Thank you.
I have over 3000 posts on jsforums. I have 200 posts on sluthate.com. This should give you an idea of how much of my time I actually spend on sluthate.
I'm not whiteknighting sluthate.com as a whole. Just pointing out that a lot of the members on the site ARE actually just patients who qualify for orthognathic surgery and suffer from skeletal deformities. And I personally think that a lot of these individuals just need to be pushed in the right direction to move on from their negative feedback loop on posting on sluthate.com.
I defer this point since I can't take sluthate more than just a few minutes. What I don't understand is why these people who would benefit from orthognathic surgery would go there. Isn't there plenty of other places they could go to get support? Why do they go to one of the worst "redpill" sites on earth?
Stoned, I am sure you are right about the surgery (all I know about dentistry is to turn up every six months and do as the man tells me) but supdup has a fair point here. I poked around that RealSelf site for cosmetic surgery/reviews linked earlier in the thread and they were all people who were dealing with their feelings about their appearance without, well, being fucking nuts as many SH posters are. These dudes have more problems than just their jaws, do you not think?
Also, is there somewhere you can refer them to have these discussions which is not a place that
spawned a spree killer? This cannot be a psychologically happy place to hang out.
I hate to bring the Real Talk and I also apologise if I'm making a wrong assumption about your sexuality, but.... you don't actually belong with these people. You have by your own statement fixed your perceived aesthetic problem (I have no idea how you looked before and after so I'm taking at face value that you did actually look not-good before). You tell us that you're pretty socially successful. You have college education. You intend to become a dentist, a high-earning, high-status, low-unemployment profession. In short: you can reasonably expect to have no difficulty attracting and keeping partners, if an LTR (even marriage/kids, idk?) is a thing you want in your future. Now, I have visited SH on a number of occasions and these guys? They are
fucked, dude. They are almost invariably deranged, invariably first class assholes, mostly broke as fuck, mostly living with mama still. They spend their day posting about how much the hate women with one hand whilst fapping with the other and crying all the time. They are
fucked. You do not belong with these losers.
Now, if you like hanging out with them, or you feel a responsibility to try and help them, you go for it. But the harsh reality is that, in terms of life chances and potential, you are waaaaaaay closer to Chad than you are to the average SH regular. I appreciate that before your surgery, you may have identified with these people.
Stop doing that. Think of it like this: childless women who are regs on infertility forums leave once they become mothers. There are two reasons for this: it's time, for their own conception of themselves and their social role, to move on from the role of 'childless woman'; and they are no longer able to share the pain of their fellow posters, even if they remember and sympathise with it.
Dude, just think about this for a while. Turn it over in your mind. But please, start thinking of yourself as someone for whom life is going to work out well, because it actually is.
