ActuallyBPD / ActuallyNPD / ActuallyASPD - People with mental disorders who think expecting them to be nice is ableist

Not from the tags specifically, but it might as well be.
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"Don't shame me for abusing my significant other!"
 
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As someone who
has had being ignored used as an actual manipulation tactic against him,
I really don't understand how these people have (or claim to have) full blown breakdowns over someone not replying to them because they're asleep or have to do chores or something. Maybe I just don't get it, or not understand how BPD works, but it just seems nonsensical if there's no real reason as to why they act that way other than "mental illness x3". It seems like there's usually a reason for them developing it, be it genetics or traumatic experiences.

Android raptor said:
Wait so basically this kid gave themselves this cliche as fuck wangsty bad fanfiction backstory only for it to turn out that, surprise surprise they led a pretty mundane life in the middle of nowhere? Color me surprised.

So was this kid a fakeboi/mlm type because with that description I highly doubt that's a cis dude.
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Basically. That's how it is with a lot of Tumblr users who claim to have tragic backstories. A lot of them get proven as fake at some point or another through former friends who were coerced into silence.

Leveilleur said:
Don't know if this belongs here but I found it searching some of the tags. Maladaptive Daydreaming/MAAD aka daydreaming so much it impairs your daily life. It's not officially recognized as a disorder, but lots of tumblr teens are claiming to have it. Features include daydreaming about their fanfictions or OCs.

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I can see having really bad daydreams that distract you a lot but I don't really see it as a disorder itself, maybe a symptom with something else.
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Apparently it is a disorder on its own, but daydreaming to such an extent can come with ADHD and OCD and can be mistaken for diassociation. I think cuddle striker described some of it better than I could, though.
 
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Sylvie Paula Paula said:
As someone who
has had being ignored used as an actual manipulation tactic against him,
I really don't understand how these people have (or claim to have) full blown breakdowns over someone not replying to them because they're asleep or have to do chores or something. Maybe I just don't get it, or not understand how BPD works, but it just seems nonsensical if there's no real reason as to why they act that way other than "mental illness x3". It seems like there's usually a reason for them developing it, be it genetics or traumatic experiences.



Basically. That's how it is with a lot of Tumblr users who claim to have tragic backstories. A lot of them get proven as fake at some point or another through former friends who were coerced into silence.



Apparently it is a disorder on its own, but daydreaming to such an extent can come with ADHD and OCD and can be mistaken for diassociation. I think cuddle striker described some of it better than I could, though.
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everyone with a personality disorder thinks they were abused. a few likely were.

they have a false sense of how well they themselves have behaved, and therefore feel they've been treated unfairly, even when given more than deserved. counterfactual thinking is a big part of these disorders.

the disorders are pervasive- that means lifelong, from the beginning of adulthood (when they begin to diagnose them) and in all aspects of life, including family and work. so all of them think they have been abused or at least treated unfairly. it's difficult to tell whether these claims are honest or part of their disorder, until you a see a pattern of claims that change over time.
 
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Sylvie Paula Paula said:
I really don't understand how these people have (or claim to have) full blown breakdowns over someone not replying to them because they're asleep or have to do chores or something. Maybe I just don't get it, or not understand how BPD works,
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If it's a friend: "they're not texting me back which must mean they hate me and think I am annoying, am I really that annoying? Who else hates me???"

If it is significant other: "they're not texting me back because they're cheating on me/having more fun without me/dead/secretly hating me also".

One of those things that people with this kind of disorder really need to be mindful about. Monitoring their thought processes and realizing when they're being irrational or paranoid.
 
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Sylvie Paula Paula said:
Apparently it is a disorder on its own, but daydreaming to such an extent can come with ADHD and OCD and can be mistaken for diassociation. I think cuddle striker described some of it better than I could, though.
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People like this need to quit being ableist. I have a mental disorder that I can't stand utterly horrid cunts who act like total monsters. I'm allergic to boiling bunny rabbits on my porch, too.
 
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cuddle striker said:
everyone with a personality disorder thinks they were abused. a few likely were.

they have a false sense of how well they themselves have behaved, and therefore feel they've been treated unfairly, even when given more than deserved. counterfactual thinking is a big part of these disorders.

the disorders are pervasive- that means lifelong, from the beginning of adulthood (when they begin to diagnose them) and in all aspects of life, including family and work. so all of them think they have been abused or at least treated unfairly. it's difficult to tell whether these claims are honest or part of their disorder, until you a see a pattern of claims that change over time.
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Depending on the study 30-75 or so percent of people with BPD have been sexually abused depending on what specific study you're looking at. Of course this is people who've actually been diagnosed with the disorder and not tumblr fakers using it as a fashion label and excuse to justify their bratty behavior.
 
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Android raptor said:
Depending on the study 30-75 or so percent of people with BPD have been sexually abused depending on what specific study you're looking at. Of course this is people who've actually been diagnosed with the disorder and not tumblr fakers using it as a fashion label and excuse to justify their bratty behavior.
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and BPD IS only one of the group of personality disorders. all of them will claim abuse. BPD and avpd are the ones who may actually have had it happen. it'll still be rare though.

the studies that aren't based on self-report are the valid ones really.

and yeah, self-diagnosis doesn't count.
 
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I'm taking some time to snoop around a bit and gather what I can find. I'll put names under spoilers and give links to social media. This is the crew that IDCP was a part of, known for faking personality disorders and belittling others for their own amusement.

This one is tricky, because he's gone off the radar as well. Nonetheless, he's 18 now.
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Calls himself trans, identifies as a nonbinary queer dmab boy. Gets mad if you point out he's just a gay crossdresser.
Twitter: Currently at @iamflexing
Blog archive: http://archive.is/shinjiofficial.tumblr.com
I have no idea who this is, but I suspect it's another of Adam's asspatters.
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Twitter: @betterinblood
Tumblr: https://neopetsuser.tumblr.com/about
Goes by enbiestevonnie on Tumblr. Black fatass who identifies with fae/faer/faerself pronouns, I fucking kid you not.
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Yes, that's a woman. Twitter is @MadamAshur, which they don't use
Dallas texas enbie queer girl who lives in Dallas, shaves her head, and walks around in the worst fashion ever, sometimes showing her belly fat for empowerment.

Sadly, I don't have any record of selfies, but they're not too hard to find. Just look for baldie in the bpd fandom.
Twitter and tumblr are both the same. @mooncryptid.

And last but not least, we have sawcleavers, aka our favorite chubby Skrillex whiner https://kiwifarms.net/threads/idislikecispeople.8018/


All of these were a part of racistofficial, the discord group mentioned. Each one tried to police the self-dx community and would smell out small bloggers who they could pressure through anon hate mail and grade school mockery into submission or breakdowns. Like all in the BPD community on tumblr, they would frequently "dissociate", meaning they recreated blogs if one were to get called out or put in a situation where they had to admit guilt(which they didn't, hence fleeing).


EDIT: Adding Frankie links.
EDIT2: I think I have a dox on Kawo now, but not entirely certain. A former friend's tagged post lists him as Zach, and further digging brings up a blog under the name Zachary Capizzano.
 
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On the one hand, a narcissist or someone with BPD would probably expect people to be nice to them no matter how much of an asshole they were being. On the other hand, they would also probably get super offended if you suggested that they had a personality disorder.
I'm not memeing when I say that what these people probably have is mild autism or aspergers. The symptoms are fairly similar if you're just lookijg them up online, but ofc being autistic isn't as cool as being an ~edgy narcissist like their favourite fictional characters.
A real narcissist or psychopath wouldn't recognise those flawed personality traits in themselves, and even if they did they wouldn't broadcast it like this.
 
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Cripple said:
Not from the tags specifically, but it might as well be.
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Ugh. If someone is aware of their abusive tendencies, and is not taking steps towards improvement, why would they deserve any sympathy and compassion? ex. BPD is a serious, debiliating disorder that severely impacts your ability to make rational choices, no one's denying that, but it doesn't completely erase your ability to desire change if you're aware of your faults.

You know that you have mental issues that limit your ability to have a normal relationship? You don't like this? It's called get the fuck off Tumblr, stop trying to force people to accept an unacceptable behavior, and seek therapy. Tons of people with personality disorders seek help everyday.
 
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Jipper said:
Ugh. If someone is aware of their abusive tendencies, and is not taking steps towards improvement, why would they deserve any sympathy and compassion? ex. BPD is a serious, debiliating disorder that severely impacts your ability to make rational choices, no one's denying that, but it doesn't completely erase your ability to desire change if you're aware of your faults.

You know that you have mental issues that limit your ability to have a normal relationship? You don't like this? It's called get the fuck off Tumblr, stop trying to force people to accept an unacceptable behavior, and seek therapy. Tons of people with personality disorders seek help everyday.
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Yeah I never have sympathy for these people because I have seen how people who don't see a problem with their psycho-behavior fare in life vs. those who recognize their problems and work on it. Hint: they just make everyone around them miserable and burn every bridge. That's going to happen whether you think it's "ableist" or not. Because you're hurting people.
 
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Cripple said:
Yeah I never have sympathy for these people because I have seen how people who don't see a problem with their psycho-behavior fare in life vs. those who recognize their problems and work on it. Hint: they just make everyone around them miserable and burn every bridge. That's going to happen whether you think it's "ableist" or not. Because you're hurting people.
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It's even more ridiculous because those tumblrs do seem to see a problem, they see that it's negatively impacting their life. They imply they do desire a "normal healthy relationship", so why try and normalize behaviours that don't lead to healthy relationships? It doesn't make sense to me.

Like yeah we shit on you because you're aware you're doing something shitty, see a problem with that, and still do nothing.
 
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No, you don't deserve money from people who don't have mental disorders just because you do.
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Not to put too fine a point on it, charity sucks. Why anyone wants it is completely beyond me. It's absolutely soul destroying and dehumanising to find yourself having to rely on the kindness of others just to eat.
 
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