As soon as one finds you attractive, it's like this giant green light for other girls. Humans are fucking weird like that.
I have plenty of experience with this and it's absolutely constant. It's like there's a 6th sense women have when a guy is in a relationship and they go out of their way to try and ruin it. It's a power thing to them.
love language was physical touch. I miss talking to him cause he was a friend before a "lover". I'm honest to God starting to think I just settled for the first guy who gave me attention and I'm constantly torn about if I even picked the correct person. I am not sane or normal as I picked an already married man. I'm a mess.
Love language doesn't exist. You need to drop it ASAP. The whole idea of love language is retarded. Slapping these labels on things will only make it harder for you to find a partner. Thinking of what you like in a relationship in a categorical sense will only block out potential options because you're trying to make criteria instead of just going with the flow. The retard who made up this concept has no idea how negatively he impacted women's ability to find relationships. Women love organizing and filtering things out and creating a concept to filter out men in potential relationships based on interactivity before you even know a person is a fucking NIGHTMARE for dating. People don't change, but the way you interact with each other is one thing that does change. Throwing out potential partners right off the bat based of nebulous factors that are constantly in flux is one of the worst things you could possibly do for your dating prospects.
Also, don't pick married men. Even if they choose you, they're probably talking to 3 others. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
Most of the male figures in my life have been garbage husbands (cheating, neglecting or being abusive) .
So I am pretty reluctant to invest myself too much. I don't want to make the same mistakes as them so I take my time. (24)
I know you don't want to hear this, but a lot of women
LIKE this stuff. You really have to pay close attention to a partner's home life but if her parents are dysfunctional, she'll be dysfunctional because she thinks that's the norm. If you try to be Mr. Perfect, she'll run a fucking train on your life. Women from broken homes are like broken toys, they're addicted to the chaos and if you try to give them order and normalcy, they'll ruin it because they think they don't deserve it and they like the dysfunction. That's why you see so many women bending over backwards for literal gutter trash tier men.
Nobody teaches women these days how they should be treated. Their parents sure AF don't.
The ones from small towns just seem low IQ so that's unattractive as well.
Stop putting emphasis on IQ. No woman will ever seem smart to you because men and women think differently. If you're looking for an "intellectual equal" you won't find it. Just find someone you enjoy being around. Everything else just comes in time. Intelligence isn't everything. Just find someone who shares your ideals and values.
I like being standoffish and against thenl grain.
That's not what I would call a good quality. I know lots of men like this, but I think you're very mistaken. Standoffish women are nice until they inevitably turn that nature onto you. And it ALWAYS gets turned on you. Eventually, it gets old and as you get old, you'll find out you like submissive women more. Fighting is exhausting.