Polyamory General - Polyamory drama from Facebook, Reddit, and more

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beansntoast said:
do these people have no jobs? it's hard enough to manage serious friendships + just one relationship when you're full time occupied. this entire polyamory stuff sounds so extremely impractical and stressfull and can probably only be done by people who don't fully commit to a relationship anyway, so they have just tons of half assed fuck buddys in the end

but agree they're great source for drama because no matter how much they claim to be enlightened, they still get jealous and crave that sweet exclusivity and stability a jumpy cheater doesn't provide and their communication is abysmal even if polys always screech about how they're kings at communication

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I know people like like that irl, it's spreading. they're totaly miserable with each other and are only poly because they think cheating is inevitable. they also tried to convince me and my partner at the time to have an open relationship, too.

ah this thread reminded me that most "poly" people on the internet are in "long distance relationships" and have actually never seen each other irl, they're basically just chat friends... I'll never get how you can claim to be in love or in a relationship with someone you've never even met.
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If they're miserable with each other why not just break up? Sometimes it's time to just realise it's not working out. Instead they go into polyamory because they think cheating is inevitable?

I think most polyamorous people toot their own horns a lot while actually being very miserable with the situation. But they've gotten into a community and will lose all their friends and their support system if they decide that it's not for them. Because they aren't really that open minded if they REEEE at anyone with a different opinion or anyone who admits how miserable they are.
 
Owlflaps said:
I've got a Facebook friend who's a #woke male feminist that wants another girlfriend to be intimate with. While he desires women, he likes to look extremely feminine and wear makeup. He's into the whole "gender is a spectrum" shit and whines like Chris when he realizes he can't get girls to casually fuck. I don't think many women would be attracted to someone that presents as female but has a dick, straight or otherwise.
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that sounds hilarious. post screenshots.
 
Good thread.
One of the cuck threads said:
I want to yell at him and say "STOP! WHY AREN'T YOU ATTRACTED TO WOMEN LIKE ME?" but I know that would be so hypocritical of me. I have been so upset by this I haven't even slept with anyone other than my husband since we opened our relationship.
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:story: that about sums it up.
 
Having a threesome with your partner because "fuck it, try anything once" and you're responsible adults, I understand. Full-blown relationships with two or more people? ehh nahh.

I've asked around online so I actually know what the fuck poly people are talking about but I'm still not sold on it. I've had a partner of mine suggest a poly relationship... Some people who are poly are as crazy as they sound.

If you're someone who suggests bringing another person into the relationship? Seems like you'd be giving your partner a metaphorical slap to the face. It comes off as you essentially telling your partner that they aren't enough to make you happy? If one person alone can't make you happy, and you have to seek other people out, break up with your partner, because they clearly aren't enough for you.

Oh the stories i could tell about poly people I know.
 
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The thing that surprises me about this community is that when I used to know people who were in these types of relationships, back in the 90s and 00s, they were all about boundaries, scheduling partner dates in advance, making deals about who it was and wasn't ok to sleep with.

Now it seems like this whole reddit community (plus things like Kimchi Cuddles) are advocating a whole new type of polyamory that would have been unrecognizable back then: a version where all boundaries are stupid and irrational, and you're never supposed to let your stupid feelings get in the way of your partner's fuck.

Back then the drama was usually "I want to fuck this person but my partner says no, and it gives me sadfeelz." Now it's "I let my partner fuck people I didn't want them to fuck and it gives me sadfeelz."

It almost strikes me as a parallel to the cotton ceiling phenomenon becoming a more and more accepted part of online trans communities. Overall, it seems like there's a general trend in online communities toward believing in the destruction of sexual boundaries in favor of a "liberated" ideology that consists of having to let other people walk all over you.
 
Ive been seeing two distinct groups of people that do the whole poly relationship:

20-25 year olds who let's be honest, are just fucking around.

35-40 year olds who are both land whales and bored in the marriage after having porpoises.
 
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Thank fuck. I recently got out of a very long term relationship and have moved to an extremely "liberal" area, and I'm tired of being treated like some kind of backwards cultural dinosaur because I still believe in monogamy.
 
Dysnomia said:
If they're miserable with each other why not just break up? Sometimes it's time to just realise it's not working out. Instead they go into polyamory because they think cheating is inevitable?

I think most polyamorous people toot their own horns a lot while actually being very miserable with the situation. But they've gotten into a community and will lose all their friends and their support system if they decide that it's not for them. Because they aren't really that open minded if they REEEE at anyone with a different opinion or anyone who admits how miserable they are.
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Because they want to have it all with no consequences. If they break up, it makes them the bad guy and their former partner the victim, and we can't have that. It's more about emotionally manipulating the other person to dump you first, that way you can claim all those sweet victim points while demonizing your ex for being so mean and un-woke.
 
Dysnomia said:
If they're miserable with each other why not just break up? Sometimes it's time to just realise it's not working out. Instead they go into polyamory because they think cheating is inevitable?

I think most polyamorous people toot their own horns a lot while actually being very miserable with the situation. But they've gotten into a community and will lose all their friends and their support system if they decide that it's not for them. Because they aren't really that open minded if they REEEE at anyone with a different opinion or anyone who admits how miserable they are.
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:powerlevel: that couple was quite weird, they did act very in love, but when they talked about their poly/open relationship arrangement they looked miserable. the situation was a bit different from regular polys though. they used to be open and "communicating" like proper polys, but at some point they agreed upon not telling each other about their side pieces, who exactly they are meeting up with and what they're doing when they're out alone because the jealousy and hurt was too much for them. still didn't seem happy with that, seems a bit illogical to go all secretive again instead of stopping this bullshit alltogether but ok. I don't get how they got into this to begin with (probably through cheating..), because both of them were extremely jealous, like at partys neither the chick nor the guy would tolerate stranger singles talking to their SO
my partner at the time thought they were a perfect example of a healthy relationship lol obviously we didn't last long
 
None More Black said:
It makes me depressed seeing how many of these nitwits apparently have kids.
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Doesn't seem like they really care about how their relationships affect their kids. I mean they're willing to screw with their partner's sanity for their own fantasies/pleasure and will guilt trip them into letting them open the relationship.

Though they'll probably regret it if they end up having to pay for therapy for their kids. So their choices will bite them in the ass eventually.
 
If you get successfully trolled by the Reddit swingers community... Suicide is the only remaining option.
 
this might seem like a great deal for nu-males but the girl is always going to get the longer stick because women have higher sexual market value (until they reach a certain age, then you see the dynamic shift)

A great peak into this culture is the Swingers documentary Louis Theroux did, but I'm sure it's incredibly dated by the crazy standards of reddit polyamorists.
 
Orkeosaurus said:
this might seem like a great deal for nu-males but the girl is always going to get the longer stick because women have higher sexual market value (until they reach a certain age, then you see the dynamic shift)

A great peak into this culture is the Swingers documentary Louis Theroux did, but I'm sure it's incredibly dated by the crazy standards of reddit polyamorists.
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The two sorts of women I imagine go for this are either spoiled for choice or desperate for options. In the couple I mentioned earlier, it was the latter. The male getting more attention drove her up a wall; I can only imagine that's the case typically. I wonder what the response would be if you said you were a male with essentially a harem of disabled women.
 
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