ActuallyBPD / ActuallyNPD / ActuallyASPD - People with mental disorders who think expecting them to be nice is ableist

[Meowthkip]

Not to put too fine a point on it, charity sucks. Why anyone wants it is completely beyond me. It's absolutely soul destroying and dehumanising to find yourself having to rely on the kindness of others just to eat.

They're going to wind up with depression and feelings of worthlessness and instead of trying to find something that can give their day-to-day lives some feeling of productivity, they're just going to sink further and ask for more donations.

A vicious circle indeed.

 

[EmpireOfTheClouds]

Ugh. If someone is aware of their abusive tendencies, and is not taking steps towards improvement, why would they deserve any sympathy and compassion? ex. BPD is a serious, debiliating disorder that severely impacts your ability to make rational choices, no one's denying that, but it doesn't completely erase your ability to desire change if you're aware of your faults.

You know that you have mental issues that limit your ability to have a normal relationship? You don't like this? It's called get the fuck off Tumblr, stop trying to force people to accept an unacceptable behavior, and seek therapy. Tons of people with personality disorders seek help everyday.

I actually saw someone make an post about being a "self aware borderline". Is that even possible???

 

[Piga Dgrifm]

What does that make fake borderlines?

Attention seeking speds.

 

[Shit Waifu]

the further stigmatization and constant spreading of misinformation about personality disorders perpetuated by this fucking site really pisses me off.

"Oh, I fit a couple of the symptoms on webMD, I must have it!!!!"
you faggots wouldn't know a DSM if someone bludgeoned you over the head with one

 

[kitty shit]

Oh, the frigid wind of teen rebellion!

Nah, seriously though, I don't doubt for a second that many of these teenagers honestly believe themselves to have these disorders, because obviously they can identify with some of the symptoms, you know? And naturally they get upset when someone tells them that they might actually be wrong, because since they're mostly teenagers with everything that goes with it (teenage angst, trying to find yourself and your place in the world and so on) they cling to it with all they've got, because they need something to cling to.
Now throw in the whole deal about wanting to be special and edgy and all that shit, and you've got a recipe for disaster, or at least a recipe for tumblrinas, but I think we can all agree on that that is somewhat of a synonym to disaster, right? It's cringeworthy and annoying, but hopefully these chicks won't grow up to be cows, but to be normal functioning adults severely regretting what the fuck they were up to as kids.
At least we can hope so. People rarely stay the way they are at 16 forever.

 

[Probably Not]

Admitting that you have a Cluster B personality disorder is essentially saying this person is a challenge to deal with and will have difficulty empathizing with others at best. At worst it's admitting you're an asshole and the worst part about that is that these tumblrinas use personality disorders to explicitly excuse being an asshole. That's not how it works and having a mental illness is not an excuse for acting like a bad person. If you are aware you have these disorders and they're causing problems (which they tend to do given their nature) you should be seeking help.

Again, they don't even normally diagnose various personality disorders in teens because it's hard to tell the difference between them and typical teen behavior and raging hormones/puberty. They also don't diagnose more than one personality disorder in the same person from what I understand so when you see these guys list more than one you know they're full of it.

And we have yet more of tumblr adding to the stigmatization of mental disorders/illnesses by self diagnosing or pretending to have them and acting like idiots. If we had the resources I'd love to see these kids to go through a "scare them straight" program by having them go through a couple weeks of involuntary commitment and being forced to take psychiatric medication with the associated side effects so they know what real people with mental illness have to go through. It's not fun.

 

[Xerxes IX]

Shit like this is why the new DSM (I believe) is consolidating all personality disorders together.

"Borderline" and "Narcissist" and "Sociopath" are going the way of "idiot" and "retarded" on Tumblr, they're so overused by people colloquially for things that don't fit the medical definition.

 

[Probably Not]

I find it funny there are so many like these that are just statements of angst, anger, and general dislike of people. I fully understand that irritability is a sign of mood disorders like depression and bipolar disorder, but this is basically reveling in the fact that you hate everyone. It's just more evidence that it's just teenage anger and angst rather than an actual personality disorder.

 

[glass_houses]

I find it funny there are so many like these that are just statements of angst, anger, and general dislike of people. I fully understand that irritability is a sign of mood disorders like depression and bipolar disorder, but this is basically reveling in the fact that you hate everyone. It's just more evidence that it's just teenage anger and angst rather than an actual personality disorder.

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That list describes almost all of the frequent Kiwi users.

Except for me, that is. I'm steady as a rock. Completely on top of the game. I'm just slumming it.

 

[Meowthkip]

I find it funny there are so many like these that are just statements of angst, anger, and general dislike of people. I fully understand that irritability is a sign of mood disorders like depression and bipolar disorder, but this is basically reveling in the fact that you hate everyone. It's just more evidence that it's just teenage anger and angst rather than an actual personality disorder.

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Normally a kid would express this by listening to punk rock or metal and smashing mailboxes, but that would involve going outside of their comfort bubble.

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Don't smash mailboxes, that's very rude.

 

[SomethingWittyandBadass]

From what I have learned from my own experience dealing with depression, is that no one really wants to get help. No one wants to be fixed, or at least getting better at the end of the day. It's all a form of a clique that people have made because they literally have no other social skills, because they are afraid of fucking going outside of their comfort zones. At first, I understood why that people are afraid to do so because I'm afraid sometimes to go and meet new people and not meet a fucking god damn psycho. But soon, these are the same people who complain about wanting to meet people but they don't want to fucking go out there. It's so fucking exhausting of a battle that I literally would recommend if their parents and friends just grabbed the kid by their heads or necks and put them at a convention and leave them there for the rest of the day.

But that would be abuse.

Oh well.

 

[Dysnomia]

the further stigmatization and constant spreading of misinformation about personality disorders perpetuated by this fucking site really pisses me off.

"Oh, I fit a couple of the symptoms on webMD, I must have it!!!!"
you faggots wouldn't know a DSM if someone bludgeoned you over the head with one

They don't check to see how two or more diagnoses can or cannot be co-morbid. Some of these disorders can't be had together or are diagnosed as another thing entirely if they are. It's often how you can tell if someone is faking when they claim they were diagnosed by a professional.

The ones who self diagnose (most of the 'actuallys' ) only have cursory knowledge gleaned from WebMB, Wikipedia and other snowflakes' tumblrs. They literally have no idea what they are talking about yet feel they know more than doctors do and will argue that point to death. They'll REEEE at anyone who tries to claim self diagnosis isn't valid. Because everyone is a valid little snowflake.

Having alters isn't like having a little pantheon of fun RP characters from your favorite games, movies and animes. They aren't hanging around in your headspace watching TV and drinking coffee waiting to front when you feel like being Loki or Amethyst instead of Plain Jane from Ohio.

If you're that convinced you have a mental illness seek professional help. Chances are you don't have multiple personalities though. Very high chances.

 

[autista]

Don't want to :powerlevel: too much, but I try my best to stay far the fuck away from people with cluster B disorders (ASPD, NPD and BPD*) because I know them far too well and they are 99.9% of the time extremely abusive and toxic people, even if they're family (I have an aunt who I'm convinced has BPD but doesn't recognize it/try to improve like I talk about in the caveat below, and I'm forced to be nice to her because "family" but I always try my best to keep my distance).

Anyway, these tumblr kids are in for a rude awakening when/if they get out into the real world and find that most people do not want to be around cluster B's/do not like cluster B's and that this isn't ablism, but rather, self-preservation (because personality disorders =/= mental illness like bipolar disorder or schizophrenia).

*BPD depends, because often victims of abuse from ASPD or NPD (though usually NPD) people end up with BPD as a maladaptive coping mechanism (NPD/BPD abusive relationships are quite common) and if they recognize that and are genuinely working to improve themselves, then they're okay in my book.

 

[Fluoxetine the Clown]

Depression and illness are comfy, and people who are ill subconsciously don't want to get better because change is scary and stagnant sadness means crutching on your illness and staying in bed. When you're forgiven for most of your transgressions because you're ~ill~ then it's an easy excuse and you have no reason to change your behavior. Your ~ill~ peers perpetuate your illness in their toxic hugbox where there's in-fighting and suicide threats and manipulation abounds, but it's okay, because they're ~ill~ and it's ablist to think otherwise or call them out on their behavior. It's a shame some of them can't see past their illness and realize that surrounding themselves with other negative dickheads just makes their illness worse.

But they still whine about being miserable and wanting to die and hating the way that they are because of their illness. They want to get better, but they don't want to get better. They don't want to change because they have no immediate reason to.

:powerlevel:As a BPD/schizophrenia/depression success story, all I can do is tell these people that they should seek help and stop going on Tumblr, where being a mentally ill piece of shit is celebrated en masse.:powerlevel:

Take your atypical antipsychotics and your Prozac and close your computer and go outside.

 

[EmpireOfTheClouds]

Depression and illness are comfy, and people who are ill subconsciously don't want to get better because change is scary and stagnant sadness means crutching on your illness and staying in bed. When you're forgiven for most of your transgressions because you're ~ill~ then it's an easy excuse and you have no reason to change your behavior. Your ~ill~ peers perpetuate your illness in their toxic hugbox where there's in-fighting and suicide threats and manipulation abounds, but it's okay, because they're ~ill~ and it's ablist to think otherwise or call them out on their behavior. It's a shame some of them can't see past their illness and realize that surrounding themselves with other negative dickheads just makes their illness worse.

But they still whine about being miserable and wanting to die and hating the way that they are because of their illness. They want to get better, but they don't want to get better. They don't want to change because they have no immediate reason to.

:powerlevel:As a BPD/schizophrenia/depression success story, all I can do is tell these people that they should seek help and stop going on Tumblr, where being a mentally ill piece of shit is celebrated en masse.:powerlevel:

Take your atypical antipsychotics and your Prozac and close your computer and go outside.

This. If you think you're suffering from mental illness, see a fucking doctor and don't "collect" them like Pokemon.

 

[pixelbit]

This. If you think you're suffering from mental illness, see a fucking doctor and don't "collect" them like Pokemon.

Damn straight.
:powerlevel: I let my illness fester for years before I got off my ass and got help. Best thing I ever did. Feeling like shit is actually not fun. :powerlevel:
I can't help but think that most of these kids don't have the illnesses they claim they do. Actual ill people will do anything to feel better after being that unwell for so long.

 

[EmpireOfTheClouds]

Damn straight.
:powerlevel: I let my illness fester for years before I got off my ass and got help. Best thing I ever did. Feeling like shit is actually not fun. :powerlevel:
I can't help but think that most of these kids don't have the illnesses they claim they do. Actual ill people will do anything to feel better after being that unwell for so long.

My OCD went undiagnosed for 10 or so years. It wasn't until this year I finally got help after my mental health basically hit rock bottom.

These idiots need to realize letting a potential health problem fester can have some serious consequences.

 

[glass_houses]

This. If you think you're suffering from mental illness, see a fucking doctor and don't "collect" them like Pokemon.

To be fair, a lot of them are teenagers, and if their guardians and other adults don't believe mental illness, or are firmly convinced that they're just being melodramatic like every other teenager, then they're pretty much fucked. They almost always can't access mental health care without an adult, and even if they could they wouldn't be able to pay for it themselves. It's understandable that they go online because they have no place to go.

That said, borderlines are the spawn of Satan and way too many of them aren't even that, they really are just raging shitheads that tattoo 'BPD' on their forehead in the conviction that it's a get out of jail free card.

 

[Dedenne]

And we have yet more of tumblr adding to the stigmatization of mental disorders/illnesses by self diagnosing or pretending to have them and acting like idiots.

What's frustrating about this is they make this a class issue and say you're classist if you have a negative opinion of self-diagnosis. Except... Publicly funded community mental health exists. Don't have insurance? That's cool, they'll help you get it or treat you for free. Can't drive? A social worker will pick you up. Some schools have psychology clinics staffed by grad students to train them and they're usually practically free.

There are still going to be some people who will have a hard time getting to a mental health professional for legitimate reasons, but it's not some kind of thing that's only available to the wealthy. But I guess that doesn't give you oppression points on the Internet.

 

[Pantagamy]

Sorry for powerleveling- but believing this retarded mental illness shit on tumblr made my disorder from mild to severe. :powerlevel:
Just wanted to say that because this stupid ass 'im abusive to cope' shit legitimately fucks people over in so many ways.

Tumblr is fucking adding stigma to the illnesses they think shouldn't be stigmatized.

Don't even get me started on the whole 'fp' thing. Somehow tumblr managed to create an unhealthy coping mechanism that not only makes your illness worse, but ruins other people's lives on top of it.
The amount of times I've seen someone get abused by a borderline under the excuse of 'theyre my fp so its okay to control them to the point where theyre isolated from the world' is horrifying.

Also the fact that people self diagnose this shit and publicly declare it in their blog description is ??????????????
Why would you admit that you suffer from a disorder that causes you to be chronically suicidal and abusive to others 24/7. Bitch seek help!! Google is right there!!!!! Top 10 DBT skills for teens fresh off the diagnosis boat!

The NPD shit is retarded as fuck too. The "NPD community" on tumblr uses a term called 'narc supply'.
i.e. - "Lol youre all cunts for not giving me enough narc supply today. Can I get some messages telling me I'm perfect? Thanks lmfao."

God kin is directly related to this shit and everyone just goes along with it. Everyones fucking delusional and they think its for the better.