Lady of the House
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- Joined
- Aug 25, 2017
I was more talking about how the majority of these male submissives look dead inside and are usually unattractive, along with being pathetic, as compared to the submissive women in regular BDSM, who still make an effort to look good. I'm not in any "kink" circle, but it's something i've gathered from my time on the internet and hanging out with alt university people. You don't need to be a male model to be hot, plenty of overweight/unconventional looking men are able to have sex appeal (ie: jack nicholson IMO). If i wanted to be a woman in the femdom lifestyle, I would just expect a man to be enticing and do his share, rather than be tucked away in a cuck cage while i fuck some other dude.A lot of women who are actually in to femdom have had those arguments; they call it "topping from the bottom", Women who are truly into femdom and arent just appeasing their boyfriend, they dont do that shit.
Its power play moreso than it is sexual, but to women I think it's the idea of having a man they find attractive be kind of subservient, when in reality they deal with the idea that the man could physically overpower them. There is still a line between being put on a pedestal and being someone who has a sub.
Femdom is actually less about whipping and shit as its commonly portrayed through dominatrices and more about "let me do what I want." It's why it ends up with shit like chastity and peeing in their coffee, or "small penis humiliation" stuff.
It doesnt always work out that way but that's the idea. In reality it turns out its normally just a regular relationship where there may be one person who takes the lead in the bedroom or intimate situations or something. If you arent making it a "lifestyle", which the guys on the reddit forum are probably in a "lifestyle" sort of relationship.
Most women want a man who turns them on. Maybe I'm just wired differently though.