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Never Scored said:
Sometimes it might feel like we're all from different planets, but at the end of the day, we all want love and acceptance, and unfortunately the place many people end up finding it is through weird polycues.
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I mean, ok, sure. Common humanity and what-not. But I disagree with your last statement that lots of people only find love and acceptance through polycules.

My friend, and I mean this sincerely, have you read this thread? Polyamory doesn't work like that. If polyamory genuinely created nurturing spaces of love and acceptance and long-term partnership and commitment and community blah blah blah the subject wouldn't be so mercilessly derided on Kiwi Farms. Sure, we have some folks around here who object to polyamory on moral or religious grounds, but most of us are just regular folks who call it like we see it.

Polycules and polyamory trends towards abuse of a large variety. Sure, so do a subset of monogamous relationships, but the very act of including more people in a relationship adds whole new layers of variables that you don't get so much in monogamy. I have never seen a polyamorous arrangement where I'm like "huh, that seems really healthy and balanced and loving." And if I did, I'd say so. I live in CA and am at the epicenter of a lot of this thinking and all I can say is shit doesn't work out.

So while I will agree that many lost, lonely people gravitate towards weird poly situations because they're seeking connection and community - that is not what they're going to get out of the situation.
 
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Yeah, but polyamory spaces will lovebomb the shit out of you.

Once upon a time...
I was an autistic 15 year old going to a science fiction convention that I enjoyed. This time, armed with our first-ever summer job money, my friends and I decided to pool our cash and get a hotel room shared between way too many people. We'd had tickets and walked the floors before but never stayed overnight.

Our parents let us do this and dropped us off because we were good kids and they knew we weren't the type to get into trouble. I don't know why the hotel didn't care that we were all minors? That seems weird to me now. Maybe the friend who actually paid (and we paid back) had a fake ID, wouldn't surprise me.

Well, wouldn't you know it, as our group of autistic female prey sat down to play some tabletop games in a conference room in the mid-afternoon, some of the people who sat down to play were a 20something couple and a single guy who let it drop that they're going to an afterparty that had snacks, plus champagne and chocolate fondue.

Absolutely and completely missing any social context about what champagne and chocolate fondue might imply about such a party, we went up a few hours later to eat free food (none of us would drink underage, like I said, the whole reason we were allowed to do this is that we were good kids).

And it turned out this was a polyamory party. Threesomes and foursomes dotted the suite, and yes, there was champagne, and chocolate fondue, and exactly the kind of people you'd imagine were there. We were still fully in the geek social fallacies "don't judge, be nice to outsiders" mode, so we got a whole "good parts only" version of polyamory fed to us that night. Everyone in poly is happy! Jealousy is a primitive emotion and can be overcome by a feeling of happiness for your partner's happiness, even with someone else! Poly trios and quads are raising families and many are polyfidelitous, they love only the people in their trio/quad and everyone loves everyone. Love is love, man.

Like retards, we stayed and listened to the whole spiel. It was years before I even looked back and contemplated how fucking sick it was that they didn't tell us to get the fuck out once everyone in that room learned our ages (which happened not 20 minutes in). Here's the kicker: none of the people there that night tried directly to get into anyone in our group's pants, they just made sure to advertise their lifestyle as wholesome with just a slight naughty rebellious tinge. It was propaganda, and grooming...like how the left talks about "stochastic terrorism," this kind of "stochastic grooming" ensures that even if you don't have a barely-legal/jailbait unicorn threesome partner, someone else will get one because of what you did (and because of compersion, you can take their joy as your own!).
 
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The Judean People's Front said:
I mean, ok, sure. Common humanity and what-not. But I disagree with your last statement that lots of people only find love and acceptance through polycules.

My friend, and I mean this sincerely, have you read this thread? Polyamory doesn't work like that. If polyamory genuinely created nurturing spaces of love and acceptance and long-term partnership and commitment and community blah blah blah the subject wouldn't be so mercilessly derided on Kiwi Farms. Sure, we have some folks around here who object to polyamory on moral or religious grounds, but most of us are just regular folks who call it like we see it.

Polycules and polyamory trends towards abuse of a large variety. Sure, so do a subset of monogamous relationships, but the very act of including more people in a relationship adds whole new layers of variables that you don't get so much in monogamy. I have never seen a polyamorous arrangement where I'm like "huh, that seems really healthy and balanced and loving." And if I did, I'd say so. I live in CA and am at the epicenter of a lot of this thinking and all I can say is shit doesn't work out.

So while I will agree that many lost, lonely people gravitate towards weird poly situations because they're seeking connection and community - that is not what they're going to get out of the situation.
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Let me just go back to Mars Attacks for a second. There's this one beautiful scene in the movie where Martin Short, who plays the white house press sectary, meets this alien disguised as a beautiful woman. Even though they are of a different species, he still realizes there is the potential for romance and accepts her as she is, and takes her inside to make love to her. Sometimes, I feel like that alien dressed as a woman. I am so neuro divergent, it feels like I am in a world full of people who are an entirely different species. The seductiveness of polycules is they feel an awful lot like Martin Short as the white house press secretary. They're accepting and still want to fuck you, even though you're this weird, awkward alien creature that doesn't fit in nor speak the same language as everyone around you.

Really, I think Mars Attacks has a lot of pro poly stuff in there if you pay close attention to it.
 
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Never Scored said:
Let me just go back to Mars Attacks for a second. There's this one beautiful scene in the movie where Martin Short, who plays the white house press sectary, meets this alien disguised as a beautiful woman. Even though they are of a different species, he still realizes there is the potential for romance and accepts her as she is, and takes her inside to make love to her.
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And then what happens, lets play the clip and find out?!

He also didn't know she was an alien, he just wanted to get his dick wet. That's why he called the hidden room the Kennedy room.
 
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Never Scored said:
Even though they are of a different species, he still realizes there is the potential for romance and accepts her as she is, and takes her inside to make love to her.
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i wonder if there is a person out there somewhere who has a Roswell Grey fetish

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74164978231 said:
Why do these retarded assholes always have children?
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Consequence of unprotected sex, although I've noticed that in a lot of cases the children are planned, so I don't think it can be too easily explained away either. I actually often wonder about the degree to which rising living costs may have influenced the prevalence (or at the very least, the visibility) of alternative lifestyles such as polyamory. I don't think it's a primary motivation by any stretch, but with more and more millennials and zoomers forced by economic circumstance to remain in shared living arrangements with roommates well into their 30s, it's surely bound to have some effect.
 
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BerserkKing99 said:
I'd rather die alone than partake in advanced cuckoldry.
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I'd bet $ that the second husband in this clip was the OG husband. He's got the lines down pat "I love that he treats you with love and respect, and you deserve that." And the first guy is like "lol I don't have to even cook dinner while I bang his wife."
 
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Homofascism said:
Kids who grew up in rainbow households are old enough to have self awareness now and with the amount of posts I see where the child hates their weird living situation I won’t be surprised if all these kids grow up either bullied to shit or completely fucked in the head.
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There was a news article about a kid killing both of his "dads" after realizing years long abuse that occurred to him. Usually children just end up hating their lgbt parents and moving out asap.
 
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Dawdler said:
There was a news article about a kid killing both of his "dads" after realizing years long abuse that occurred to him. Usually children just end up hating their lgbt parents and moving out asap.
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Was it Katlynn Yost? I don't think I've seen any sources saying they were poly but I just assumed that was the case. Why else murder a random friend of your parents as well?
 
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I don't think so. Article was from about 2 years ago but I can't find it.
That woman had a horrible face, I imagine she was pretty upset about her looks.
 
Homofascism said:
Kids who grew up in rainbow households are old enough to have self awareness now and with the amount of posts I see where the child hates their weird living situation I won’t be surprised if all these kids grow up either bullied to shit or completely fucked in the head.
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If they survive.

Funny thing is this poly group had been featured in the news when the girl became pregnant. The kid lived last I heard, but this can happen to kids in poly families. I remember reddit got upset when this happened. As usual it was more about "ThIs MaKeS uS lOoK bAd!" and not really caring about the kid.
 
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