are around her unless we want to get scolded.
 
I had a dude in my friend group troon out around early 2019. He was kinda autistic, started going to college and on the surface seems to have had a normal childhood, so him trooning was surprising. Of course in hindsight, he was a complete sexual degenerate, not so surprising now.

He cut off contact with the rest of my friends and started hrt. Then turning to posting his non existent moobs and dick on twitter, looking like a retard. He started dating another troon and, from what we could gather from his twitter at the time, eventually started taking drugs. Not long after he started posting about failing his college courses (his parents were paying for them). This was all within the span of 4 months btw.

It’s been a year or two since my friends and I have checked up on him, but at this point I fear he might have 41%ed. *sigh*
 
I had a dude in my friend group troon out around early 2019. He was kinda autistic, started going to college and on the surface seems to have had a normal childhood, so him trooning was surprising. Of course in hindsight, he was a complete sexual degenerate, not so surprising now.

He cut off contact with the rest of my friends and started hrt. Then turning to posting his non existent moobs and dick on twitter, looking like a retard. He started dating another troon and, from what we could gather from his twitter at the time, eventually started taking drugs. Not long after he started posting about failing his college courses (his parents were paying for them). This was all within the span of 4 months btw.

It’s been a year or two since my friends and I have checked up on him, but at this point I fear he might have 41%ed. *sigh*
It's really scary how your story is almost the same as mine (I might write up about my own expierence, but because the whole story is bit of dumpster fire it will take a while to narrow it down)

Do you or your friends remember any of his twitter or other social media handles? If so, it's not too late to check up on him.
 
My brother trooned out and I found out it's because he got literally groomed. He's a minor and was in online for the last two years of the pandemic. I've tried my best but he's also legitimately autistic and I haven't been getting through. It got to the point where I took his laptop and forced his parents to look through it which got it taken. They're not buying it and refuse to legitimize it so we're all working on it now. Things are looking up so maybe we can change things before it's too late.

Please don't let minors have unrestricted internet access. We can turn it around but that's because I caught it at the right time. Don't let them take your family from you.

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Okey, I'm going to ask something that sounds kinda out of topic but bear with me. Has he been taught social skills? Like actually formally gone over how people act, why they do that, how being autistic makes him difficult to others, how far he should stand from others, what signs to look out for that others want to change topics, how to do small talk, why you should do small talk and so on?

Trans right now buys social standing and getting away with shit like nothing else. That is so attractive to a lonely autistic kid, especially when they are starting to get intrested in dating. You explanation of your hard life, plan of action and love bombing, it can look so perfect even if it's all fake.

If you can show a different way out than trooning that can solve the tranny issue without actually having to deal with tranny crap that much. Bad social skills are the number one reason why autistic people struggle at life but there ways to help them. Your brother will probably hate this at start but if you get past that immediate hurdle it can be extremely helpful.
 
Because it's their body and their choice to mutilate themselves, I'll encourage them if it makes them happy even if I don't agree with their ideas.
Dude… Where do you draw a line in the sand on the whole “it’s their body and their choice” thing?

If your friend was anorexic, would you be supportive and post thinspiration?

If they started cutting, would you support that?

Bodily autonomy is a thing, yes. But it only goes so far. That’s why we have suicide hotlines instead of going “Hey bigot! Their body, their choice!”

At some point it’s valid to go: “You mean a lot to me, and I don’t want to stand by and watch you destroy your life and live in make believe world. I don’t want to cut ties, but I’d appreciate it if you didn’t share your transition stuff with me, because I don’t support what you’re doing and I think you’re making a huge mistake.”
 
Dude… Where do you draw a line in the sand on the whole “it’s their body and their choice” thing?

If your friend was anorexic, would you be supportive and post thinspiration?

If they started cutting, would you support that?

Bodily autonomy is a thing, yes. But it only goes so far. That’s why we have suicide hotlines instead of going “Hey bigot! Their body, their choice!”

At some point it’s valid to go: “You mean a lot to me, and I don’t want to stand by and watch you destroy your life and live in make believe world. I don’t want to cut ties, but I’d appreciate it if you didn’t share your transition stuff with me, because I don’t support what you’re doing and I think you’re making a huge mistake.”
Anorexia is exactly the thing I always compare it to. You don't humor the anorexic to make them feel better. You tell them the reality and hope they listen.
 
It's really scary how your story is almost the same as mine (I might write up about my own expierence, but because the whole story is bit of dumpster fire it will take a while to narrow it down)

Do you or your friends remember any of his twitter or other social media handles? If so, it's not too late to check up on him.
It's fascinating how many different stories about friends and loved ones trooning out are the same, or similar. It's almost like, for each situation, there's a rudimentary formula the troon follows. It also helps us widows or friends of troons to detect these patterns and try to help before it's too late.
 
We got to give more kudos to American Thinker who posted that article about a "trans" pedophile.
September 5, 2022

Democrats embrace LGBTQ policy recommended by a convicted ‘trans’ pedophile​

By Olivia Murray

Do you remember recent headlines which reported on Biden’s plan to withhold federally-funded school lunches from institutions that refused to bow to the Democrats’ radical “transgender” ideology? Speaking to the policy change, Texas Attorney General Ken Paxton said in a press release:
The Biden Administration is attempting to force every state and local entity to adopt its sexual orientation and gender identity agenda—or suffer massive financial consequences[.]
Well, this may come as a shock (although it shouldn’t), but back in 2019, the LBGTQ Policy Journal — a Harvard Kennedy school student publication — printed an article with this very suggestion.
However, the author of the article wasn’t just some Joe Blow beta leftist at Harvard, rather, it was a convicted (and incarcerated) child rapist and murderer — who also presents himself as a woman.
Patrick Trimble, who goes by the name “Patricia,” is serving a life sentence for sexually torturing and murdering a cellmate while he was initially imprisoned for raping two 9-year-old girls. A few years back, Vice exposed their propensity to defend child predators when they ran a piece that was highly affectionate towards Trimble, presenting him as a victim of an anti-LGBTQ culture, referring to the hardened convict as “her” — the publication also completely omitted the fact he had been convicted of child rape.
Prestigious academic institutions are vying for Trimble’s “expertise” on LGBTQ policy. First it was Harvard and then it was a private university in Missouri — but now, leftists in Biden’s Food and Nutrition Services are actually putting the pedophile’s policy into action.
In Trimble’s paper published in the Harvard rag, he asserted that “policy changes must be made within the education system at the K-12 level” — one of those recommendations was to “force educational institutions to apply nondiscrimination policies…. or risk losing federal grant funding.”
“Nondiscrimination policies” like allowing “transgender” boys unfettered license to sexually assault their female counterparts in school bathrooms? Remember Loudoun County?
Two months ago, Trimble also wrote an article for the Prison Journalism Project. He credits himself as:
[A] transgender woman, feminist, activist and advocate for the incarcerated LGBTQ+ community.
Oh, and he also calls himself “mama” to “trans boys and girls” across the state of Missouri, where he is incarcerated.
 
It's fascinating how many different stories about friends and loved ones trooning out are the same, or similar. It's almost like, for each situation, there's a rudimentary formula the troon follows. It also helps us widows or friends of troons to detect these patterns and try to help before it's too late.
It is not a disease of the body, but a neurosis of the mind. Physical scars may heal but the mind is usually irreversible.

We approach Calhoun's final stage of his rat utopia.
 
Anorexia is exactly the thing I always compare it to. You don't humor the anorexic to make them feel better. You tell them the reality and hope they listen.
Except that just telling them isn't going to treat the root cause of the problem. For people with anorexia, restricting gives them relief from anxiety. Treating the underlying anxiety is what treats the disease.

Same thing goes for ROGD. It's a maladaptive coping mechanism against social anxiety, made more friendly with the addition of a support community.
 
I mentioned this one before elsewhere.

Not really a friend, an acquaintance whom I had a few beers with her, her boyfriend and some mutual friends from time to time.

She trooned out, and now looks and acts like a skinny 13 year old boy trying to convince people (s)he is hard as nails.

Think the worst kind of wannabe wigger middle class kid pretending to be a gangster.
(S)he irritates me as I know 100% she is from a soft background and has literally never been in a fight in her life.
 
(S)he irritates me as I know 100% she is from a soft background and has literally never been in a fight in her life.
I am not a fan of beating women or beating anyone at all but perhaps in those FTM cases it will be the most effective remedy. Everyone is gangsta until they suddenly aren't. One small barfight usually puts things on their respective places. If you wanna be a gangsta male go socialize like gangsta males do.
 
Do you or your friends remember any of his twitter or other social media handles? If so, it's not too late to check up on him.
I can’t remember his private twitter rn, but I’m sure one of my friends still knows it. I know one made an alt account to follow his private account at the time, but I don’t know if he still has access to it.
 
My brother is a walking casualty of this sickness. He was never "alright" in the head, I would say. Suicidal depression from his teenage years, he confided in me that he believes he's on the autism spectrum (I am autistic myself, diagnosed by a doctor). There were signs - most prominently he was a waifufag in his teenage years, obsessing over Harleyquinn. He has always, for as long as I can remember, played as female characters in games like Pokemon - which was concerning to say the least when I found out. At one point I began using the laptop he used while in college, and I found that he had an F-list account password saved. On his account was a character with the Dark Magician Girl (from Yugioh) as the pfp, and in the age section it said "2015 years old (looks 15)". He never had any girlfriends (or boyfriends for that matter) growing up. He was always awkward as hell around women, fumbled the bag too many times to tell - he scared the hoes to be quite blatant. I assume this loneliness compounded with his mental illnesses while he was living away from home a few years back, and eventually lead to him seeking companionship in online tranny circles. The way he described it to me was that he had always known that something was "off", and that he had struggled with his identity for years, and that upon finding a definition of transgenderism that fit like a glove he offered himself the ultimatum of "Either transition or kill yourself". In actuality, I later found out, he had vague suspicions that he wanted to live life as a woman, and instead of seeking therapy, or talking with his family, or his friends - he went to a tranny reddit and began browsing tranny memes. The changes happened overnight and were incredibly noticeable - they unnerved everyone. He chose the name "Rebecca", he began talking in that same voice that every tranny who watches the same voice training videos on YouTube uses, he immediately started injecting bathtub estrogen from Brazil, and he immediately began acting like a facsimile of what he thinks a woman is. It's at this moment that I'd like to elaborate on our upbringing - our mother is a hard working woman who was very strong, very independent, and always pulled more than her weight. Our older sister was raised to be the same way. I say this because - despite the most major female role models in this man's life for the entirety of his childhood being strong, independent, women who work hard day and night - he chooses to act like a lazy approximation of what he thinks women act like. Immediately after he began "transitioning" he dropped out of college and moved back in with mom, spending all day on discord - watching movies and e-dating. He never sought a job until another tranny (all the way across the USA) made plans with him to get a place in Portland, at which point he was doing online job interviews daily, sometimes multiple in one day, after close to a year of inactivity. The strain this whole ordeal has put on the family can't be understated, it's weird but no one's allowed to say it's weird when he's in the room, and he's intentionally put himself in a position where he doesn't communicate with any of us. He's ignored his family for his weird, fetishistic, lifestyle - and I think the worst part of it all is that he thinks it's gonna make him happy. He's been a suicidal depressive since he was a teen, and he said it himself that he either wanted to be a woman or dead - I have been forced to grapple with the fact that some day I'm gonna get a call from mom, and she's gonna be crying, and he's gonna be swinging from the ceiling all the way across the country in some shithole I never wanna step foot in, and I'm gonna have to be the guy at the funeral with no reaction to any of it - for the sake of the rest of the family. The worst part isn't necessarily that I lost my brother, It's that I know I've lost him and I don't think anybody else does. It is only a matter of time and that information weighs heavy on me.
 
Final update on my "friend". He's trying to starve himself so he can lose weight to be the skinny femboy he's obsessed with, and to make matters even worse he admitted to having a crush on an 11 year old when he was 16 and how he's been waiting for years for her to become legal. He sperged about how jealous he was of her having a boyfriend in high school or some shit. Safe to say we don't talk to him anymore, i have the conversation recorded and might sent it to his family if shit ever hits the fan.
 
Final update on my "friend". He's trying to starve himself so he can lose weight to be the skinny femboy he's obsessed with, and to make matters even worse he admitted to having a crush on an 11 year old when he was 16 and how he's been waiting for years for her to become legal. He sperged about how jealous he was of her having a boyfriend in high school or some shit. Safe to say we don't talk to him anymore, i have the conversation recorded and might sent it to his family if shit ever hits the fan.
Keep that shit on lock. Even though you don't talk to him anymore, don't delete that shit. If he plans on acting on his weird degeneracy, share that conversation with his family. Might be best to nip this in the bud before the kid gets hurt.
 
Never thought I'd have to change my poll vote. Good friend of mine has trooned out and is already about to start horomones in the space of around 2 months. They went from "starting to question if they were a furry", to having a single appointment and being told "yep you can go straight on the life ruining drugs and play pretend as a "woman" sure thing" in just 2 fucking months. No therapy or anything. All they talk about now is their transition, euphoria and furry porn, when before they used to be super insightful, fun to talk to and saw furries as complete degeneracy. They posted in a shared discord about that hormone appointment and got flooded with yes-men while all I can do is just sit quietly knowing they're about to ruin their life all for coombrain.

Discord, not even once.

(:_(
 
The worst part isn't necessarily that I lost my brother, It's that I know I've lost him and I don't think anybody else does. It is only a matter of time and that information weighs heavy on me.
I'm so sorry. I think that is an accurate assessment though. It's a tragedy that we haven't yet found a way to help people like your brother. But with his history of issues it is going to be extremely difficult if not impossible to drag him back from troonism.
 
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