- Joined
- Oct 2, 2017
I've done a bunch of scheduled gaming content before and I always end up feeling like it's a chore if the people involved don't got me hooked on the shared activity, and that quickly plummets if you're wasting time in a heroic raid for the n'th week in a row. Compared at least to running around herbing, chatting, doing dailies, helping low levels out. There is just nothing in modern WoW outside m+ and raid lockouts. They even made a reputation/covenant out of fucking raids now. Do it every week to unlock dmg buffs and comforts. KEEP RAIDING!scheduled content isn't the issue, it's not different than joining a club or sports team. recurring recreational activity you do with likeminded people (and if you want to progress in a fixed group there is no other way around it). heck we often had breaks or non-progress raids because the raidlead was an actual professional athlete and off to events. almost complete normie outside the game as well, and raiding 2-3 times per week for 2 hours was just that.
the problem is finding those people, but it's not a thing that happens overnight or the minute someone hits levelcap and is ready for a guild while ignoring everyone and everything up to that point. it also helps not trying to get into the top sweatlord groups and stick with the more casual ones. you won't clear content on your first try and progress will be slower, but also more enjoyable (ymmv). most of the guilds I was in was full of boomers, who treated the game like a hobby or distraction, not a second job or something to lose their life in. ironically those are also the ones who are more picky who they hang out with, because some early twenties drama magnet isn't worth the time and energy, half of them has their own kids for that shit. still did server firsts all the way back, in part for simply having less drama and being more chill in general.
If I truly enjoyed a class I'd probably look for a raiding guild but I simply don't. The idea of being in a social Discord while playing my own thing is a lot more appealing, but I do get the social cravings of playing with people. Which again, is easier to just.. "hey anyone wanna play DRG?". Though that itself is a challenge cause if I look at my friends lists right now, they're 4/5 set to invisible and the remainder don't play games. "Ooh they're old and have famil-" no. It's just how gaming has evolved. You're terminally online and don't really sit down and engage with something fully. I've been tempted to buy a single curved monitor just to cut the Discord/stream-on-second-monitor shit out of my life, but that don't mean other people follow suit.
I've raided primarily with /vg/ guilds and since I'm european, it has been equal measures of toxic banter and maturity. Sadly these days it's all cliques and gooners cause rational people moved on in life or to better games. I do tire of the edgelord chats but the alternative is finding one of those "Family uwu" guilds, which can be fine, and I'd honestly rather normies than twitch lords, but yeah I'd have to shift through tens of them, giving them a few weeks each, just to realize in the end I don't actually wanna play WoW anyway.
I think it boils down to it being near impossible to find new friends from scratch in the modern world in general. Gaming used to be the easy way to do so, but now that it ain't, it's a jarring experience.