why are you still single - and general discussion of the dating game

[Totallyunknown]

All in all, I think social media technology has made people stupider, more anti-social and self-serving and less relationship material. I can only really see this with girls, but I do believe it's a universal trend.

I could easily slot my own experiences with yours as a woman but I'm sure there's still nuanced gendered experiences as well since men and women are just behaviorally different.

But since there is so much commonality, I feel pretty confident in my belief that it's a combination of the environment and an abundance of stupid people. As we build up negative experiences, it's hard not to put up a guard or treat the next man/woman with more caution or build an opinion that man/woman are like this in general. In past eras we had much more mutual respect going into most dates - you showed respect to a man who may be paying for dinner (as was common back then) and you showed respect to the woman who spent 2 hours meeting societal standards of beauty and was gracious and interesting company. I realize one could blame the feminists etc but I don't think they're entirely to blame since they existed for many decades before social media and dating apps and it was still pretty normal.

I do think some men are stupid, rude, ugly people I don't like talking to. I've been ghosted, I've been mistreated, disrespected.

I also know some women are stupid, rude, ugly people I don't like talking to. I've watched females lie to their partners without pause in front of me knowing I know the truth. I've watched mothers treat children like shit.

So I think maybe overall, just a lot of really shitty people out there right now and being single is not necessarily in this era a "you" problem. It could be - you could be gross, ugly and stupid but if you're just average, it's probably not because you're inherently broken or unlovable.

 

[the illusionist]

How bad it gets? I was with a girl who was a bit of what now would be called a coomer, always wanted to be chocked and I wasn't into that plus there were a couple close calls.

Everybody wants a nympho until she starts schlicking in public...

Bad as in seeing no problem whatsoever in watching porn, calling women derogatory insults in bed thinking it's hot (a classic), choking, slapping, ddlg type of shit, bdsm, tying up, cutting, inserting everyday objects into a woman (?? that one I remember the most it's so disgusting) and similar stuff mainly focused on inflicting as much pain onto a woman as possible.

I know there are women who like it and they're equally fucked up. The fact that all of this bdsm stuff is going mainstream doesn't help.

 

[Kel1 shi1]

Bad as in seeing no problem whatsoever in watching porn, calling women derogatory insults in bed thinking it's hot (a classic), choking, slapping, ddlg type of shit, bdsm, tying up, cutting, inserting everyday objects into a woman (?? that one I remember the most it's so disgusting) and similar stuff mainly focused on inflicting as much pain onto a woman as possible.

I know there are women who like it and they're equally fucked up. The fact that all of this bdsm stuff is going mainstream doesn't help.

I've spoken with a few women that will no longer sleep with younger men, general consensus between these woman was that younger mens style of sex was "As hard and as fast for as long as they can" and if she didn't do anal she was uptight and a bad lay. Totally coombrained.

 

[Two Hands]

Slow and steady wins the race?

 

[cybertoaster]

ad as in seeing no problem whatsoever in watching porn, calling women derogatory insults in bed thinking it's hot (a classic), choking, slapping, ddlg type of shit, bdsm, tying up, cutting, inserting everyday objects into a woman (?? that one I remember the most it's so disgusting) and similar stuff mainly focused on inflicting as much pain onto a woman as possible.

He sounds like a bonafide psychopath, the kind of sick fuck that will "accidentally" kill somebody.

The fact that all of this bdsm stuff is going mainstream doesn't help.

If you ask me the problem is that a lot of women are sold on the idea that this is romantic. They watch BDSM porn and think the chick having a good time is just like them when in reality most of these pornstars are deeply damaged people. Is like this chick who became sort of a meme for getting gangbanged by a bunch of black guys and all the usual cucks were like "she really likes black guys!" well I guess she also likes drinking piss and getting punched because she also did that kind of extreme disgusting porn, because it pays way more than "vanilla" porn and again most of these women have a few screws lose.

Point is if most women who fantasize about this shit actually went for it they would really regret it. Also applies to the ones with rape fantasies.

men have just as many expectations and requirements from women now as well.

Besides the unironic incels who demand a virgin (good luck finding any over 20) tradwife with big tits most guys I've seen nowadays would settle with any girl as long as she's still breathing. An exaggeration for comedic effect but really, if anything men's standards have gone really down. Like not that long ago when I was a teen very and I mean VERY few guys would go out with a girl who was overweight. That's no fat, just overweight, that was the limit for most, but today even downright obese women play hard to catch. You got similar situations with men putting up with women who are flat broke, near-certifiably insane, violent, etc...

I would if I coukd and found a good woman, but most women are not good nor even interesting enough to pursue like that.

Law of diminishing returns, except in this case the output does not remains positive.

 

[ephermeral]

I couldn't post a reply to the OP so I'll just add it here and hopefully you'll see it? But in regards to shitposting here, my one friend that I can discuss the alphabet mafia with told me that I shouldn't tell any ~potential suitors~ that I post here until after the third date. Which seems like good advice?

I live in a city and am constantly surrounded by people but it still feels impossible to meet anyone. I have no interest in Tinder or trying to meet people at bars anymore. I wouldn't be caught dead doing speed dating, ever.

The romantic in me misses making food for someone other than myself. The cynic in me would like to get fucked over less by the tax man.

 

[Car Won't Crank]

Slow and steady wins the race?

Sounds the progress of my latest model airplane.

 

[Justa Grata Honoria]

I've spoken with a few women that will no longer sleep with younger men, general consensus between these woman was that younger mens style of sex was "As hard and as fast for as long as they can" and if she didn't do anal she was uptight and a bad lay. Totally coombrained.

Where the fuck your friends find these zoomers? Every experience with zoomers was either virgins or like stuffing shit in their butt.
Fucking hell my partner is zoomer .

We are talking zoomers right? Not milenials?

 

[The Schizo Warrior]

I don't really feel the need right now. It'd just be another responsibility I'd have to deal with when I want to spend time on other stuff...

Spoiler

like shitposting on kiwifarms

 

[Atlas Sneezed]

Reading this thread made me sad and afraid of the future. I hope despite everything, everyone here will make it

 

[Sneed S. McSneedensen]

I shit in my bed and sleep better because of the warmth.

 

[Spud]

She said Dark souls 3 was better than 2, had to drop that bitch immediately

 

[Forsaken Wanderer]

I'll power level slightly and say I am mid 30s and I've never had a girlfriend. I gave up looking 5-10 years ago at a guess. I saw women as being completely deranged and dangerous to be around and also that the dating game was entirely rigged.

It's funny how many men have given up and walked away just like me and they come from one of two camps - Incel or MGTOW. I am an incel and I started down this path at a young age when I began to realize that girls were treated better than boys. A guy I used to work with is a MGTOW, he had a wife until she cheated on him with her barber. We both have different backgrounds but we ended up at the same conclusion - that it's better to die alone.

I'm beginning to notice a lot more women complaining about being alone. I hope this means that there are so many more men like me who have walked away. In my blackened heart it gives me some catharsis. I know women will never understand what they did but their loneliness does bring me some joy I must admit.

 

[Lone Wandering Courier]

For me, it basically comes down to having aspergers. Despite being bi, being an autist basically brings my options down to zero. I generally don't get really sad or depressed about it though unless it's like the winter where the lack of sunlight fucks up my mental health.

 

[Asterism]

I'm neurodiverse and I have specific needs. I choose to be single to spare others

 

[grimacefetishist]

I'm neurodiverse and I have specific needs. I choose to be single to spare others

>homestuck

Yeah I get it

 

[Asterism]

>homestuck

Yeah I get it

It got me through some tough times what can I say

 

[Party Hat Wurmple]

Slow and steady wins the race?

What a cursed thing for someone with your username to say.

I've spoken with a few women that will no longer sleep with younger men, general consensus between these woman was that younger mens style of sex was "As hard and as fast for as long as they can" and if she didn't do anal she was uptight and a bad lay. Totally coombrained.

Maybe they should communicate that sex is more than just trying jackhammer a hole. I know guys don't like to hear that shit, and women don't like to talk about it, but they have to. Unfortunately women are the only ones who can teach men what they like in bed. If I'm being fair, I don't blame them for not wanting to have that conversation, but it's literally the only way they learn. It's very difficult for men to describe to other men what to do in bed and how to do it.

I live in a city and am constantly surrounded by people but it still feels impossible to meet anyone. I have no interest in Tinder or trying to meet people at bars anymore. I wouldn't be caught dead doing speed dating, ever.

You think too hard about it. You kind of just have to start talking to someone and don't stop, let them drone on for a bit. Don't view them as potential partners, and make sure to talk to guys too. Talk to everyone around you and eventually you'll just find something you like.

We are talking zoomers right? Not milenials?

Zoomers are one thing, but millennials in general are broken AF people and I despise talking with them. Zoomers have grown on me.

She said Dark souls 3 was better than 2, had to drop that bitch immediately

Except it is. Mechanically, DS2 is better than 3, but lore-wise DS3 wins without comparison.

I'll power level slightly and say I am mid 30s and I've never had a girlfriend. I gave up looking 5-10 years ago at a guess. I saw women as being completely deranged and dangerous to be around and also that the dating game was entirely rigged.

A lot of women are, many are not. Years ago, I did give up on Burgerwomen. I dated a foreign woman, and things were night and day. It didn't work out for logistics reasons, but I completely gave up on ever considering marrying an American woman. Something I noticed though is that it's not just men giving up on Burgerwomen either, it's foreign women too. If you ever speak to immigrants, they DESPISE Burgerwomen. They all say the same thing too, that they're some of the most entitled and spoiled cunts on the planet and they don't deserve anything they demand from the world. Let alone what they demand from their partners. You should consider Passport Bro'ing, it's the way of the future. Even a feminist thot from a foreign country is better than a Burgerwoman.

 

[Mordecai "3 Finger" Brown]

I've spoken with a few women that will no longer sleep with younger men, general consensus between these woman was that younger mens style of sex was "As hard and as fast for as long as they can" and if she didn't do anal she was uptight and a bad lay. Totally coombrained.

This seems like cope from women that are aging out and suddenly can't pull the younger high value males that they once could.

 

[peepoopeepoo]

I'm beginning to notice a lot more women complaining about being alone. I hope this means that there are so many more men like me who have walked away. In my blackened heart it gives me some catharsis. I know women will never understand what they did but their loneliness does bring me some joy I must admit.

This sounds like cope, men's loneliness is different than women's. They are alone because their options are not up to their surreal standards, not because they were autistic invisible schizos their whole life. lol