Official Kiwifarms Uplifting Each Other Thread - Support group for women

[ChaosBrynn]

Thank you for this thread

 

[Dana scully]

Something I have to remind myself from time to time, that your current environment doesn’t define who you are but how you react to it. And I know how some of us working so hard everyday to free ourselves from the darkness and sadness with a world obsessed with bringing women down.

 

[ATI Escapee]

One of the reasons I even opened this thread in the first place was looking for advice to cope with the stress of dealing with taking care of aging fam and excessive deaths. Lost my vet step father less than a year ago who instilled a lot of self worth in me and with memorial day coming up it's been rough.

I know this was earlier in the thread but reading through and Im dealing with the same thing right now. You have my fullest empathy and I genuinely hope things are getting easier for you.

I stopped by to say I hope you all are doing well and though I dont believe in crystally vibes and praying woo shit, I do hope to project a sense of care and encouragement to all you lady farmers. We may be strangers, but I am rooting for you.

 

[Kiwisee]

I want to stop in and say that there's nothing wrong with getting older. Learning to be content with getting older will unshackle you from a lot of unrealistic expectations, and can help you achieve a more life you're more content with. Take the time to work on whatever magnum opus you're planning out, or to save up to travel somewhere you've always wanted to go.

Don’t listen to what some black pilled bachelor has to say. As long as you are kind to the people around you, you won’t ever truly be alone. Be an active participant in the community and someone will care about you.

 

[Terfmaster9000]

The only reason I feel sad to be getting older is the fact it gets harder to retain muscle for women over 35. I want to be jacked forever, my sweet nonas...

 

[candlejack]

I want to be jacked forever, my sweet nonas...

You can do it, we believe in you.

 

[Dysnomia]

I can't take the heat at all. Debby is passing through and it cooled down significantly. It was in the 60s last night. My head cleared a lot and my anxiety was reduced. I've come to understand that some of my anxiety and stress may be heat related. There's other things. But the heat makes it much worse. The temperature is rising again. And so is my stress. I think I have reverse SAD.

I dread summer every year. And now it seems to take way too long for it to feel like fall. It can still be warm in November. I'm so tired of it. Anyone have some weather hate to the point where some type of weather makes you anxious and uncomfortable? Since you can't control the weather it's so hard to deal with it.

 

[NoReturn]

I've come to understand that some of my anxiety and stress may be heat related. There's other things. But the heat makes it much worse.

I heard once that in a lot of fatal road range incidents, the aggressor's windows are rolled down, indicating that they had no working AC in their vehicles and were trying to cool down before the incident.

Anyone have some weather hate to the point where some type of weather makes you anxious and uncomfortable?

Yes, also heat.

 

[isalaide]

we are all going to make it, one way or the other

 

[Bojack Horsekin]

I can't take the heat at all. Debby is passing through and it cooled down significantly. It was in the 60s last night. My head cleared a lot and my anxiety was reduced. I've come to understand that some of my anxiety and stress may be heat related. There's other things. But the heat makes it much worse. The temperature is rising again. And so is my stress. I think I have reverse SAD.

I dread summer every year. And now it seems to take way too long for it to feel like fall. It can still be warm in November. I'm so tired of it. Anyone have some weather hate to the point where some type of weather makes you anxious and uncomfortable? Since you can't control the weather it's so hard to deal with it.

Summertime SAD(ness) is definitely a thing, it's a season that can affect you. My area has high humidity and I hate it so much. I spent all of last weekend battling heat headaches. Bright sunlight pierces my eyes and makes me sneeze. I hate dressing for it, I hate being trapped in my hot car for long commutes. But it makes the arrival of fall, my favorite, all the sweeter.

And storms. I do like summer storms.

 

[LimeRikki]

I want to stop in and say that there's nothing wrong with getting older. Learning to be content with getting older will unshackle you from a lot of unrealistic expectations, and can help you achieve a more life you're more content with.

Seconded. Whoever decided that twenties is the peak for life happening is either very young or a fool, probably both.

I've also found it just easier to feel content about my life. Especially all of the small stuff now that I have a little bit more life experience under my belt.

I'd also like to take a moment to address the female autistics who may be reading this thread:

It gets better, it gets easier. I promise. With more life experience you'll get better at figuring out when it's okay to talk about your special interests or not, and who it's safe to share it with. And you'll find that people become a lot more accepting of all your little spergy quirks as you get older. Some of this has to do with people just maturing and mellowing with age, but another factor is, as you get older, you're gonna get a lot better at filtering out who is genuine person you wanna keep in your life, and who to filter from your social circle.

Lady kiwi autists particularly those who are in your twenties, the older you get, the better life gets, at least thats been my experience.

Anyone have some weather hate to the point where some type of weather makes you anxious and uncomfortable?

Hot n Humid. It's the fucking worst.

And storms. I do like summer storms.

Summer thunderstorms are the best. Yes, I would like the lightning and thunder to be so close and loud that it rattles my windows. Thats some comfy weather.

Lady Kiwis, please listen and heed
A boost is just what you need!
Some might say it's crass
But you're kicking ass!
Let confidence grow from this seed

 

[JambledUpWords]

Seconded. Whoever decided that twenties is the peak for life happening is either very young or a fool, probably both.

Early twenties sucks imo. Barely out of high school and not enough education or work experience to get any high paying job most of the time (unless you’re a nepo baby). I don’t know many people that actually miss being 21 lol. Aside from your body being able to withstand more, there isn’t really a big upside to the early twenties.

Mid to later twenties is better, because you at least have more life experience, and are able to get a job above minimum wage. The increased judgment is nice too. Also, most people drop the high school mentality by mid to late twenties.

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Back more on topic, you are more capable than you believe. It’s easy to focus on what you do wrong, but trust me, people don’t notice everything. Accept your mistakes, but don’t dwell on them. Whether you’re a parent, working outside the home, or both, give yourself some grace. Don’t forget to point out your strengths too. The world is cruel enough as it is, no need to be cruel to yourself.

 

[Dysnomia]

Summertime SAD(ness) is definitely a thing, it's a season that can affect you. My area has high humidity and I hate it so much. I spent all of last weekend battling heat headaches. Bright sunlight pierces my eyes and makes me sneeze. I hate dressing for it, I hate being trapped in my hot car for long commutes. But it makes the arrival of fall, my favorite, all the sweeter.

And storms. I do like summer storms.

The humidity here is awful. I have lupus and that makes the heat and sun even worse for me. My mom hated the heat too and dreaded summer. She also had lupus. But I didn't have a big problem with the heat when I was younger. But lupus gets worse as you get older.

I hate dressing for the heat too. And no matter what I put on it will get sweaty and cling to me even if I stick to bamboo and cotton. And then I go into air conditioning and start to sweat profusely for several minutes until my body readjusts. The whole thing just makes me so stressed. I just need to wait patiently for fall.

 

[Bloo]

I haven’t been doing very well lately. I got out of a pretty bad long-term relationship recently. Long story short, he did the whole “if you leave me I’ll kill myself” (he didn’t outright say those words but heavily implied it) thing a while back. I’m an idiot and stayed because of it. His mental health has been better these past few months so I have actually left this time. It feels weird being single again, I haven’t been since my mid-20’s.

I don’t really know what advice I want exactly but wanted to get it out somewhere.

(feels odd venting on kiwifarms of all places)

 

[JambledUpWords]

I was intentionally single for at least a year after my first breakup from a serious relationship. It helped me figure out what I wanted better. I also had too much emotional attachment to that relationship long after the breakup, and that just wasn’t a good time to get into any new relationships.

I think being single for a while can be a good thing, and you can devote more time to hobbies. Your worth shouldn’t be defined by your relationship status, either. If you use your time being single to know what you really what when a new relationship happens, it will make future relationships better. I knew I found the right person when I saw that he would do things for me that he didn’t have to do, even if it was inconvenient for himself, but helped me greatly.

 

[Bojack Horsekin]

I haven’t been doing very well lately. I got out of a pretty bad long-term relationship recently. Long story short, he did the whole “if you leave me I’ll kill myself” (he didn’t outright say those words but heavily implied it) thing a while back. I’m an idiot and stayed because of it. His mental health has been better these past few months so I have actually left this time. It feels weird being single again, I haven’t been since my mid-20’s.

I don’t really know what advice I want exactly but wanted to get it out somewhere.

(feels odd venting on kiwifarms of all places)

Condolences from someone who also got out of a relationship not long ago. It was laughably short but hurt like hell because we had a lot in common and she was my first after years of being single from a bad breakup. I was optimistic. Being with someone who struggles with mental health is very hard. It's manipulative of someone to say "I'll kill myself if you leave." Dumping them right then and there is the common suggestion, I've noticed, but I don't think it's that simple. I don't think there is one cut-and-dry remedy for that situation, it depends on a lot of things.

I'm sure it's for the best, though. Like JambledUpWords said, you can take some alone time for self-reflection and to focus on yourself, and think about what you want out of a future relationship (as others have been telling me all summer, I should listen to them already instead of whining that I'll be alone forever).

 

[Gruel Ghoul]

I love you girlies so much, y'all are funny as hell. I always felt alone back when I was doing normal social media and complicit with troonism and stuff. Coming here has given me a sense of community because I've found a lot of people just like me. I would give all of you dinosaur stickers if I could.

 

[Idiot Sandwich the 3rd]

At first i was glad kiwifarms existed so i could express my opinion freely without jannies repressing it because they don't like it. I was a lurker for a long time because honestly i didn't had a lot to say, i just enjoyed reading threads about weird people and that was about it. This site was fascinating but i didn't thought i could fit in. I made an account only to yap about the stuff i just couldn't let out in other places, but i was planning on only login in if i had something of value to say.
But seeing there's true and honest women that felt the same way i do but also seeing that we all chill here really made me smile and it kept me here more often than i thought (aaaand to be fair also seeing i could watch and save threads so i dont have to srcroll to where i left every time i came back to read).
i do not regret making my account and talking here even if i say retarded things sometimes, im so glad i can talk with nice people here, specially cool women that understand my struggles.

Yeah, i made my account to complain about trannies, but i stayed for the gorl tawk

 

[Cedric_Eff]

Here’s the thing Kiwi Dudes and Dudettes.

Life might be tough now, but times will always get good again when you work towards it.

 

[Bloo]

thanks all. I knew it was incredibly manipulative but I was genuinely scared that he might actually top himself as he has tried before (over ten years ago, before he met me but still) I knew I couldn’t live with myself if he did that. He does seem much better now, thank God.

thankfully I am a very introverted person and enjoy spending a lot of time alone. If anything being with someone almost constantly was driving me kinda crazy. It’s nice being alone properly for a long while.