This is why nobody can have this conversation, because when you try to explain the difference between a little girl and a developed woman, it comes off like you know a bit too much about little girls and it sounds like you're a creep. It's the pedophilia vs. hebephilia thing, it never helps when you try to explain it, no matter how much sense it might make.
Also I don't know why you started that post as if you were creating a counterargument to me, I agree with everything you posted and nothing I said was in contention with you. I was referring to the rather large crowd of twitterites and redditors who think they're funny for pointing out the "pedophilia" and "creepiness" about someone's waifu being a (strangely well developed) 16 year old high school girl from a 2008 anime; one that particular person likely saw when they were around the same age as the character. Of course, these are the people who are FUCKING RETARDED as you mentioned, but this ignorant attitude is widespread among zoomers in particular.