why are you still single - and general discussion of the dating game

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I think it’s more of if you’re taken, then you must be worth having. They may view that as evidence you’re not a pervert or violent. Obviously that’s not necessarily true, but it might explain their thought process.
It's the truth and I speak from somewhat limited experience. My current GF glommed onto me pretty hard after I friendzoned her when we first met because I was already seeing another girl (I was transparent about it too). After it didn't work out with the last chick she said "I just had a feeling it wouldn't work out with you and her".

As soon as one finds you attractive, it's like this giant green light for other girls. Humans are fucking weird like that.
 
I'm not single, I plan on being married.

My issue is I don't exactly feel loved or happy 100%. I admit I chase(d) short term happiness like junk food habit because it made brain go "haha". Same thing applies to horny encounters.
BTW I'm overweight, got depression, was given two super shitty father figures (biological father & step father), introverted as all hell, wore headphones / long-sleeved jacket / chest binder for short periods. Hell before my first real job I was a NEET for at least six years, talking to random people online. I meet this one guy and had basically chatted to him a few years and wanted to meet and be with him. My issue with that guy was long distance and my love language was physical touch. I miss talking to him cause he was a friend before a "lover". I'm honest to God starting to think I just settled for the first guy who gave me attention and I'm constantly torn about if I even picked the correct person. I am not sane or normal as I picked an already married man. I'm a mess.
 
I'm not single, I plan on being married.

My issue is I don't exactly feel loved or happy 100%. I admit I chase(d) short term happiness like junk food habit because it made brain go "haha". Same thing applies to horny encounters.
BTW I'm overweight, got depression, was given two super shitty father figures (biological father & step father), introverted as all hell, wore headphones / long-sleeved jacket / chest binder for short periods. Hell before my first real job I was a NEET for at least six years, talking to random people online. I meet this one guy and had basically chatted to him a few years and wanted to meet and be with him. My issue with that guy was long distance and my love language was physical touch. I miss talking to him cause he was a friend before a "lover". I'm honest to God starting to think I just settled for the first guy who gave me attention and I'm constantly torn about if I even picked the correct person. I am not sane or normal as I picked an already married man. I'm a mess.
just warning you now so it might hurt less later. if he was willing to jump from his wife to you, he won't hesitate to drop you for the next thing that catches his eye either. have some self respect. you're a door mat right now and setting yourself up for a lot of pain
 
I do get your point. But I still think there is no wall, women will always have options, options that are reduced in quality, but that's it.

Financial security will still come from taxation and the state redistributing wealth through social programs.
Alright perhaps I am coping somewhat, they can use the government (aka our tax money) for financial support instead of us. But at the very least there is one thing the government can't offer and that is company. We can survive alone, women who don't manage to put a ring on Chad go insane, and if there are less beta orbiters around then they have a modicum more chance of being lonely.

@Party Hat Wurmple You run into the secondary issue though in that any outsider woman brought into contact with western women will very quickly be corrupted and start displaying traits of hypergamy and toxicity.
 
Most of the male figures in my life have been garbage husbands (cheating, neglecting or being abusive) .

So I am pretty reluctant to invest myself too much. I don't want to make the same mistakes as them so I take my time. (24)

My brother has the same mindset.

Just wanted to say this is a good mindset to have, knowing others mistakes allows you to avoid them. I made a lot of stupid decisions early in life that educated me later.

Put that those lessons into practice you will have a good healthy relationship.
 
I replied before but I'm waiting for these sleep pills to kick in.

I honestly don't find anyone interesting, I actually dislike most women, I don't want them in my car, my home, don't want to waste my time or money on them, and don't like giving them attention.

It's weird because it's very easy for me to start a conversation and most of the time, it's women who show interest in me first, I just flat out don't care about them.

I'm straight as an arrow, I just don't respect women. I find them annoying and retarded 90% of the time.
 
I replied before but I'm waiting for these sleep pills to kick in.

I honestly don't find anyone interesting, I actually dislike most women, I don't want them in my car, my home, don't want to waste my time or money on them, and don't like giving them attention.

It's weird because it's very easy for me to start a conversation and most of the time, it's women who show interest in me first, I just flat out don't care about them.

I'm straight as an arrow, I just don't respect women. I find them annoying and retarded 90% of the time.
You know, I've posted in this thread multiple times coming up with reason after reason why I am single and I think your answer is the closest to the truth to why I am single though we have our own seperate experiences with women and whatnot. The women in my area are just boring as all hell and average to boot. They're just your typical valley girl: they're nothing special nor interesting. If given the chance, I would fuck them but I wouldn't pursue an actual relationship with them. They are just too dull, idiotic and boring to be around for too long.
 
I'm not single, I plan on being married.

My issue is I don't exactly feel loved or happy 100%. I admit I chase(d) short term happiness like junk food habit because it made brain go "haha". Same thing applies to horny encounters.
BTW I'm overweight, got depression, was given two super shitty father figures (biological father & step father), introverted as all hell, wore headphones / long-sleeved jacket / chest binder for short periods. Hell before my first real job I was a NEET for at least six years, talking to random people online. I meet this one guy and had basically chatted to him a few years and wanted to meet and be with him. My issue with that guy was long distance and my love language was physical touch. I miss talking to him cause he was a friend before a "lover". I'm honest to God starting to think I just settled for the first guy who gave me attention and I'm constantly torn about if I even picked the correct person. I am not sane or normal as I picked an already married man. I'm a mess.
whats the age difference?
 
You know, I've posted in this thread multiple times coming up with reason after reason why I am single and I think your answer is the closest to the truth to why I am single though we have our own seperate experiences with women and whatnot. The women in my area are just boring as all hell and average to boot. They're just your typical valley girl: they're nothing special nor interesting. If given the chance, I would fuck them but I wouldn't pursue an actual relationship with them. They are just too dull, idiotic and boring to be around for too long.

I'm in a blue city in a red state. The city women all act alike and look alike to me. The ones from small towns just seem low IQ so that's unattractive as well.

Another thing I noticed is how they think they're all special and often kind of uppity but if I look deeper into them, they're insecure and insecurity is a turn off.

Then there's the single mothers who are an absolute no. If they're stupid enough to get knocked up before getting married, it tells me that they're stupid and can't make good decisions. Why would I want that in my life?

White women are the only race I am physically attracted to, but they're brainwashed and too agreeable. I'm the exact opposite, I like being standoffish and against thenl grain.
 
I'm in a blue city in a red state. The city women all act alike and look alike to me. The ones from small towns just seem low IQ so that's unattractive as well.
Same here. I will say the small town women are nice and generally agreeable, but they are far from what I want in a woman.

Another thing I noticed is how they think they're all special and often kind of uppity but if I look deeper into them, they're insecure and insecurity is a turn off.
Because the pride of a modern woman isn't being good at a task or career, like being a violinist or housekeeper. It's just being the meanest girl out of the bunch. It's gay , retarded and infantile. Most women have the mental acumen of a teenager and never grow out of it. Why woukd I want to babysit someone else's grown up kid, especially when I plan on having kids with her? Manchildren are turnoffs to sane women just the same way womanchildren are to sane men.


Then there's the single mothers who are an absolute no. If they're stupid enough to get knocked up before getting married, it tells me that they're stupid and can't make good decisions. Why would I want that in my life?
Absolutely. Speaks for itself really.


White women are the only race I am physically attracted to, but they're brainwashed and too agreeable.
I don't care about race so much although I'm more partial to Asian or half-Asian chicks. Regardless, I've noticed that this valley girl mentality is very much universal among young women and it really is a massive turn off. Nothing is more boner killing than a woman that doesn't know basic house-management skills, has zero talent or personality and whom I literally have nothing in common with in terma of interests. That's not even counting the physical and emotional incompatibilities that most women seem to exhibit when it comes to men.

I really do think that most men aren't happy with modern women, but they are so cucked, they'll just grin and bear it rather than making it known that something is dreadfully wrong.
 
You know, I've posted in this thread multiple times coming up with reason after reason why I am single and I think your answer is the closest to the truth to why I am single though we have our own seperate experiences with women and whatnot. The women in my area are just boring as all hell and average to boot. They're just your typical valley girl: they're nothing special nor interesting. If given the chance, I would fuck them but I wouldn't pursue an actual relationship with them. They are just too dull, idiotic and boring to be around for too long.


For some odd reason, I can't quote your latest post so I quoted this one again.

Honestly I'd be happy with a girl who was a bit weird but didn't make it her entire personality, like the "lulz I'm so quirky, isn't it great?"

I messed with this girl not too long ago and we got along great. She could cook, and she was weird in her ways, thinking she was a Wiccan and did some weird astrology bullshit but she was sweet and kept it to herself. Her only drawback is that she was approaching 30 and still staying at her girlfriends houses until 3am on weekdays and drank too often and often too much and babysitting a drunk isn't fun.

I should probably look for one who is a veterinarian or works with animals, they tend to have big hearts and less selfish. Guess it's time to volunteer at an animal shelter again.
 
You run into the secondary issue though in that any outsider woman brought into contact with western women will very quickly be corrupted and start displaying traits of hypergamy and toxicity.
Not if they have a vehement hatred for it. Women aren't dumb. They see the writing on the wall. They know men don't like female American culture and if they want to keep their American husband, they won't acquiesce. A good foreign woman isn't going to magically succumb to feminism. In reality what happens is foreign woman will use meal tickets to monkey branch. But if you're going to Passport Bro and you don't see this coming, or see signs it might come, then that's on you.
 
Honestly I'd be happy with a girl who was a bit weird but didn't make it her entire personality, like the "lulz I'm so quirky, isn't it great?"
My only gf was like that. She talked about how hardcore she was for watching that new Rammstein music video that was also a porno shoot (this was around 2007). I couldn't help but laugh at her a bit, but it was endearing. She was also a massive weeaboo and always carried a rolling suitcase to all of her classes. Got really embarrassed when I mad dumb sex jokes but still laughed anyway. We only really split up due to me going out of the country for my first year of high school and we never saw each other after that, even when I came back. Sucks, but I'll always treasure I had with her.


Generally, I like women that wear their eccentricities with pride and don't hide who they really are in addition to being intelligent, thoughtful, caring and sweet and not making what makes them different center stage. Most girls know how put on the appearance of that but they rarely ever do it well. It's only gotten worse as time has moved on and social media masks everything with this false appearances. Unforrunately, I'm in a graduate program right now, so I'm not really looking super deeply. But if I happen upon a single chick like that, I will snag her up ASAP.
 
As soon as one finds you attractive, it's like this giant green light for other girls. Humans are fucking weird like that.
I have plenty of experience with this and it's absolutely constant. It's like there's a 6th sense women have when a guy is in a relationship and they go out of their way to try and ruin it. It's a power thing to them.

love language was physical touch. I miss talking to him cause he was a friend before a "lover". I'm honest to God starting to think I just settled for the first guy who gave me attention and I'm constantly torn about if I even picked the correct person. I am not sane or normal as I picked an already married man. I'm a mess.
Love language doesn't exist. You need to drop it ASAP. The whole idea of love language is retarded. Slapping these labels on things will only make it harder for you to find a partner. Thinking of what you like in a relationship in a categorical sense will only block out potential options because you're trying to make criteria instead of just going with the flow. The retard who made up this concept has no idea how negatively he impacted women's ability to find relationships. Women love organizing and filtering things out and creating a concept to filter out men in potential relationships based on interactivity before you even know a person is a fucking NIGHTMARE for dating. People don't change, but the way you interact with each other is one thing that does change. Throwing out potential partners right off the bat based of nebulous factors that are constantly in flux is one of the worst things you could possibly do for your dating prospects.

Also, don't pick married men. Even if they choose you, they're probably talking to 3 others. Once a cheater, always a cheater.

Most of the male figures in my life have been garbage husbands (cheating, neglecting or being abusive) .

So I am pretty reluctant to invest myself too much. I don't want to make the same mistakes as them so I take my time. (24)
I know you don't want to hear this, but a lot of women LIKE this stuff. You really have to pay close attention to a partner's home life but if her parents are dysfunctional, she'll be dysfunctional because she thinks that's the norm. If you try to be Mr. Perfect, she'll run a fucking train on your life. Women from broken homes are like broken toys, they're addicted to the chaos and if you try to give them order and normalcy, they'll ruin it because they think they don't deserve it and they like the dysfunction. That's why you see so many women bending over backwards for literal gutter trash tier men.

Nobody teaches women these days how they should be treated. Their parents sure AF don't.

The ones from small towns just seem low IQ so that's unattractive as well.
Stop putting emphasis on IQ. No woman will ever seem smart to you because men and women think differently. If you're looking for an "intellectual equal" you won't find it. Just find someone you enjoy being around. Everything else just comes in time. Intelligence isn't everything. Just find someone who shares your ideals and values.

I like being standoffish and against thenl grain.
That's not what I would call a good quality. I know lots of men like this, but I think you're very mistaken. Standoffish women are nice until they inevitably turn that nature onto you. And it ALWAYS gets turned on you. Eventually, it gets old and as you get old, you'll find out you like submissive women more. Fighting is exhausting.
 
Honestly I'd be happy with a girl who was a bit weird but didn't make it her entire personality, like the "lulz I'm so quirky, isn't it great?"

A lot of women are weird and do weird stuff they just hide it like its a nuclear launch code.

I should probably look for one who is a veterinarian or works with animals, they tend to have big hearts and less selfish. Guess it's time to volunteer at an animal shelter again.

That empathy and compassion is reserved for their own children, puppies, and cute things etc. Gender relationship dynamics still apply they'll still have zero compassion for you or the shit they do to you and cause in your life.

Eventually, it gets old and as you get old, you'll find out you like submissive women more. Fighting is exhausting

Outside of the days of women starving to death on the streets without their husbands or fathers, women are not submissive. It's acting and it's also exhausting because it's manipulative bullshit designed to make you do all the work, all the time and become responsible for everything.

Day comes where doormats turn out not to be doormats and weepy husbands gotta take to the internet to complain about their harrowing, hellish divorce and how hard they got fucked and had "no idea" it was coming. Whether it's in public, your office, your home or a back ally BDSM club submissive women are a dime a dozen. Every woman is going to pretend to be a submissive woman for the right incentive, and once they get it you'll get it. If they are baseline acting like cunts that is more in line with the truth of what they are than the June Cleaver ballgag routine.
 
Stop putting emphasis on IQ. No woman will ever seem smart to you because men and women think differently. If you're looking for an "intellectual equal" you won't find it. Just find someone you enjoy being around. Everything else just comes in time. Intelligence isn't everything. Just find someone who shares your ideals and values.
100% agree if you want a witty intellectual equal, you're better off dating a man or a tranny and I am barely joking.

Very few women can really fufill a man in that aspect.

I know you don't want to hear this, but a lot of women LIKE this stuff. You really have to pay close attention to a partner's home life but if her parents are dysfunctional, she'll be dysfunctional because she thinks that's the norm. If you try to be Mr. Perfect, she'll run a fucking train on your life. Women from broken homes are like broken toys, they're addicted to the chaos and if you try to give them order and normalcy, they'll ruin it because they think they don't deserve it and they like the dysfunction. That's why you see so many women bending over backwards for literal gutter trash tier men.

Nobody teaches women these days how they should be treated. Their parents sure AF don't.
Maybe but children don't like this stuff seeing my dad neglect and cheat on my mom marked me as a child and teen.
I am seeing the same thing done to my nephew and that shit feels bad man.

I wanna be better.
 
Outside of the days of women starving to death on the streets without their husbands or fathers, women are not submissive. It's acting and it's also exhausting because it's manipulative bullshit designed to make you do all the work, all the time and become responsible for everything.
Well I guess you've never experienced it, but there ARE women who will bend over backwards and tolerate nearly ANYTHING for the right guy. You've clearly never seen this. It's not an act. They'll genuinely do anything for those men that they pair bond with. That's what you want to be with. Be with the women who sees you as the prize. Not some argumentative cunt bag.

Day comes where doormats turn out not to be doormats and weepy husbands gotta take to the internet to complain about their harrowing, hellish divorce and how hard they got fucked and had "no idea" it was coming. Whether it's in public, your office, your home or a back ally BDSM club submissive women are a dime a dozen. Every woman is going to pretend to be a submissive woman for the right incentive, and once they get it you'll get it. If they are baseline acting like cunts that is more in line with the truth of what they are than the June Cleaver ballgag routine.
That's on you for not talking to them and not being more vigilant. Okay, if you think some argumentative cuntbag is a better idea, and you enjoy being treated like shit, go for it man. I hope you enjoy constantly fighting with your partner.
 
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