FFXIV has athe worst MMO community I've seen, it's a bunch of trannies ERPing in public chat 24/7, who will gang you if you dare to disagree with the pre-established narrative, be it PvE meta, PVP, or RP communities.
Ironically the efforts to keep it squeaky clean (trannies being degenerates is OK, but being mean to others is a big no-no) has bred some of the most obnoxious and insufferable faggots in existence.
I like the game, but hate the community, and its becoming increasingly difficult to find sane people to play with.
I think of all the MMOs I've ever played, FFXIV's is by far the most sociopathic. What you described is nothing compared to the shit I've seen; open degeneracy like necrophilia (I have picture proof of a 'survey' a bar customer can fill out that displays their kinks and on there are beastiality and necrophilia and they had a 'hardcore' tab where those same kinks were displayed in pictures), people intentionally picking fights so they can get the GMs involved and ban the guy they picked a fight with, intentionally wiping groups baiting a person into swearing or yelling at them so they can report, people fucking up the housing system intentionally by relocating plots so they can set the timer on them every time a new ward pops up for no reason, I could go all day about the modding community not being able to hide their degeneracy behind mature content filters on twitter meaning minors can easily by accident view these inappropriate pictures, the party finder... is the fucking party finder, people will straight up report you if you stand on top of them even if by accident without your knowledge (spawning out of dungeon), I could go all day. It's crazy how screwed up the community is. Granted I've been on the Crystal data center all my time spent on the game, so I don't know what Aether or Primal's like.
FFXIV was the second game that I quit, after modern day Old School Runescape, because the community gave me a sick feeling.
Old School Runescape is filled with autistic loser manchildren, constantly comparing their in-game grinding e-peens, bragging about how long they've sat in their chair without washing themselves, and obnoxiously one-upping anything you are doing or enjoying. There's literally no one else that plays that game. It was really unpleasant and made me feel sad. You can't bond with anyone or make friends because you don't feel safe sharing any information about yourself, since these stinky fucks won't benefit you in any way. I was really disappointed by the community because I loved OSRS as a teen and I wanted to enjoy it for nostalgia's sake. I am not even going into the problems that the company Jagex has, like the constant hacking and security problems, including their own admins hacking players from the back-end.
FFXIV meanwhile is filled with perverted loser manchildren, who dress their female character in the skimpiest maid outfit possible, run around acting "sexy" in public, and flirt with other perverted loser manchildren posing as females. There are TONS of trannies and tranny "LGBT" FCs (guilds). If you're ever in a voice chat, you can hear the degeneracy in the voices of these people. The
actual women™ that play the game are strange, and unpleasant. They're the kind of older (35+) women that want to be worshipped by a bunch of NEETs that play the game, and act as their queen. They are very unfriendly to other women unless they are servile to them.
General chat was spammed with perverted shit or tranny shit. You can't escape it. I confused the hell out of my friend when I suddenly gave him all my in-game currency and quit. I was so uncomfortable, and I had a really hard time getting him to understand the problems with the atmosphere in that game. Too much degeneracy and hug-boxing of perverts. The character designs and costumes themselves are made to appeal to dirty coomers, which should have clued me into the game not being for me. I couldn't take the cutscenes seriously because so many npcs were dressed as Asian-styled strippers, and sexual assault/harassment of female npcs by things like clockwork robots in the cutscenes was played off as a funny, normal thing. I felt like I was in some weird anime porno. I wouldn't want to be friends with 95% of the people who I met in that game.