Trainwreck Alex Dacy / Alex Dzimtowicz / Wheelchair Rapunzel - 50% wholesome disability influencer, 50% that cash me outside girl

[Friend of Dorothy Parker]

That has got to be tough for Noah, imagine having to be the caretaker for your new ex. I mean I know he's getting paid, but still. But also Alex is putting herself in such a vulnerable position, he could leave her on the bathroom floor all day and she couldn't do anything about it. terrifying.

I feel more for his parents. Imagine thinking you’re through the intensive parenting years and having to open (and modify) your home and restructure your entire life to take on a severely disabled woman 10(?) years older than your bpd addict son, neither of whom has a job, along with the infant child they very wisely created. You’re responsible for all the housing, feeding, overhead and who knows what costs and maintenance or potential surprise expenses. You have more people to manage and clean up after (or hire someone to do so), there’s wear and tear on your home, there’s stress introduced into your home having an infant and a disabled person there. And on top of that your dumb son and his baby mama are fighting and broken up, increasing the negative atmosphere. Utterly disruptive and no end in sight.

But if I had to guess, they’re banking on Ari eventually being completely raised by them.

 

[The Judean People's Front]

That has got to be tough for Noah, imagine having to be the caretaker for your new ex. I mean I know he's getting paid, but still. But also Alex is putting herself in such a vulnerable position, he could leave her on the bathroom floor all day and she couldn't do anything about it. terrifying.

Noah should reach out and get sponsorships from condom companies. If he ain't the poster boy for "wrap it or regret it" I dunno who would be.

What a fucking shit show of magnificent proportions. @often puzzled thank you so much for grabbing all that. How many times did she say it's "not ideal" that an addict with BPD in early recovery (sure Jan) who is also her ex-boyfriend is the one washing her growler?

Jesus, I literally cannot think of a worse scenario. BPD bitches be they male or female are super into passive aggressive snark and I can just imagine what those moments are like when she needs something and he's in the middle of sexting ten chicks at once. If she doesn't end up super dehydrated or with urine burns in the near future I'll be really surprised.

 

[The Judean People's Front]

My post got eaten by the roll back, so here's a rough repost for posterity.

Alex's latest IG post:

Still sitting on that poor baby's legs. Still sun damaged to hell and back.

The comments, as of when I grabbed these screenshots, were pretty brutal. Lots calling her out for a video in her stories (which I did not grab, sorry) where Ari has rolled over on to her tummy with the swaddling blanket loose and tangled around her legs. The caption noted that Ari has started rolling over, which is great, but Alex can't even help the kid out of the blanket - she just films and giggles. It's annoying to watch, tbh.

Lots of comments also noting that Ari looks way better now that Grandma's watching out for her. My personal fav:

 

[often puzzled]

It's interesting that, when @The Judean People's Front (not to be confused with the People's Front of Judea) grabbed the shots, the comments were brutal. I'd grabbed them early on, and the comments were resoundingly positive then. She must police her comments for the first few hours and then allow all hell to break loose.

Spoiler: story stuff

Posted more selfies, including a one of herself many years ago.



"Baby me lol"



"Little Missy hit a huge mile stone yesterday!!!!! She turned from her back to her tummy!!"



"Ari loves her @graco crib"-- translation, Alex hasn't given up hope of sponsorships.



Mirror image of her father. Bet that gets under Alex's skin.

At least she's sitting up for her meals instead of being bottle-fed while lying on the floor.



This is the photo People's Front referenced in the previous post. She's all tangled up, but she's on the move to try to get to that stuffed lion.

Caption: "rolling from her back to tummy. She started doing this a few days ago."



Another random shot. Random scratch on nose useful for dating future images that Alex will pretend are new.

Spoiler: grid post

People's Front already grabbed this lovely shot of Alex attempting to pin Ari in place with her legs. She's got about two more seconds before this newly-wiggly baby launches herself onto the floor and takes Alex with her. Alex still hasn't gotten the chest strap on her chair fixed, so she's a time bomb for falling out of it. According to her, the black eye was because she fell out of her strap-less wheelchair.

The comments were so positive I only capped a few-- contrast to what's seen in the post above mine.

Spoiler: still from a video

Caption: "she wants to crawl so bad!"

Alex is correct-- she's thinking about crawling. She's not there yet, but it's on her mind. I doubt Alex, who can't even read Ari's moods, figured out that she wants to crawl: the grandparents probably noticed. Ari crawling spells doom for Alex, though.

NOAH WATCH: nowhere to be seen. All other inhabitants of the Smith home are also staying off-camera.

I know babies can just floor the accelerator and start hitting all the milestones at once, but Ari has really started flourishing since being in Florida. She's more animated, rolling over, and starting to think about crawling. Previously, we'd never even seen her express interest in a toy, and we've seen her do that multiple times now. Could it possibly be that a stable environment, real interaction and attention, and room to grow and play have helped her immensely? Who'd have thought?

 

[Goatchoker]

DAMN!
Ari looks so fucking happy.
I bet she’s gonna be crawling any day now.
Which is worrisome, but I really think the grandparents are doing a LOT of work and so far, for the best.

 

[No Batty Boys in Jamaica]

Interesting, she got the kosher pareve Doritos.

They’re probably like Takis Zombie

 

[often puzzled]

Small Alex update, in which she fails to make the slightest effort to look presentable.

Spoiler: grid post

Image:



Caption and some comments:

Caption reads: "Two SMAers roll into a restaurant . . ."

The restaurant is Cilantro Asian Bistro. She's at the Davie location (per her location tag). She tagged the restaurant but did not tag the guy she met-- probably fortunately for him, because he looks nice, and I'd hate for him to end up with sixty billion comments about what a terrible person Alex is. She'd said she was going to meet up with a friend for lunch, and I assume this is the person she planned to meet.

Note that he is dressed in a completely normal way and Alex is wearing a nearly-flesh-colored sports bra or bathing suit top (a Redditor says it's a Billabong bathing suit top; I cannot confirm or deny that one). She's also got the invisible shorts on. I really don't think she could get shoes on her feet, though she's worn them in the past.

Comments are a complete trash fire. People criticize her for her "outfit," and her fans jump on the people who are critical. The comments are a bloodbath.









This image is from Reddit. The liked comment and scribbling are not mine. I brought it over here because of Alex's amusing inability to write: "good thing I am my own unique individual person that I can make decisions for myself, regardless, if we live in the same state!" Uh. Okay?

Spoiler: Instagram stories

Slide reads: "to whoever sent me the card with the middle finger in it with the glitter that spilled everywhere . . . thank you. That was unexpected, but actually funny."

I wonder if that was forwarded from her Chicago address or if someone lifted the Smith address from here and sent it to Florida? If you did, stop it, because Mama Smith has enough to do without trying to clean up glitter.



Another "ask me anything" box appears.



blah blah blah haters



Says "access" is the biggest barrier for the disabled community. Does not specify what kind of access.



Asked how she's processing all the changes. Says "honestly, probably not in the healthiest of ways."



Asked her favorite food. "I am a foodie, so it's hard to say. But my top food is definitely sushi." The restaurant had sushi, so it was probably on her mind.

And that's it. Scant update, and I hope her SMA friend manages to stay anonymous.

NOAH WATCH: nowhere to be seen. No pictures of Ari, Smiths remain off-camera.

 

[Spaghetti Rat]

Image:

She disgusts me with how she presents herself. She wants respect but "dresses" like a spoiled (attention) whore. Be a better influence on your adorable baby girl. No one wants to look back at pictures of their parent and feel the shame we all know she will.

On a slightly unrelated note, bitch looks like the illusion where a magician saws their assistant in half. Her torso is beside her hips. She could still dress like an adult.

 

[GainsGoblin]

Idk, it’s Florida, where trashy dress abounds. If anything the way she dresses is more socially acceptable (and weather-congruent) in Florida than in a major metropolitan area like Chicago.

I’m waiting for her to be disappointed by Florida’s rapidly depleting social safety nets. Florida is ranked far below Illinois in assorted composite measures of QOL for the disabled (e.g., here, here) although a more direct city-to-city comparison between Chicago and Miami (Weston is part of Miami metro area) closes that gap a little bit. I get that these rankings aren’t insanely super-scientific stats from peer-reviewed sources, but red states in general are more stingy with public services and accessibility. If the in-laws ever stop footing her housing then Florida is a cheaper cost-of-living, it’s not gonna be the waterfront rancher of her dreams. Press X to doubt that she can find work there that pays well enough to support her AND her child AND her very expensive complex medical needs, AND is work that she can actually maintain while existing in a severely disabled, deteriorating body (to speak nothing of the impact of her unbearable personality on employment prospects). Then there’s SSI, but that’s going to limit her to a max monthly income and personal assets…upward mobility (zing! pun intended) isn’t really possible on SSI alone even where COL is low.

THEN there’s the brain-drain of the medical field in Fl, lack of accessible public transit and high cost of private transit, garbage school systems for Ari, lack of accessibility/health care in frequent climate-related emergencies, economic cost of climate related emergencies, the “con” list goes on.

The only thing Florida has going for her is a set of financially stable grandparents to raise Ari, and let’s face it, they’re in this for Ari, not Alex. They’re not gonna wipe Alex’s ass forever and neither is Noah. They might be kind and well intentioned enough that this was their initial plan, but Alex is going to wear out her welcome FAST. She and Noah will hit a breaking point, she’ll clash with his parents over how to raise Ari, she’ll bring drama to the house, etc. There will be a custody fight and Alex will be wheeled out by the garbage. She’ll have to choose between a raggedy trailer nearby and supervised visits with Ari, or begging her own parents to take her and Ari in permanently.

She’s not going to want to do what she will need to do in order to keep full time custody of Ari (provide safe housing and pay for the 24/7 presence of another caregiver until the court deems Ari old enough to no longer need it…at which point Alex will surely parentify poor Ari into becoming the caregiver).

 

[Flourishing Pinecone ❧]

I had a look through older posts and it's quite funny how she doesn't seem to police them, one person even asked if Alex would consider giving Ari up for adoption.
Which would honestly be the best option for Ari. If there was an open adoption where Alex could get ongoing visits with Ari, she could "parent" Ari about as much as she currently does, but Ari could grow up in a more functional home.

Lots of other comments also noting that Ari looks happier and is hitting milestones now she's living with the Grandparents.

 

[The Judean People's Front]

She’s not going to want to do what she will need to do in order to keep full time custody of Ari (provide safe housing and pay for the 24/7 presence of another caregiver until the court deems Ari old enough to no longer need it…at which point Alex will surely parentify poor Ari into becoming the caregiver).

Honestly, I know Alex probably had no choice, really in the matter, but moving in with Noah's parents was the first step in them taking Ari. Sure, they're "very kind and supportive," but I'm gonna guess they are also observant and hopefully good at documentation.

If I were those grandparents, every fight between Noah and Alex, every drunken screaming match or blackout, every "oh I was on my phone, I didn't notice" would be meticulously documented. I'd be incredibly kind to Alex not just because she's my grandchild's mother but because that way Alex has no leg to stand on (no pun intended but lol) when she tries to argue against them getting Ari. And if Alex really thinks they aren't gonna ultimately side with their kid, shitty as he is, over her, she's even dumber than I thought.

Now Ari has a relationship with the grandparents and photographic evidence of her thriving in their care. If they want that kid, she's nearly as good as theirs.

ETA: ah, I forgot to note that the tricky part for Alex will now come if/when she ever tries to move out with Ari. Grandma will be on the phone with Child Services immediately, and they in turn will demand Alex has an actual plan and sufficient help. Which she never will. So yeah, Ari lives there now.

 

[Justanotherguy]

I can't even jack off to that. Thanks a lot, asshole.

Try harder

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[Flourishing Pinecone ❧]

Just adding a grab of some comments to show an example of what she's been getting.

 

[The Judean People's Front]

Alex IG stories today:

Cute baby learning to stand (Noah's arms?)


Cute baby (still from video) fixing to barrel roll into the unsecured pool


One of two selfies of Alex. Posting this one because her skin texture is like a cinder block even with the filter.


Then she shilled an ugly "new" (not really, it's the same sunflower stick figure) T-shirt on her merch store.

Noah watch: maybe his arm?

 

[often puzzled]

I do think it's Noah holding Ari up on the table. At one point, you can see that the male holding her is wearing the gray shorts that are Noah's signature look. However, the area you can see is the crotch, and I'll spare you.

Reddit has a terrible theory, but I'm not sure they're wrong (unfortunately). Ari went from 0 to 60 as soon as they got to Florida, and it's been really, really obvious. She's gone from being sad floor baby to rolling over, trying to crawl, grabbing for toys (and being totally engrossed in them), making eye contact, laughing, and so on. This has caused the Reddit gorls to suspect Alex and Noah may have been giving her Benadryl (or similar) to keep her calm:



The Reddit gorls speculate a lot and pull every little thing apart. But could they be right this time? I took this screenshot a few days ago but forgot to put it here, but it's desktop cleanup time now.

Alex did respond to Reddit. This "laws that control disability benefits are stuck in 1989" thing has been making the rounds and involves a major disability influencer (who has "EDS" and "CRPS," both favorites over in the Munchie threads). Reddit called her out for not helping circulate the petition, and then it suddenly pops up in Alex's stories. Guess she's still got plenty of time to read about herself on Reddit.



I stumbled on her threads account when I accidentally clicked the wrong thing over on Instagram. She's only posted twice, but here's her bio/profile:



She has not actually amassed 19.4K followers on a new platform. When you sign up for Threads, you are given the option to follow everyone you're already following on Instagram (Meta owns both platforms). It's an easy way to find people to follow on Threads, and most people do it. Her follower count will likely go up as/if more people join Threads and duplicate their Instagram follow list, and we will see it go up even if she's not actively using the platform.

Spoiler: store stuff

This is the bad merch that she posted in her stories. I just like it because the sunflower is supposed to be the O in the word "advocate," but it looks like an L.



And, the real reason I'm posting this: she still hasn't bothered to write anything in the "about" section of her shop. I also got the pop-up at the top of this window, telling me it's free to open a merch shop. She's putting impressively little effort into this, but these t-shirt sales are totally going to pay for that beachside ranch house.

 

[glass_houses]

Reddit has a terrible theory, but I'm not sure they're wrong (unfortunately). Ari went from 0 to 60 as soon as they got to Florida, and it's been really, really obvious. She's gone from being sad floor baby to rolling over, trying to crawl, grabbing for toys (and being totally engrossed in them), making eye contact, laughing, and so on. This has caused the Reddit gorls to suspect Alex and Noah may have been giving her Benadryl (or similar) to keep her calm

Yeah, that's what I've been wondering for a while now. Doping up babies has been a thing since Victorian England discovered opium, and before that there was good old fashioned alcohol.

 

[LonesomeDud]

Aw. Ari clearly loves her grandma and grandpa, and it is hitting me in all the feels.

How long before the two mentally ill idiots tear Ari from another loved one?

Spoiler: grandparent spergs

Having good grandparents for your children is kind of like being rich. It isn't necessary for a good life, but it helps. If your in-laws are sometimes very annoying, but they are responsible and love their child and grandchild and are loved by them, curb your criticism. Someday, they will be dead and your child won't get to form anymore memories with someone they really loved, so don't ruin it with whatever petty adult issues you have, regardless if you agree that being blood of your blood makes you family. That said, I am clearly a perfect person with perfect in-laws, in the event I am doxxed.

 

[Friend of Dorothy Parker]

Ari went from 0 to 60 as soon as they got to Florida, and it's been really, really obvious. She's gone from being sad floor baby to rolling over, trying to crawl, grabbing for toys (and being totally engrossed in them), making eye contact, laughing, and so on. This has caused the Reddit gorls to suspect Alex and Noah may have been giving her Benadryl (or similar)

I do not doubt the possibility about Benadryl, but I can also say I’ve read and heard decades of people saying that their kids were were potatoes (not the KF thread type, just not doing much) until 6 months. I could never relate, bc my own kids were animated from day one, moved very early, and were never just things you could stuff into a contraption and let be…but a LOT of parents have described their infants this way*. Assuming that’s at least sometimes true, in Ari’s case as a preemie it’s not impossible that she was slow to start and just placid until hitting the 6-month-old zone, at which point she sprung from potato to active baby.

* indeed, sometimes this phenomenon has been used to criticize people (mothers, really) who didn’t or couldn’t manage other things while home with an infant.

Tl;dr: sometimes observers over-analyze. Also, shit-tons of developmental markers happen around this age. The good news is that she’s active and looking to do stuff - and, maybe, is finally in an environment that encourages it.

(Side note: the carer that was seen in Chicago appears to be a fairly young woman. It’s possible she had no real baby experience (or that that wasn’t her initial job) and so deferred to the parents as far as how to deal/not deal with an infant.)

 

[Goatchoker]

As someone who gave my lil Benadryl (under doc orders) for his awful allergy to cottonwoods (fully surrounded place, the worst) he just napped heavy, but when awake he was hitting the milestones and chaos.

I don’t think they did, I think she was ignored and under stimulated.

 

[Pudgy Bear Claws]

As someone who gave my lil Benadryl (under doc orders) for his awful allergy to cottonwoods (fully surrounded place, the worst) he just napped heavy, but when awake he was hitting the milestones and chaos.

I don’t think they did, I think she was ignored and under stimulated.

Yeah, it's wild how much kids learn and grow emotionally when they have someone there to stimulate them and pay attention. To Alex, Ari is a doll. The older that baby gets, the more I think Alex should be sterilized to keep her from ever procreating again.