I think this cuts to the core of the issue that there are so many "communities" now instead of the old model of
BDFL
If you're technical enough you can either a) understand BDFL is correctly calling the shots and play ball or b) think him a fool, fork the code and declare yourself a BDFL. But that requires skills or work, two things that are alien to CoCK authors.
You don't have to love or "respect" people to achieve things, you only need common goals. I don't give a fuck about people living two citis over, but I gladly would pay taxes to have a train line build so I can visit their pubs or whatever. CoCK goes way over what the common courtesy require from people participating in society. It's clearly a power play.
I wonder if any of the people supporting those documents can show any numbers, how successful it is in achieving its goals? How much better projects covered by that type of rules develop, how many more non-binary legless women joined the project since they had their rights enshrined? How many people stopped contributing? Surely, if the thing is so good, the results will follow? GNOME 2010-2020 timeline is clear example how much better it got.
GDM was re-written so it's not as configurable. The Gnome designers really hated customisation. Now we have to rely on third party tools to make Gnome 3 usable such as gnome-tweak-tool.
That reminded me a funny (well, "funny") story from back in a day. I knew a trollish GNOME developer who hated the new direction. We laughed our asses off with him constantly throwing patches reverting all the changes to underlying configuration. His 'tistic obsession was something about close/minialize/maximalize buttons on GTK chrome and their order. I can't recall the details now. He would go for pages and pages explaining his position with core devs getting pretty pissed. He even made a patchset, old school style, one could drop in in his source tree that would make blue arms go away.
God bless you, wherever you are. In the end, you've been proved right.